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Tell your mother to seek professional, psychological help.
Quickly.
:ditto: Your mum really needs help. She's clearly got some serious issues.
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Yikes...do you have any grandparents...your poor grandmother will be next
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Hey, thanks for the support guys, I've been feeling so alone in this, I feel so ashamed I can't even bring myself to talk about it.

He's my biological father.

I'm 22, I can't afford to move out unfortunetely. This has been going on for a few years now so I don't think a couple of nights at a friends house will resolve anything. Until I have enough money to move I'm stuck here.

But thanks, just to here other people agree with me that she is disturbing puts me at ease.

It's like she has some personal vendetta against him, she once told me she saw him coming out of my room in the night, but it was lies I know it was.

anyway thanks. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks she's a nut.
Dont worry might be the other side of the comp but we'll be here
Try to move to to another family member house
Tell them whats happening and live there until its resolved.

Seriously she is disturbed in the head and is sick to even comtemplate that with your dad
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Yes, he knows about it, although it's me she mainly goes to. I'm not going to give any more examples as some people here are accusing me of being a troll already. I guess it's so disgusting I don't really blame anyone for thinking I'm making this up.

Anyway, he said that she was being irritational and like others have said here that she is disturbed, but as I said she openly confronts me and not him.

She doesn't do this all the time, sometimes she's completely neutral and will go for weeks without saying anything then other times it will start again, and she'll make the odd comment that she thinks will give a simplie 'yes or no' answer but it upsets me for days... weeks after.
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Yes, he knows about it, although it's me she mainly goes to. I'm not going to give any more examples as some people here are accusing me of being a troll already. I guess it's so disgusting I don't really blame anyone for thinking I'm making this up.

Anyway, he said that she was being irritational and like others have said here that she is disturbed, but as I said she openly confronts me and not him.

She doesn't do this all the time, sometimes she's completely neutral and will go for weeks without saying anything then other times it will start again, and she'll make the odd comment that she thinks will give a simplie 'yes or no' answer but it upsets me for days... weeks after.
I only asked if it was a troll because it seemed so unbelieveable..your mum needs some help...
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Yes, he knows about it, although it's me she mainly goes to. I'm not going to give any more examples as some people here are accusing me of being a troll already. I guess it's so disgusting I don't really blame anyone for thinking I'm making this up.

Anyway, he said that she was being irritational and like others have said here that she is disturbed, but as I said she openly confronts me and not him.

She doesn't do this all the time, sometimes she's completely neutral and will go for weeks without saying anything then other times it will start again, and she'll make the odd comment that she thinks will give a simplie 'yes or no' answer but it upsets me for days... weeks after.
I'm not surprised - this is obviously really stressful for you. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? (just so I can get a better idea of what options you have). Also, is there a responsible adult you trust that you could talk to about this? A family member or friend, or a tutor or doctor?
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She's 22, like she said. Sounds like an awful situation, not only is your dad unfaithful and sort of seedy, but to be accused by your mother is pretty rough. I hope things get better!
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who the hell accuses ANYONE of incestual relations without irrefutable proof, let alone their own daughter. That's really messed up, and your Mum is completely loco. Get the hell out of there ASAP.
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hes 22
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(Original post by fleur de lis)
I'm not surprised - this is obviously really stressful for you. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? (just so I can get a better idea of what options you have). Also, is there a responsible adult you trust that you could talk to about this? A family member or friend, or a tutor or doctor?
She said she's 22.

OP, I'm sorry you are in such a situation. Your mum is obviously trying to block out the fact that your dad is sleeping with someone/some people behind her back.

You need to tell your mum how upset she is making you. She really must have a twisted mind to think that you are having an incestuous relationship. Does your dad know about all this? He should be told IMO.

Good luck.
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I think you're mum is just struggling to accept that your dad saw a prostitute - it must be pretty difficult for her to take. I'm not justifying her suggestion that you're involved, I think it's her only way of dealing with it.
Can I suggest, however difficult this sounds, you should try to sit down as a family and talk about it openly?
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Jeremy Kyle has just pricked up his ears
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There is no one. I just cant trust anyone. To be honest I just want to forget this all happened and move away from here but I can't, it's just too expensive to rent and we're not really on good terms with extended family so that's not an option. Put it this way I can't even remember the last time I spoke to my cousins.

I'm 22 and I work full time although I'm not on a good salary and I don't have many options open.

I should be in a financially better position in a year after I have saved and can put down a deposit but not right now.
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If you can't afford to move out, apply for an emergency council house or something, some kind of provision for this kind of situation must exist??
write your mum and dad letters telling them your feelings if you can't talk to them. Nobody should be forced to remain in a situation like this
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If you cant afford it try and stay with a friend or family member, surely theyll understand. You should deffinatly tell another family member whats going on. Maybe they can talk to them for you.
Hope your okay.
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Sorry, I missed the bit where you said you were 22 You need someone like a social worker or something to help you sort out some living arrangements and see about whether you're entitled to any benefits. They'd be able to help you with a council house application too.
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This is absolutely disgusting and it repulses me to even think about it. I'm even embarrassed to say this...

My Dad who I add is almost 60 appears to be sexually active and is buying pornographic material and then hiding it, unfortunetely my mum then finds them and then after looking at all the pictures herself, as I have seen her do on several occasions, then proceeds to put it in the trash and call him a pervert...

:rolleyes:

basically the real problem lies here...

It has gotten so bad, that he has resorted to taking viagra tablets, which my mum keeps finding. As my mum and him are not sexually involved as she tells me all the time, she finds it bizarre that he would take them unless he was seeing someone else, and guess who she thinks this someone else might be? :rolleyes: Yes, that's right, you guessed it. Me. Gross or what?

She asked me openly yesterday if I was having sex with him, after she went to work came back in the night and saw a viagra tablet on their shared bed but to cut a long story short he went to see a prostitute, after I told her this she said 'Oh I'm sorry, you're my baby, it's him I don't trust'.

'Yeah right'.

She keeps making comments like when me & and him are in the same room and she leaves to do the shopping, she'll say, 'I bet you're glad I'm going now, so you can have fun?' WTF?

I do not feel like sharing too much information on here because although I am posting as anonymous I have so far been dealing with this by blocking it out of my mind but I have realised this pent up anger and resentment isn't helping me at all so I need to know how others would deal with this in my situation.

How would you feel personally if this even happened to you? I actually feel queasy around her and no longer trust her for thinking I could do such perveted thingS, the fact that these are the sort of thoughts she is having about me quite frankly scares me... and I actually feel exteremely distrustful of her now.
I just wonder if your father is masturbating again but can't get an erection? Sorry didnt read it all. I would say to your mum to stop being so immature and to take a reality check ASAP.
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Your mother may be inappropriate in how she is asking this but it does happen and she may be worried about you and seeking to prevent him abusing you. Sit down and talk to her, assure her you are okay and nothing is going on and suggest they need to get some help and leave you out of it. Lots of women turn a blind when their children are being abused and this abuse can go on into adult life. Don't take this as you mom being mad or not caring, unless there is more you aren't saying.
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just get the hell out
tell them and et out get them to put you up for a couple of months or so
at work - work a few more extra hours and cut down the social life with the nights out
if thats not an option then emergency housing is an option
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This is absolutely disgusting and it repulses me to even think about it. I'm even embarrassed to say this...

My Dad who I add is almost 60 appears to be sexually active and is buying pornographic material and then hiding it, unfortunetely my mum then finds them and then after looking at all the pictures herself, as I have seen her do on several occasions, then proceeds to put it in the trash and call him a pervert...

:rolleyes:

basically the real problem lies here...

It has gotten so bad, that he has resorted to taking viagra tablets, which my mum keeps finding. As my mum and him are not sexually involved as she tells me all the time, she finds it bizarre that he would take them unless he was seeing someone else, and guess who she thinks this someone else might be? :rolleyes: Yes, that's right, you guessed it. Me. Gross or what?

She asked me openly yesterday if I was having sex with him, after she went to work came back in the night and saw a viagra tablet on their shared bed but to cut a long story short he went to see a prostitute, after I told her this she said 'Oh I'm sorry, you're my baby, it's him I don't trust'.

'Yeah right'.

She keeps making comments like when me & and him are in the same room and she leaves to do the shopping, she'll say, 'I bet you're glad I'm going now, so you can have fun?' WTF?

I do not feel like sharing too much information on here because although I am posting as anonymous I have so far been dealing with this by blocking it out of my mind but I have realised this pent up anger and resentment isn't helping me at all so I need to know how others would deal with this in my situation.

How would you feel personally if this even happened to you? I actually feel queasy around her and no longer trust her for thinking I could do such perveted thingS, the fact that these are the sort of thoughts she is having about me quite frankly scares me... and I actually feel exteremely distrustful of her now.
Your dad seems **** at hiding stuff.
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