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I mean maybe some don't but I feel like the majority are lying.
Is there anyone here that genuinely doesn't? If so, how come?
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I don't even mean when guys ask girls btw.
I'm talking mostly when girls say to other girls that they don't.
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Surely if you think most girls are lying they have no reason to just come out and admit it here right? The logic there is kinda skewed.

But to answer your question, society teaches people (not just girls) that masturbation is not healthy. But especially in the case of girls, they may get shamed for having completely normal sexual urges, and thus want to hide that. Ergo a lot of girls will just say they don't, because it's a much easier response. It's not exactly easy to talk about. Not to mention most of the people even interested in girls masturbation habits are guys. I imagine it's easier to talk to girls about it although there's some fear of being slut shamed. But I imagine there's a lot of concerns that talking to guys about it will be misconstrued as an attempt to get with them. I wouldn't think it normal to discuss a girls masturbation habits with her, but I'd also be somewhat confused if they outright told me as well.

Beyond all that though, it's just really damn awkward, no matter who you talk with. Masturbation is a generally private thing you discuss with at best your close partner (or a wider audience if so inclined). It's not something a lot of people will just discuss because it simply isn't anyone else's business.

Not being a female I can't speak from experience though, so if someone has a better explanation please correct me.
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Who knows? dudes talk so openly about jerking off it's pretty weird that such vast differences in attitude still exist.

Feminists are right. Deal with it.
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Why should we even ask them? Who cares if they 'flick the bean' or not?
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Why do youcare so much?
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Who cares if they 'flick the bean' or not?
Modern euphemisms are getting dumber every time I hear them.
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Surely if you think most girls are lying they have no reason to just come out and admit it here right? The logic there is kinda skewed.
I'm not asking girls who masturbate to come on here and say it. I was asking the girls who don't to state their reasons (genuinely curious). As girls don't seem to have a problem saying they don't masturbate so I figured people may be willing to share why. I don't see why girls would lie on here because it's kind of anonymous. It's in real life with friends when they all claim they don't.
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Feel like there's a lot of stigma around female masturbation, probably because in general, a female talking openly about her sexuality and sexual urges is viewed as her being a "slut" by society.

I guess it depends how comfortable you feel with your girl friends to talk about something that is actually quite a private thing.

Me and my friends are quite open with each other about these things, because none of us see it as something to be ashamed of.

Have a good day!
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Surely if you think most girls are lying they have no reason to just come out and admit it here right? The logic there is kinda skewed.

But to answer your question, society teaches people (not just girls) that masturbation is not healthy. But especially in the case of girls, they may get shamed for having completely normal sexual urges, and thus want to hide that. Ergo a lot of girls will just say they don't, because it's a much easier response. It's not exactly easy to talk about. Not to mention most of the people even interested in girls masturbation habits are guys. I imagine it's easier to talk to girls about it although there's some fear of being slut shamed. But I imagine there's a lot of concerns that talking to guys about it will be misconstrued as an attempt to get with them. I wouldn't think it normal to discuss a girls masturbation habits with her, but I'd also be somewhat confused if they outright told me as well.

Beyond all that though, it's just really damn awkward, no matter who you talk with. Masturbation is a generally private thing you discuss with at best your close partner (or a wider audience if so inclined). It's not something a lot of people will just discuss because it simply isn't anyone else's business.

Not being a female I can't speak from experience though, so if someone has a better explanation please correct me.

The reason why I ask is because guys are so open about masturbation and sex. Girls are also quite open about sex when talking to their close friends but so many deny that they masturbate. Contributing to the idea that it's taboo.
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I'm not asking girls who masturbate to come on here and say it. I was asking the girls who don't to state their reasons (genuinely curious). As girls don't seem to have a problem saying they don't masturbate so I figured people may be willing to share why. I don't see why girls would lie on here because it's kind of anonymous. It's in real life with friends when they all claim they don't.
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the curiosity. But it still doesn't make sense logically. Despite the anonymity, you're asking people who don't admit to masturbating to explain why they won't admit it, which by definition means they admit they masturbate and goes against the whole "won't admit it" thing.

Despite anonymity, there's still plenty of things that people won't talk about. Ignoring the fact that I don't even trust the anonymity system here, there are a bunch of things I'd never talk about openly online.

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The reason why I ask is because guys are so open about masturbation and sex. Girls are also quite open about sex when talking to their close friends but so many deny that they masturbate. Contributing to the idea that it's taboo.
I somewhat disagree. I don't think guys are really open about sex and masturbation. A lot more guys are open to making sexual jokes and slurs and a lot more guys are open to bragging about sex but I don't hear many guys actually talking about sex and masturbation. In general I don't hear people discussing it.

I also feel (without trying to be disrespectful) that there are different types of people who will openly discuss it. For example guys (or girls) who are out on a Friday night to get laid are more likely to socialise with other people of that type. Thus they will be more likely to talk about it or even help each other out. It's a stereotypical jump to make but I don't see that steretype frequenting TSR.

To extend that though, how can you say guys do talk about masturbation frequently and girls don't? With all due respect, I don't imagine you have a large sample size. I'm going to assume it's a guy asking, how do you know girls aren't telling other girls about masturbation? Not trying to sound like an ass but the entire premise of the question sounds like it's based on flawed assumptions and tiny sample sizes. Granted, I don't exactly have a lot of experience discussing masturbation with either gender but from what I understand, neither one is particularly forward in initiating real conversation.

Of course if this is something you're really interested in, you aren't the first asking this question. It's been asked many times before so have a read around and you'll find some answers. I'm hesitant to say you'll get much help here, because no matter how much you say you're just interested, I'm sure a lot of girls will pass because it looks pervy.

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=wh...7CFqTVXuTnvIgI

EDIT: Unrelated side note, not sure how I feel about being able to comfortably write paragraphs regarding the mysteries of the female mind and female masturbation habits on a Saturday night. I probably have better things to do. How did I even get here...
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How many guys do you know that are past the age of 13 and actually discuss how their latest masturbation session was?

Also, why is it anyone's business? I'm a girl and rarely talk to my friends about their sex lifes and its not because it's taboo, it's because unless it's a some scandalous affair, I really don't care that much. I care even less about what they are home alone and beneath the sheets and don't need any updates either.
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i genuinely don't and i think in genral boys masturbate more cos its easier/simpler for them to do it....
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I mean maybe some don't but I feel like the majority are lying.
Is there anyone here that genuinely doesn't? If so, how come?
Is there a chance that it is true that the majority of girls don't?
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Modern euphemisms are getting dumber every time I hear them.
I doubt that's a very modern one, relatively speaking
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How many guys do you know that are past the age of 13 and actually discuss how their latest masturbation session was?

Also, why is it anyone's business? I'm a girl and rarely talk to my friends about their sex lifes and its not because it's taboo, it's because unless it's a some scandalous affair, I really don't care that much. I care even less about what they are home alone and beneath the sheets and don't need any updates either.

it is pretty hilarious to think that men talk about jacking off 24/7, everyone would see it as pretty strange if you started talking about what you did, the most people get is I like X or Y and yeah I jack off
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I doubt that's a very modern one, relatively speaking
You're probably right, I don't tend to hear a lot of sexual euphemisms nowadays. I was going to google it to try and find an actual date, then decided that was a dumb idea. But it's amazing that Google is able to give results for "first recorded use of flicking the bean"
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It's in real life with friends when they all claim they don't.
Because it's private. They don't want you to have this information about them. It's crossing the boundaries of your relationship.
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You're probably right, I don't tend to hear a lot of sexual euphemisms nowadays. I was going to google it to try and find an actual date, then decided that was a dumb idea. But it's amazing that Google is able to give results for "first recorded use of flicking the bean"
Google can give you an answer for almost anything - yet it's amazing how many people on TSR seem to be incapable of using it before posting new threads.
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Google can give you an answer for almost anything - yet it's amazing how many people on TSR seem to be incapable of using it before posting new threads.
It's a human condition, not a problem on TSR. Get a group of people anywhere and they'll ask questions that Google can provide an answer to. This extends to real life
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