The Student Room Group

Do We Tell Him?

A friend of mine likes a girl at uni, lets call her Jane. Last night she was with my friend flirting etc all night at a house party. However she then ended up very drunk after my friend had left and kissed/most likely had sex with another mutual friend after the the original friend had left.
Sorry if that was confusing. However, do we tell the original friend that the girl he likes got off with another guy? Especially since this other guy is a friend of us all?
Thanks!
zooop
A friend of mine likes a girl at uni, lets call her Jane. Last night she was with my friend flirting etc all night at a house party. However she then ended up very drunk after my friend had left and kissed/most likely had sex with another mutual friend after the the original friend had left.
Sorry if that was confusing. However, do we tell the original friend that the girl he likes got off with another guy? Especially since this other guy is a friend of us all?
Thanks!

Find him another girl. Problemo solved.
Do you mean

Mr X likes Jane, she was with your friend "Mark" then ended up having possible sex with him then MR X left.

Is that what you mean and you want to know whether Mr X should be told about Mark.
Since Mr X is all you peoples friend.


Does Jane talk to Mr X, (i.e.) Your friend?
Mr X should find someone else to like just like hopping mad kangaroo said.

(If I have confused the lot of you its only because I was trying to understand myself)
hehe :biggrin:
Reply 3
i would say its up to the friend to tell him.
Reply 4
God this could have been summed up with "My friends girlfriend cheated with another of our friends, should we tell him?".

Yeah, you should.
Reply 5
Shes not his girlfriend, it seems. He just likes her.
Reply 6
ah but they arent a couple so its not cheating

which does complicate matters

I would say to try and push him towards someone else instead of just telling him
Reply 7
damn, just beat me!!! lol
Let me see if I have this right. Your friend merely likes 'Jane', and your friend and Jane flirted last night. Your friend left the party without Jane (which sounds like an incredibly stupid move to me, especially since she was evidently on the prowl). Jane flirts and goes home with another guy instead. You want to know what you should tell your friend?

If your friend is extremely interested in her I would tell him, since I would like to know if the girl I was smitten with got with another guy. That said, just because he likes her and she flirts with him doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her finding a new 'friend' once he leaves, i.e. turns her down for the night. It sounds like he blew it by leaving the party to me...
Reply 9
I wouldn't. Que sera, sera etc.
maybe jane was drunk and didn't know what she was doing.
but if she wasn't, then maybe you should talk to her before telling your friend.
you're not sure they had sex. what if they didn't and just passed out after lots of kissing? find out first before you make assumptions and tell. or simply don't say anything, just warn your mate to be careful as you have a bad feeling. simple.
Reply 12
i wouldnt tell him. did she know he liked her?
zooop
A friend of mine likes a girl at uni, lets call her Jane. Last night she was with my friend flirting etc all night at a house party. However she then ended up very drunk after my friend had left and kissed/most likely had sex with another mutual friend after the the original friend had left.
Sorry if that was confusing. However, do we tell the original friend that the girl he likes got off with another guy? Especially since this other guy is a friend of us all?
Thanks!

Hello there! Mind your own business. Toodles.
Well she was drunk so it doesn't matter