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All I can think about is sex is that bad?

So I'm a 22 year old female, I have never had sex , but it seems to be all I can think about. I will literally be sitting in my lecture at uni and day dreaming about a guy I may find attractive and doing stuff, weird right. It's never happened for me, I'm not the type to sleep with a guy from a night out or one night stand, I most probably would with a friend or boyfriend but I have no guy friends or boyfriend lol... so I'm stuck day dreaming....tbh I really bad with boys.

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tbh I'm the same.. like I'd automatically start thinking about sex in lectures.. I'm attracted to guys and girls. mainly girls. (21 year old female). I'm a virgin and wouldn't sleep around either tbh..

I dunno if it's normal or not lol. but glad to know I'm not the only one who randomly starts thinking about sex lol
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Original post by Anonymous
tbh I'm the same.. like I'd automatically start thinking about sex in lectures.. I'm attracted to guys and girls. mainly girls. (21 year old female). I'm a virgin and wouldn't sleep around either tbh..

I dunno if it's normal or not lol. but glad to know I'm not the only one who randomly starts thinking about sex lol


lol I'm glad I'm not the only girl in her 20's still a virgin, everyone I know finds it weird that I am.
Original post by Anonymous
lol I'm glad I'm not the only girl in her 20's still a virgin, everyone I know finds it weird that I am.


Regardless of what everyone says, it's your body. Do with it as you please!! Fxck what everyone else thinks. Don't think you have to lose your virginity just cause everyone else has. Take your time and do it when you feel ready :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
So I'm a 22 year old female, I have never had sex , but it seems to be all I can think about. I will literally be sitting in my lecture at uni and day dreaming about a guy I may find attractive and doing stuff, weird right. It's never happened for me, I'm not the type to sleep with a guy from a night out or one night stand, I most probably would with a friend or boyfriend but I have no guy friends or boyfriend lol... so I'm stuck day dreaming....tbh I really bad with boys.


Boy here feeling the same. It is not that uncommon most my friends are talking about sexual stuff all the time even if it is just jokes but nevertheless they are still thinking about sex.

Neither is being a verging in your 20s uncommon as people think nobody is willing to admit to it
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Original post by Anonymous
Regardless of what everyone says, it's your body. Do with it as you please!! Fxck what everyone else thinks. Don't think you have to lose your virginity just cause everyone else has. Take your time and do it when you feel ready :smile:


Nah I don't care what they say, I'd happily do it now, regardless what they think, but yeah rather do it with someone I know and not a randomer. I know no boys though lol
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Original post by Anonymous
Boy here feeling the same. It is not that uncommon most my friends are talking about sexual stuff all the time even if it is just jokes but nevertheless they are still thinking about sex.

Neither is being a verging in your 20s uncommon as people think nobody is willing to admit to it


Yeah but I feel like it's common for guys to, but none of my girl friends talk about it tbh. I'm nearly 23 :s-smilie:
man, me ****ing too
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Original post by Anonymous
man, me ****ing too


I don't know what it is but I keep daydreaming, I feel like everything's built up inside waiting to come out because I have no one lol.
It's natural to think about sex but honestly don't be ashamed of it, it's a natural thing, alot of people become sexualy active from the age of 16 or even younger but it's a personal thing, you honestly just need to find someone you are comfortable with, start socialising more and opportunities will come
Original post by Anonymous
So I'm a 22 year old female, I have never had sex , but it seems to be all I can think about. I will literally be sitting in my lecture at uni and day dreaming about a guy I may find attractive and doing stuff, weird right. It's never happened for me, I'm not the type to sleep with a guy from a night out or one night stand, I most probably would with a friend or boyfriend but I have no guy friends or boyfriend lol... so I'm stuck day dreaming....tbh I really bad with boys.


It is natural to have such daydreams, and that is not problem, a problem may be because as I can see , you do nothing to change fact? I meen to meet some guy or something like that, go out, use social network, try to meet someone...
Original post by casanova27
It is natural to have such daydreams, and that is not problem, a problem may be because as I can see , you do nothing to change fact? I meen to meet some guy or something like that, go out, use social network, try to meet someone...


I'm absolutely useless in finding boys to hang with me lol
Nope, I always think about sex, either that or food haha.
No it isnt.
ahh this brings back memories. when I was a virgin it was all i could think about as well, really distracted me from my studies too. my every thought was about sex. why on earth should it be a bad thing? its a part of life and human nature. when you are hungry you think about food, tired you think about sleep and horny you think about sex.
Definitely not, I'm a girl and I think about sex a lot of the time! There's so much shame around girls liking sex, masturbating, or just thinking about it. I think that shame is ********, like women have sex and enjoy it people need to get over that.

It's totally cool to fantasise, like if I'm bored on a bus journey or something that's literally all I do lol. It would only be a problem if that fantasising was really affecting you productivity or making you depressed and stuff like that. If that's the case then counselling will help (they won't judge you), but if its not the case then you're good!
As a 20 year old male virgin, I know how you feel.

Especially in the past few months..... at some points I have literally gone through the whole day thinking about the prospect of having sex with a woman.

I think it is only natural though.
It's fairly normal to think about it
Original post by yungaheartz
ahh this brings back memories. when I was a virgin it was all i could think about as well, really distracted me from my studies too. my every thought was about sex. why on earth should it be a bad thing? its a part of life and human nature. when you are hungry you think about food, tired you think about sleep and horny you think about sex.


Would that mean I'm horny all the time, because tbh I think I only think about it when I'm bored or when something is really boring me and I want to escape in my thoughts (lol wild thoughts) then it makes me horny
I'm exactly the same. I'm almost 23 (female), never had actual sex apart from some kinky stuff ages ago, haven't been in a relationship in a few years. I think it's normal tbh I think it's cool to fantasise. But then I wouldn't just have sex with anyone :smile:

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