i hate living at home

i absoloutely hate living at home. i feel like everything i say or do is exaggerated by my parents. for example, for some reason, my and my brothers have never closed our bedroom curtains. they're always open and tied up, a bit like decoration really. anyway, about two months ago i closed them and then just went downstairs on the computer. about 5 mins later, my mum walked downstairs, screaming and shouting at me for closing them. it resulted in a slap in my face. erm, another, when i got rejected from one uni, my dad only said "well of course, you didn't actually think you'd get in did you". and when we were all sitting round the table for christmas dinner, (my brother had just come home from university) and asked me which uni's i thought i'd get into. i answered, and said "dad doesn't think i'll get into manchester though" and my brother asked him "why not?" and in front of everyone my dad just had a go at me saying that i obviously wasn't clever enough to get accepted, and then he had no idea why i'd even bothered trying. my brother got accepted to all his uni's and they always go on about why can't i be more like him. i've tried explaining to them that i've applied to a much more competitive course but all they say is "you should've applied something that suits your level better" or something along those lines. i've always been a good school student so i've no idea why they're being like this. also, since i was 8 years old i was forced into competitive swimming. i had to be in training at 6am, then go straight to school 5 days a week, and then 2 nights a week also. i was constantly shattered, i hated it, had no friends there, i felt as if the coach treated me like s***. after years of begging i was finally allowed to quit- but they still bring it up constantly, saying stuff like i quit everything and i can never keep going at anything. and just now, they both came home from work (yes i know it's a sunday :smile:

) and they asked if i'd already had my tea. i said that i'd just cooked myself some pasta, and "why, were you thinking of getting a take away?". i said it in a nice tone, even with a smile on my face, and they went totally off on one, shouting stuff like "we've been working all day- why do you think that just because you've already had tea we aren't allowed to get a takeaway?!" and more. i just told them i wasn't implying it that way- only asking if they were going to ask if i wanted some takeaway with them or something. i mean, wtf did i do wrong there?!?! i left the room and they were shouting "and i bet she hasn't been studying at all all day" etc, even though i've done hours of maths. and i've also heard them talk about me many times, saying i should lose weight and stuff, saying that boys won't find me attractive. i've also got these weird lines across my cheeks, coming from the inner corner of my eyes, just one line accross each cheek (hard to explain). i asked my mum if there was a cream that could improve them or something, but she just basically said "don't be stupid, it's fat".

ok very sorry for the long essay! they both make me cry constantly, i hate living with them. i don't know WHAT i've done wrong. i wish i could move out. i'm not really expecting any advice, i just really needed to get it all off my chest. :bawling:

Reply 1

death.drop

*huggles*
well at least you'll be off to uni soon and you can get away from it. and it'll be motivation to stick with uni and do well so you'll never have to go back there :biggrin:

Reply 2

Barry Scott

try to avoid them as much as possible and try not to provoke them (not saying you are). You will be leaving soon so concentrate on that. If you can, try to spend as much time as possible out of the house and try to become more independent. Do you drive/have a car? That would help. Just remember, its them, not you.They don't sound like very nice people and I know people say you have to put up with them because they are your parents, you dont have to really; if you need to, argue back or just blank them...it doesnt sound like they are helping you in any way so surely doing this won't do you any harm. Then, maybe they will see the error in their ways

Reply 3

ticos

I sypathise. Just look forward to the time you can afford to leave (keep reminding yourself it's not that long), and the time when your relatioship with your parents will be better because you're not living together. Just try and get out the house as much as possible - meet friends, go for walks, join a club, do your homework in the library, do a course etc.

Reply 4

thegirlinohio

I feel the exact same way, there was a conflict between my mom and i she kept asking be about something that happened a couple months ago and i didnt remember which ended up with her trying to attack me and to defend myself i hit her in the face i didnt mean to but...self defense

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