Falling For People Too Hard

Sometimes things change, people change. Feelings alter. It just fizzled out.

Don't internalise it, these things happen.

As for getting over her, just accept your feelings, ride them out, they'll eventually fade out. Focus on something else, interests, hobbies, keep your mind proactive and productive.

just message her and see how she responds because at the end of the day she could be feeling the same way🤷🏼*♂️

I do so much stuff haha, which tbf does give me time w/o thinking of her but when I am revising or preparing for tutorials it is easy to be bored and it all comes flooding back

Allow it to 'flood back' - it's a process. Once you stop fighting it and accept it, the 'flooding back' will lessen its affect on you. It's what you do about it, your human at the end of the day.

Lifes not what happened to you but what you do about it.

I do am but then a couple of hours pass and it's time wasted contemplating what could have been

I'm not needy when in relationships or when starting to date someone, or at least not openly. 😂
But once it is over for one reason or another, a couple of times now I have been affected by it for weeks after and catch myself sitting thinking about it all.
Recently for example, me and this girl really clicked and a few weeks in she replied to a message something like sorry I didn't see this but didn't respond to what I said which was asking if fancied doing something. She liked me and even brought up the whole what are we, us etc. Questions but it went downhill from there (thought she didn't want to stuff or needed space when she didn't reply to going to do something), in the end I said I said I expected things to go differently and she said me too, was hoping we would be further by now 'but it is me always asking to do stuff so I stopped putting in effort'... that was basically that since we had a mini argument, nothing malicious, she asked if I wanted to meet up and talk properly and I said that Idk what else can be said and she never read that message or responded. She's turned away and avoided me whenever we pass one another these days around campus since, not that I try to stop and talk to her anyway since she stopped talking.
Anyway, in short, I am always thinking about how we hit it off quick, privately and even publicly when she rested her head on me in lectures or skipped towards me as she was happy to see me, ik they are small things but I am finding it hard to get over her, friend I confided in keeps mentioning her too. I am probably just being stupid and venting but any comments or discussions about it are welcome.
Sorry for the novel folks

I used to be exactly the same, I still am in some aspects! Drop me a pm if you want to talk about it mate.

Thanks, think it is worth messaging her again..?