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Do you think there is more pressure to be kinky or sexually adventurous these days?

Even say upto the 90's anally related activities such as anal sex, rimming, facesitting, etc held a significant social stigma/taboo and were considered more deviant behaviours. Similarly for older generations oral sex held quite a lot of taboo and were considered salacious/lascivious activity.

Do you think that in today's day and age where so little is viewed within the scope of being taboo that there is more pressure to be "sexually adventurous"/"open minded"/"kinky"?

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Everything is sexualised nowadays, and there's so much preasure to 'lose your virginity' and so on, so i do think people feel preasured to be kinky
Yes, but who says that’s a bad thing? 😏
Yes there is more pressure
it is similar to food; a few years ago it was a real treat to have a banana. now you can have banana's whenever you like, so you want something more exotic like a pineapple.
No, not really.
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I don't think being adventurous with what one eats can be equated to being sexually adventurous in the same breath, stages emotional development and emotional intelligence don't really matter when it comes to what will tickle your taste buds.
Original post by the bear
it is similar to food; a few years ago it was a real treat to have a banana. now you can have banana's whenever you like, so you want something more exotic like a pineapple.


Christ, i hope someones warned the girls down at De Bananenbar.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't think being adventurous with what one eats can be equated to being sexually adventurous in the same breath, stages emotional development and emotional intelligence don't really matter when it comes to what will tickle your taste buds.


what about drinking ? back in the day there was only a choice between PG Tips & Typhoo tea. nowadays you can have all sorts of beverages based on tea.
but it does not mean that tea drinkers are happier now.
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Original post by the bear
what about drinking ? back in the day there was only a choice between PG Tips & Typhoo tea. nowadays you can have all sorts of beverages based on tea.
but it does not mean that tea drinkers are happier now.


We need to get adventurous with our...tea :sexface: @INTA
yeah
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Original post by Kraggor
We need to get adventurous with our...tea :sexface: @INTA


Cute :h:
I think that sort of thing has become a bit more normal, but I don't think that's the same as there being increased pressure to do it. In general, I think that over the last few decades, people have been putting each other under less pressure to have sex and less pressure to have sex in ways they don't want to. Maybe I'm just an optimist who likes to believe that there's a trend of people becoming nicer and more decent towards each other, but I really feel that that is the case.
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I think with internet porn being so readily available, not having to stand in a newsagent with the old women buying milk to buy a jazz mag, people's eyes are more open to the possibilities. Combined with Victorian and Christian values being less of an issue, young people feel that what they see online as normalised and are more open to try something that a teen in the 80s/90s might not have even known about. Whether that's a good thing or not, I'm not sure, I'd probably say it's good to have a choice but there is more pressure to conform, for sure.
I wouldn't necessarily say there's more pressure towards it, but, as the above poster has rightly pointed out, it has certainly become more and more of a cultural norm for western society over recent decades. Blame the cultural revolution for that.
Yeah, I think so, but I also think that maybe that isn't a bad thing? The more that we talk about sex as a society, and the less we view sexual acts as 'taboo' and shameful, the safer sex becomes. The more people talk about sex, the more people talk about having safe sex, and hat's really important!

I do also think that it can be a bad thing, like feeling pressured to do sex stuff you don't want to is bad. That said, when you get down to the core of kinky stuff like BDSM, consent and communication are the most important things. I hope that 'kinkier' sex becoming more mainstream helps to get people talking more about those things.
I don't think there's more pressure, just more exposure and more curiosity as a result of that.
Definitely. Especially more pressure for women with the increased usage of porn and so much out there it feels like there's so much to live up to, and if you don't you're vanilla or frigid.

Like I've decided I never want to do anal, and my boyfriend has said he doesn't care. Though I can't help but think he's secretly waiting for me to say yes one day, and expects it of me.
No. Next weird question.
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'Pressure'? No.

Interest/exposure? Sure.

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