Alone and ill at Christmas

Hi all,

First of I don't want this post to be super depressing or anything like that I just wanted a place to share my feelings and hopefully receive some positivity to keep me going from you guys reading.

So I'm a first year student at university but things haven't been great for me. During freshers week I caught a pretty deadly virus and was ill for over two weeks which meant I missed out on the socials and sports trials that I really wanted to do. The group of 'friends' I was in weren't really all that nice so I walked away and didn't look back even if it meant I was alone in lectures etc. (I'd rather be in my own company than with fake people which was fine for me).

I had to move accommodation three times due to the people I was placed with were I suffered criminal damage, verbal/physical abuse and theft of my property but thankfully the halls I'm in now are great and my flatmates are all lovely. So yeah it was a pretty unstable start for me at uni but I'm doing really well work wise with my first two assignments coming back as 2:1s.

But unfortunately I wasn't able to enjoy my new hall etc because I got ill and haven't recovered. I've been to the doctors countless times and even rushed to hospital and still no one knows what's wrong. Now I'm a size 10/12 for a reason (I love my food) and because if whatever's happening I'm in constant pain and my appetite is just non existent.

Right now for me it's incredibly hard. Being ill at Christmas is hard enough but because I missed a lot of the start of university where friendships are formed I didn't make any friends and now during such a hard time I don't have that support...

I'm not really sure where I was going with this but I guess all I wanted was to tell someone how I was feeling and how much I would love to have some friends to visit me since I'm on medical leave until February from university.

Thank you for reading and have a merry Christmas x

Just a thought but is it worth trying to get withdrawn on medical grounds? If you withdraw due to medical reasons student finance may not hold the year against you funding wise and then you could get your health on track and start again with a new group of freshers next year.

Another option is to really try hard with your current nice flatmates. Try and go back and visit them, suggest hanging out more and stuff. You can integrate yourself with an established group, it just takes some effort.

Why would this person withdraw when they're doing so well ? That doesn't make any sense. As for trying hard with flat mates they've already said they are lovely and clearly have made an effort but if you read the post it's clear she is unable to visit because she's that ill 🙄

I hope you get better soon anon ! And don't even think about leaving uni, you're doing amazing and hopefully when you go back in February you'll be better 🙏🏻 I'm here if you need anyone to talk to and have the best Christmas you can ❤️🌲