Didn't feel anything when kissing..?Watch
I feel slightly embarassed admitting this, but I didn't know what to think. I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for the past 17 months, but its a long distant relationship. A very long distant ..but anyway, we recently met in the summer and it was great. I was excited and nervous at the same time, and you know the rest..!
I had my first kiss with him, and like a typical girl I've always had that fantasy that it would be special and perfect and nothing else would matter etc.. (girls you know what I mean?). But the thing is, I didn't feel anything. When I was with him and gave him hugs I didn't feel anything..and at time I even wanted to avoid it. I mean surely thats not right? .. I was expecting that moment to be perfect, but everything was right apart from me sure I've been in love once before and he broke my heart, but that feeling I had first time round I did not have this time. Maybe its true what they say that love only happens once, the rest is just life? But I've heard so many stories about your first kiss, or any kiss, how it felt and that feeling you have inside of you and so on..I just didn't get any of it and I don't know if thats right?? Maybe those stories are just exagegrated? Can anyone describe they're experience to me, or tell me if there really is meant to be that special "thing" when you kiss..I don't really know if I'm making sense let me know if there is anything you guys didn't understand? I mean, it's not that I don't love him because I do. He's my life, my rock and I need him more than anything, and I definitely want to get married to him (and the lot bla bla).. When im apart from him I want that hug and kiss back and I miss him so much, but when I'm with him I don't feel it..I don't know whats wrong with me? Maybe once you've been in love too deep you can't get that feeling back again coz the rest is just life..? But that whole "kiss" business, what's it really like or is it all just exggerated "love"? I hope I don't sound crazy lol, any advice would do..thanks a lot guys! XxX
Or as you've suggested maybe you are holding back from feeling that the kiss is anything special to avoid getting hurt, especially since you already have been and subconsciously this is making it feel different. sadly relationships aernt like in fairytales, they dont always mean every moment will be special, and im sure you know they take some work.
Like the above post said, not every kiss is sweep you off your feet and to be honest my first kiss with my bf wasnt anything special but now every kiss/hug means something.
may i just ask where does he live? and how often do you see him?
Oh he's from Canada, so we go on holiday like yearly or every 2 years.. and it's not as if my parents know about us because I'd b dead! So it's really tough..but anyway, thanks you guys I geuss I can sort of make sense out of it now.. x
But then she turned out to be a psychotic hell***** anyhow.
In any case, I really hope this is gonna be the case for you too, because even though it ISN'T wrong that you don't feel anything, I know it FEELS like it is wrong.
anyway, i moved on, don't worry about it. You'll get plenty of chances to kiss and feel good about it.
But I like to think that it could have just been because of nervousness and not being used to it. The first time I hugged a close friend of mine, I was sort of in limbo of oh... I'm hugging someone. xP
Next time I did it, I was sort of more prepared thus there was more of an emotional thing.
I've only had one REALLY bad kiss with a guy, and I swear to God... he was awful. I think I actually had on a facial expression that clearly read "Oh my god, are you kidding me?"
Turned out he's gay so maybe that was why!
But at the moment I felt so sad... I expected to be sooo perfect and romantic, but it was not! Partly because during the kiss I realised that I didn't love the guy.
I've NEVER felt "anything" like butterflies or anything when I've kissed a guy... it doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it, but I know what you mean - I feel like I ought to. I feel like maybe I don't like the guy enough or I'm just not very good... but I think you just have to ignore those insecurities!
Confuses the hell out of me for sure >.<