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I had a fling with this guy over the summer. Since the school year started, I kind of shut him out, mainly cause he left for uni and it wasn’t easy getting over him when we kept in touch. So I decided that the only way I could forget about him was to shut him out by all means, or so I thought. I heard he’s coming to this party on Friday, which makes it the first time I’m gonna see him in a while. I shouldn’t avoid him, right? How should I talk to him? I’m really nervous lol.
Awwww no don’t avoid him because it will be even worse if you accidentally bumped into him 😂, just make conversation if you see him
Don't ignore him if he talks to you but try not to approach him yourself if there still isn't an opportunity for anything longer time. If you do something big with him it will just set you back a lot and make it harder afterwards. Get through the night, socialise with other people and try not to focus on him or talk to him as much as you can.
Don't ignore him. Just talk to him, and be friendly. You don't have to be all flirtatious with him if you don't want to. However, have fun and don't only focus on him, socialise and be part of the party.
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Original post by abbietedford
Awwww no don’t avoid him because it will be even worse if you accidentally bumped into him 😂, just make conversation if you see him


Original post by AndrewSCO
Don't ignore him if he talks to you but try not to approach him yourself if there still isn't an opportunity for anything longer time. If you do something big with him it will just set you back a lot and make it harder afterwards. Get through the night, socialise with other people and try not to focus on him or talk to him as much as you can.


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Don't ignore him. Just talk to him, and be friendly. You don't have to be all flirtatious with him if you don't want to. However, have fun and don't only focus on him, socialise and be part of the party.


Hey guys this was great advice except for the fact that he didn’t come at the end! He texted me after the party, just a chill and funny convo, like how it used to be. Felt nice to talk to him after a while..He says he’s defo coming next week. So let’s see how it goes.
But I did something worse.. I made out with this other guy at the party. And I don’t know how I’m gonna deal with this on Monday. Ughhhhh what do I doo?! Why is it that I make terrible decisions..
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I had a fling with this guy over the summer. Since the school year started, I kind of shut him out, mainly cause he left for uni and it wasn’t easy getting over him when we kept in touch. So I decided that the only way I could forget about him was to shut him out by all means, or so I thought. I heard he’s coming to this party on Friday, which makes it the first time I’m gonna see him in a while. I shouldn’t avoid him, right? How should I talk to him? I’m really nervous lol.


Cool and casual, think of how you would see and talk to and old friend if you saw them
While we’re on this, I had a question- so if there was a really serious relationship and it didn’t work out for some reason, then tbh I would want to shut him out to get over him.

But if the guy says he’s really upset but doesn’t want to lose me so wants to stay in each other’s lives as friends-does this mean he wasn’t as serious about the relationship cuz surely after that, it should be impossible to remain friends with someone cuz it would hurt?
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While we’re on this, I had a question- so if there was a really serious relationship and it didn’t work out for some reason, then tbh I would want to shut him out to get over him.

But if the guy says he’s really upset but doesn’t want to lose me so wants to stay in each other’s lives as friends-does this mean he wasn’t as serious about the relationship cuz surely after that, it should be impossible to remain friends with someone cuz it would hurt?


In that case I'd try to shut him out. Cause having him in your life but not being with him would just make you feel worse..
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While we’re on this, I had a question- so if there was a really serious relationship and it didn’t work out for some reason, then tbh I would want to shut him out to get over him.

But if the guy says he’s really upset but doesn’t want to lose me so wants to stay in each other’s lives as friends-does this mean he wasn’t as serious about the relationship cuz surely after that, it should be impossible to remain friends with someone cuz it would hurt?



In that case I'd try to shut him out. Cause having him in your life but not being with him would just make you feel worse..
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Cool and casual, think of how you would see and talk to and old friend if you saw them


The guy I made out with and I haven't spoken since the party.. I should tak to him Monday morning right? Tell him that Friday night was fun but what happened just happened last night.. never had the intentions on taking thingsany further
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The guy I made out with and I haven't spoken since the party.. I should tak to him Monday morning right? Tell him that Friday night was fun but what happened just happened last night.. never had the intentions on taking thingsany further


If he doesn't ask there's no need to bring it up. People make out with people at parties all the time. Just act like it didn't happen unless he's making it clear he thinks otherwise.

As for the main guy, the temptation is always to want to stay friends and it doesn't mean he wasn't serious it may just mean he really doesn't want to let go. But do what you think is best for yourself and it probably just might be better to say no but you can catch up once in a while maybe.
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The guy I made out with and I haven't spoken since the party.. I should tak to him Monday morning right? Tell him that Friday night was fun but what happened just happened last night.. never had the intentions on taking thingsany further


Wait, what happened on Friday? xD
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Wait, what happened on Friday? xD


I made out with another guy from school. So my question is if I should talk to him about what happened at the party on Friday or just pretend as if nothing happenedd
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I made out with another guy from school. So my question is if I should talk to him about what happened at the party on Friday or just pretend as if nothing happenedd


If you never speak to him usually and he didn't get your number then you're probably okay to leave it. Don't want to say something for him to go and say it was nothing, I mean as you said, was just some fun but

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