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Didn't like what I saw

I met my gf when we started uni 3 years ago and everything has been going great since then. Well at least I thought so but she left her facebook logged on my computer after she was around yesterday and while Im not proud of it curiosity got the better of me and I looked at her messages.

Thing is I saw that she had told a friend of hers that I had cheated on her (I haven't and she's never even mentioned suspecting anything) and that she was only round mine to end it with me (she didn't we're still together and had an amazing day that day as it happens).

I dont know what to do now I'm just so confused as to why she'd do that and I dont know how to confront her about it because I dont want to admit looking without her permission.

HELP!

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Anyone?

Reply 2

silverbolt

19

dig in the mud and you will get dirty

Reply 3

username145063

I'd go for full frontal confrontation.

Reply 4

randomgirl

14

are you sure she is talking about you? :s-smilie:

does she have reason to lie to this friend? does her friend dislike you?

Reply 5

username47781

20

Whilst it's not wise to look through someone's messages, you've seen it now so you might have to tell her what you saw and confront her about it. Sounds like maybe she's a little insecure.

Reply 6

britishseapower

14

Anonymous

I met my gf when we started uni 3 years ago and everything has been going great since then. Well at least I thought so but she left her facebook logged on my computer after she was around yesterday and while Im not proud of it curiosity got the better of me and I looked at her messages.

Thing is I saw that she had told a friend of hers that I had cheated on her (I haven't and she's never even mentioned suspecting anything) and that she was only round mine to end it with me (she didn't we're still together and had an amazing day that day as it happens).

I dont know what to do now I'm just so confused as to why she'd do that and I dont know how to confront her about it because I dont want to admit looking without her permission.

HELP!

well you could confront her about it but it's likely to end in an argument and she may loose trust in you. If everything is normal then I'm guessing what she said is just trivial, I don't know why she said it as it seems a strange thing to tell a friend if it isn't true but if everythings perfect; I guess there is nothing to be concerned about.

Reply 7

madima

her friend probably doesn't like you.

Reply 8

amylase55

oh dear that is a tricky situation. hmm you could ask her friend she messaged about it? although that may not be the best thing to do. or next time youre together you could sugget going on the internet, go on facebook then say something like oooh im gonna read your messages then if she acts all protective about not wanting you to look (given what you said i assume she will act like this) then say very seriously, why? is there something you dont want me to look at?

i know theyre not great ideas but i hope that helps. oh you could also ask a different friend to the one she messaged on facebook if your gf talks about your relationship and see if she says anything different?

Reply 9

rach [shikari]

11

say you thought you were logged in to your messages, and tell her that you saw hers instead as you didnt realise she was logged in?

Reply 10

miki_da_magpie

2

Yea, i think confronting her would be a dangerous move as you could lose what you have atm. I certainly wouldnt take it too kindly knowing my partner went behind my back like that. Tbh, it was non of your business at all.

I would hope for you that she had her reasons to say those things, and I wouldnt venture near anything like that if you value your relationship

Reply 11

krisstassen

12

mate theres all sorts of things that cud happen here ya dig..
She may be 2 timing uand talk about her OTHER boyfriend..but the fact she was round urs makes that really unlikely..
Best thing is to talk to her friend.......if u r on good terms with her and she wont try to break u up..otherwise go and speak to her straight away....say u left it on and the message popped ...rubbish excuses like that can work in heated moments.......

You could always be really jammy and email a friend saying how wonderful she is and u cudnever imagine cheating on her.......and then send the email to her...shell think she got it by accident and then read about how amazing she is!......

Reply 12

40550

2

I'd leave it. She might say something, she might not. If the relationship is going fine why rock the boat by telling her you invaded her privacy.

Reply 13

Rutter knows best!

12

randomgirl

are you sure she is talking about you? :s-smilie:

does she have reason to lie to this friend? does her friend dislike you?

good point! she could have meant her other boyfriend :p:

Reply 14

britishseapower

14

amylase55

oh dear that is a tricky situation. hmm you could ask her friend she messaged about it? although that may not be the best thing to do. or next time youre together you could sugget going on the internet, go on facebook then say something like oooh im gonna read your messages then if she acts all protective about not wanting you to look (given what you said i assume she will act like this) then say very seriously, why? is there something you dont want me to look at?

i know theyre not great ideas but i hope that helps. oh you could also ask a different friend to the one she messaged on facebook if your gf talks about your relationship and see if she says anything different?

there is a danger that the truth will come out though if he starts prying like that, if you feel comfortable with your girlfriend and you trust her and putting this aside, there is no reason to feel concerned about the relationship; then you should just 'forget' about it and carry on as normal.

Reply 15

she

16

you could wait and see if she brings it up (or make her bring up the "cheating" topic up by askign her how she feels about the relationship), and then claim your innocence. If she doesn't bring it up you can assume your girlfriend is an attention seeking liar with no regards to your feelings or how her friends percieve you :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

After a few people have said maybe the friend doesnt like me I've never actually met or spoken to him

Reply 17

icapturethecastle

16

[QUOTE='rach [shikari]']say you thought you were logged in to your messages, and tell her that you saw hers instead as you didnt realise she was logged in?
:dito:

Reply 18

Meliae

[QUOTE='rach [shikari]']say you thought you were logged in to your messages, and tell her that you saw hers instead as you didnt realise she was logged in?
I'd do that.

Reply 19

moshing-fairy

14

Im confused.

Ask her about it?.

She might not be happy with you going through her messages...

but then again you'll not be happy til you get to the bottom of it.

it could all be innocent. i actually got a message from a girl saying she was with my b/f when actually she was just crazy about him hmmm :tongue:

. people are weird.

Didn't like what I saw

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