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I'm in year 12 atm, and have 'noticed' a girl in my year. (i'm a guy)

I've never spoken to her before, but I have her myspace, and we've emailed once or twice on that. An upside is that I happen to be friends with some of her closer friends at the school, and that some of my closer friends are friends with her. So far so good :smile:

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However I'm really worried that she wouldn't find me interesting at all - although we seem to be into the same sort of music, I'm afraid that in conversation I'd be monitoring myself too much, and that we won't find any common ground.

One thing I've noticed when I'm with my friends and her and I've talked while looking at her, she keeps looking away, like radically so. Can anyone shed some light onto this? Have also caught her looking at me in history lessons once or twice :s-smilie:

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Reply 1

CJPT89

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If you and her don't click then don't worry about it :smile:

Simple as advice.

Reply 2

AnastasiaJ

Make an effort to get to know her... if she knows a bit about you then she'll be more likely to be interested in you. Although don't be pushy and keep wanting to talk to her all the time, or you might creep her out a bit.

As for the eye contact stuff.. she might be shy. Don't draw too many conclusions just from that.

And, most importantly, once you've got to know her better, give her signs to let her know you're interested. Guys are always trying to not come across desperate but in doing that they end up appearing completely uninterested and that's not good.

Just be yourself! Being comfortable with yourself and who you are is in itself an attractive feature.

Reply 3

Maximald

Hey Im in year 12 as well :smile:

I know the feeling.

Don't worry that you dont have any common ground because you do! Music and friendship links are good, try to build on that to start with. At least try to talk to her about anything, anything at all (i.e what lesson do you have next? would be a good one, what time it is? etc), put be concise and dont mumble! :smile:

build on that and see how things go.

Also you said "talking while looking at her" maybe try not talking right in her eyes? As some people can find this uncomfortable?

But the trick just be yourself! And if that prevails then why pretend your someone that your not?

Hope that helps to some extent :biggrin:

Max

Reply 4

ohyeahoh

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The looking at thing sounds promising..
If your mates are mates with her mates..get them to arrange a big group thing?
Same music..ask her to a gig with you?

Reply 5

AnastasiaJ

You don't have to ask her out just yet. Speak to her first. Hang out in groups.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

17

Crap well that blew it

Reply 7

AnastasiaJ

Lol now we know who you are :P

Reply 8

AnastasiaJ

Why will it be tres difficile?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

17

Heh crap!

Erm only feeling slightly shy... shouldn't be a problem.

Reply 10

AnastasiaJ

Once you get talking to her I'm sure you'll be fine. There's no need to be nervous - she's only human! (I assume..... :P)
Just don't pretend to be someone you're not. If she doesn't like you for who you are then she's shallow and not worth bothering with.

Reply 11

PE Crazy

Anonymous

I'm in year 12 atm, and have 'noticed' a girl in my year. (i'm a guy)

I've never spoken to her before, but I have her myspace, and we've emailed once or twice on that. An upside is that I happen to be friends with some of her closer friends at the school, and that some of my closer friends are friends with her. So far so good :smile:

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However I'm really worried that she wouldn't find me interesting at all - although we seem to be into the same sort of music, I'm afraid that in conversation I'd be monitoring myself too much, and that we won't find any common ground.

One thing I've noticed when I'm with my friends and her and I've talked while looking at her, she keeps looking away, like radically so. Can anyone shed some light onto this? Have also caught her looking at me in history lessons once or twice :s-smilie:

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from what i can see i reckon she likes you, iv done that looking away thing myself once or twice, u look at her n when she looks back you look away, uv probly dun it urself once or twice, jst act calm n dnt think too much about what your saying, ul b fine mate.