What to do? Anyone? Friends BF paranoid.... Long post sorry, just keep reading :P

I'm in a complete PICKLE... sorry about the MASSIVE post, im just so stuck! the story from the top is...

Me, and my mates, reguailry meet up with a couple, for a few drinks and a bit of chat. Both the guy and girl in the relationship seem reali nice and friendly. About a week ago, the girl was in the pub, without her bf (he was on hol), and she came back to mine, with me and my friends, for a drink. She told us how possesive and controling her bf was, which was quite suprising as he came across so friendly and easy going. I'd like to point out at this point I have NO feelings for this girl, other than a friend.
So the other day, me and my mate are bored, wondering what to do, so I think, I know, we'll invite [The couple] round for a drink, thinking the BF would be back. So I ring and the Girl answers and says shes going bowling, but might come round later, but her BF is still on holiday. She doesnt come round later, no worries, Bowling probably went on late.
I ring her today to invite her and her BF back round for a drink, having heard he was back. She says, "were just at the flat at the momement, we might pop in later"... cool

Then about half an hour I get a message from her "I'm going out with [The BF], why did you get my number" ... I think okay... this is odd... and im getting the feeling her possesive boyfriend might of influenced or written this message... so i text back saying "Yeah I know your going out with [The BF], I only got your number so I could invite you both round for a drink, chill out"
she replied "why did you ask only me to come round yesterday after bowling, when I said pad wasnt here"
well... I didnt know he was still on hol... even if he was, i didnt realise it was a crime to invite a girl round for a drink, all my mates were there... nothing sinister going on...
So I text back saying "sorry for inviting you round, it was only for a drink, my mates were there aswell, thought you might be bored, i wont bother next time"

She didnt text back. Maybe I didnt deal with it the best way I could, but now basically I feel Ive lost these 2 friends, and I dont know what I can do about it... I think her bf wrote the messages, but how would he know I rang her when he was still away, unless she told him, or he maybe looked in her recieved calls.... I just dont think it was her, when her BF was away she reali came out her shell, and she didnt seem to have a problem with me obviously wanting a friendship... she even hugged me (In a friendly way) when we walked her home after the drink...

I have no idea what to do... some one help! Thanks

Reply 1

The Bishman

1. Paranoid boyfriend gets back from 'hols'.
2. Paranoid boyfriend looks at girlfriends phone.
3. Texts are influenced by paranoid boyfriend.
4. Your made to look like an idiot, when really your just being a mate.

Reply 2

Jiser

There is evil lurking!!!

Reply 3

FlyingIsis

just forget about it
get some of ur other mates to invite them both out, then just act normally if you see them

Reply 4

Purple

forget about it

Reply 5

Runaground

It's their problem, not yours

Reply 6

matt@internet

Don't concern yourself with it.

Reply 7

TOD100

sounds like your the paranoid one mate. ******* em.

Reply 8

ozzysmygod

Err I dont think I'm paranoid... I Just dont think I'll/We'll see them again! If the do decide to come round I think it will be a little akward...

Reply 9

Angelharpist

Well you didn't actually do anything wrong, as far as I can tell.

You were trying to be nice by extending the invite, and she/he chose to read too much into it. I wouldn't worry yourself - if they're decent people, they'll forget it.

Reply 10

suicidal_dream

its between them - they've obviously got issues between them.
you were just being a friend.

don't worry about it.

Reply 11

ozzysmygod

Yeah, I should forget it, but I dont like the idea ive caused trouble between them! And Id like to settle it, rather than just forgetting about it, I dont want to just leave it unfinished!

Reply 12

moshing-fairy

ozzysmygod

Yeah, I should forget it, but I dont like the idea ive caused trouble between them! And Id like to settle it, rather than just forgetting about it, I dont want to just leave it unfinished!

i think doing anything else will make it worse.

if the b/f asks you just explain. you've done nothing wrong.

Reply 13

Georgiahoneybee

I agree with moshing-fairy, I know you've got good intentions, but I really think it would make things worse also.
As others have said, the issue seems to be between the couple, and by the sounds of things its probably not the first such incident betweent them.
I would just leave things to calm down.