Too overbearing; too few hints; just right?

Preferably anon as I know people who come here, but it isn't going to kill me if the mods think it deserves otherwise.

I've been out with a girl a couple of times from Uni, once with just me and her and then with her friends. I'm seeing her on Friday for lunch and I really like her.
We went out the first time and she was giving all the signs, but since then she's seemed less enthusiastic. Clearly she wants to spend time with me if she agreed to go out on Friday, so I'm thinking maybe I've not been giving off the right signs myself and she's perhaps a bit demotivated.

Any way I can get the message across that I like her without throwing it down her throat but at the same time ensuring that she doesn't think I just want to be friends only? It's finding that phrase that works just right, and obviously it's all dependent on how she reacts to me which I can't predict until I get there, but I can try and prepare anyway. I'm confident in myself, but she's quite shy so I'm very worried about putting any pressure on her, although I'm going to have to do something at some point soon else she may give up on me if I'm right about what she's thinking and feeling right now.

Reply 1

dh00001

rather than tell her out right star with some subtle flirting and build up. see how she reacts to you

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

dont get so stressed - to AnonOP you'll be far better to clarme collective talk with her TBH!! ; ))

Reply 3

randomgirl

Just flirt with her :smile:

Reply 4

JessicaW

I agree, gentle flirting and subtle hints should do the trick.

Reply 5

***amy***

Yup, same as above. build up the flirting and see how she reacts.
it seems from what you've said that she likes you.. so either she thinks you don't feel the same way or she's playing a bit hard-to-get maybe??