how to cheer myself up?

I recently got dumpedd my boyfriend and can't think about anything other than him and wanting to be with him - i didn't revise for my exam because i couldn't concentrate, i've given up on eating very much and i just feel crap. it's worse because i know both his mum and his brother are upset that we aren't together any more and want us to get back together but he doesn't.
Basically i want to find out why he dumped me without making him angry (i've had freinds offer to talk to him or find out if he's been seeing someone else) and also i want to cheer myself up

i'd love to get back with him but can't see it happening so know i have to face up to that and i'll meet someone new but not while i'm in this state.

so please any suggestions on how to cheer myself up.

Reply 1

China Doll

OP

mean't to be dumped by my boyfriend

Reply 2

Lalli

the best thing to do is, stop being upset, start eating properly because you dont want any long term health problems!

do your hair! put on a nice outifit! go out with friends! do some retail therapy or watch a movie! anything to take your mind off him. if he's not made an effort to tell u why he ended the relationship then he's not worth the hassle, yes it hurts, but no point making urself an emotional wreck

Reply 3

thebarmaidsmiles

OK I've just discovered this song and cannot help but laugh - go find lollipop by mika on youtube!

The only way to mend a broken heart is self-pity and icecream I'm afraid.

Let yourself feel utterly sorry foryourself for a certain period of time, once you've reached the time limit you've set get yourself up and do something you wouldn't have done with him - go shopping, go watch a girly film in the cinema alone complete with popcorn/nachos/the works (this is actually pretty nice to do alone surprisingly), or go for a girls' night.

Hugs

Reply 4

moshing-fairy

14

FOOD!.
Don't know how you can not eat... i always wanna eat. and it cheers u up. when men are ******.
Anyway, im really sorry to hear your b/f ended it, i don't think you should consider the possibility of getting back together and should try to move on. however i do understand that you want to know why. that's perfectly acceptable and im confused at how when he ended it he didnt explain?.

just phone him. or if you think it would be easier e-mail/facebook message asking him what went wrong.

cheering yourself up wise...
spend some time with your girl friends. have a nice night in (rather than go get pissed and get with randoms- that never really works...save it for a few weekends time). Get a haircut/manicure/anything to make you feel good.

getting dumped sucks. just keep positive, and i'm sure you'll feel alot better soon, try to put him out of your mind and think about you.

Reply 5

dh00001

16

you need to find something to take your mind off of your ex. dont be on your own and just do things you enjoy.
stop worrying about why your ex broke up with you and realise you can do better

Reply 6

Hisoo

13

Give yourself a set time, say two weeks upwards, to be upset over your relationship ending, During these two weeks treat yourself as much as possible then get back out there and show everyone that you dont need your ex to be happy and that your well over him.

Reply 7

thezoob

i know exactly how u feel.

i've been split up with my gf for a very long time (7months ish i think) and aint exactly had much luck with the ladies, and well all i can think about is her, mainly due to the fact i aint met anyone else.

my advise to you is go out join a club, i took up martial arts for instance, go out and party with your friends and kiss as many peopls as you like.

Reply 8

Miss Mary

14

When you're feeling down there's nothing like seeing funny videos on youtube. :P
You should LAUGH a lot. LAUGH, LAUGH, LAUGH.
Trust me, laughter is an excellent way of feeling better.
So find something/someone that makes you laugh.

Reply 9

euphoria_18

galleta87

OK I've just discovered this song and cannot help but laugh - go find lollipop by mika on youtube!

The only way to mend a broken heart is self-pity and icecream I'm afraid.

Let yourself feel utterly sorry foryourself for a certain period of time, once you've reached the time limit you've set get yourself up and do something you wouldn't have done with him - go shopping, go watch a girly film in the cinema alone complete with popcorn/nachos/the works (this is actually pretty nice to do alone surprisingly), or go for a girls' night.

Hugs

here here! ive never heard such good advice lol :smile:

Reply 10

jumpinglunch

13

Cookies,muffins,cheesecake....... :p:

Reply 11

I_L_S

6

Even though it makes me very poor ben & jerry's is always a winner & making an extra effort to look nice for a day out with good friends. usually works for me.

Reply 12

Wind Guru

8

Awww

I hope you're feeling ok soon, it's such an awful thing to go through, especially near exams time aswell.

Best thing is to just let it all out, cry, moan, get really ****** off at him! Can you talk to your parents easily? When I split up with my boyfriend, I moaned to my parents and it hlped so much.

I made sure I went out with my friends so I wasn't at home thinking about it. Got them round for a few drinks and a takeaway, and I spoke to them about it - they all made fun of him and made me laugh which helped!

It's best to just keep busy, pamper yourself too - buy some new make up, clothes, a new hairstyle - anything that will make you feel an individual and a better person.

It's so hard because you're suddenly thrown out of a routine, expecting a text, him to be there.. But it's time to move on - and it will hurt, unfortunately time heals the wound. Keep your mind off him, keep busy and treat yourself.

Reply 13

JC.

19

Get a sports car.

Reply 14

China Doll

OP

Thanks everyone - i've tried it all even telling him how i feel i even spoke to his mum (she's as upset as i am) i'm not planning to get back with him and im happy when im talkin to him as a friend and flirting with other guys online (i know it won't go anywhere as happened before). but as soon as i stop i get depressed again - and i never know where to meet people people have suggested joing a club but i've done that before and never met anyone plu no time.

i'm getting my hair cut and going gym and stuff but i can't get the confidence to talk to people. i guess i'll just stick to self pity for a little while longer

p.s. i was happy all of yesterday andf then ate chocolate and got depressed how back to front is that?

Reply 15

theredwindmill

9

Mika is definatly you friend here, listen to mika he always makes me smile, and ICE CREAM (lots of it), also shopping is the best therapy in my opinion - new clothes and shoes always a good idea here.
Also when my boyfriend split up with me a dew weeks a go my friends came over and they insulted him and made me laugh the whole evening

:hugs:

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