How long did you wait?

Poll

When did you tell your partner that you love them?

Just curious, how long did people on here wait before telling their partners that they love them? And also, how certain were you that it was love you were feeling? Post any comments below, thanks.

Reply 1

spartakist

14

I really don't understand why girls demand this sort of thing so soon into a relationship and still expect truthful replies...

Reply 2

dh00001

16

i waited until i meant it. dont put a time or norm on it.

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

17

I read that as parents :s:

my bad

Reply 4

bbc_18

blackswan

I read that as parents :s:

my bad

:dito:

Reply 5

joeydeacon

13

i have said this like 20 times and only ever truly meant it once, then she was unfaithful.... amazing

Reply 6

randomgirl

14

A few months, 4+.

Reply 7

RosiePosiePuddingAndPie

12

spartakist

I really don't understand why girls demand this sort of thing so soon into a relationship and still expect truthful replies...

Objection!
My boyfriend had said it to me a few times with me just smiling weakly back, before I said it back to him just because he seemed to expect it.

When I said it and actually meant it, we were about a month and a half into the relationship, but he had been saying it from the 3rd week or so :smile:

Reply 8

Ice_Queen

17

We were good friends before, so really we only got into a relationship once we realised we actually loved each other. I think we said it in the first two days :P

Reply 9

*pitseleh*

20

1-2 months, but only because I'd known him for years beforehand, and whilst we were only a couple of months into the relationship, we had been seeing each other on and off for a long time before that. IIRC (memory is a bit hazy) he actually said it first. We're still together several years later; but I've been out with other people for over a year and never said it. It's not really worth saying unless you mean it.

Reply 10

jenren22

1

spartakist

I really don't understand why girls demand this sort of thing so soon into a relationship and still expect truthful replies...

Well in my case my bf said it first, about a month into the relationship. We're still together 5 months later and are completely in love.

Every couple is different, but dont say it to your partner a) so they stay with you b) if you're not actually sure you mean it.

I think men should say it first imo, cos it takes longer for them to open up and once they do it's more convincing. But then again, i have come across men who say it and they're not even with you, but that was when we were very young.

Reply 11

moshing-fairy

14

only when i meant it.

about 6 months into this r-ship i think.

Reply 12

fairycakes

12

noo...i clicked the wrong one on the poll...i put one-two months, when we haven't said it yet, well that's not entirely true... we haven't said it and meant it in that way yet. i've probably jinxed myself now...

last nite i thought i loved him, and should say it, and i was like do you love me? he was like....no.... then later i asked him, do you really not love me? he was like, uh, i think i'm not going to ask the question back...i was like, yeah don't :frown:

Reply 13

ashy

17

A few months in: I had a really really bad migrane and was curled up in bed almost in tears. Sent her a text saying that thinking of her was getting me through it and that I loved her ;yes;

:redface:

Reply 14

ashy

17

fairycakes

noo...i clicked the wrong one on the poll...i put one-two months, when we haven't said it yet, well that's not entirely true... we haven't said it and meant it in that way yet. i've probably jinxed myself now...

last nite i thought i loved him, and should say it, and i was like do you love me? he was like....no.... then later i asked him, do you really not love me? he was like, uh, i think i'm not going to ask the question back...i was like, yeah don't :frown:

Never EVER ask someone if they love you. You put stupid pressure on them if they don't, and risk ruining giving them the chance to love you - or if they do then you'd probably know about it already.

Reply 15

Georgiahoneybee

1

3-4 months.
It was a lovely feeling.
Been together for a year and a half now.

Reply 16

fairycakes

12

ashy

Never EVER ask someone if they love you. You put stupid pressure on them if they don't, and risk ruining giving them the chance to love you - or if they do then you'd probably know about it already.

oh no, it's just turned into a huge joke in our relationship...'haha baby you love me' 'no i don't' etc etc. it's not a great place to be i must say.

but i'm hoping when we really feel it, i think yesterday i just got a bit carried away, the joke won't matter.

Reply 17

suicidal_dream

1

took about a week somehow...

we totally just clicked and fell - was most strange.

and it was my boyf that said it first.
I think we would have waited a while longer to say it as we both felt the same but had been drinking so we just said exactly as we were thinking.

cant have been bad as we're 18 months down the line.

Reply 18

punktopia

3

Really can't remember. I know I lied the first time I said it.

Reply 19

Ariadne

16

I've never said it to anyone, partially because I've never been certain of whether I've loved them or not! :s-smilie:

My current bf told me last night that he'd 'fallen for me' (we've been together 2 months now), but I just don't know if I feel the same way. How do you know if you're in love, anyway?? :redface:

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