How to seem more approachable?

Basically throughout my time as a teenager and now I'm at uni, a lot of people seem to find me unapproachable. The truth is I'm just really shy, and hide it beneath a veneer of indifference and disinterest. I have a lot of close friends who've been brave enough to get to know me (!) and when I've questioned them about it, they've agreed that, though they know now that I'm just scared of strangers and can see that I just hide it by acting the way I do, they were also intimidated or put off by me at first.

After having recently split up with my boyfriend, I'd like to get to know some more guys, but I know that very few are likely to approach me with my current attitude. I've also heard a lot of guys say stuff in clubs like 'yeah she's hot but stuck up' and things to that effect, and some have even said stuff to my face.

I also appreciate that an approachable manner will be a benefit when applying for jobs, etc. I'm just not really sure how to look more approachable! I'm a model so I tend to stride quite a bit even just in everyday walking, and even facially I don't know what expression to have when walking around by myself because I could hardly walk around smiling could I? I know that approachability would come with confidence but it's a vicious cycle as I can't gain confidence with strangers as none will talk to me, and when I talk to them they just look confused! :confused:

Someone please help!

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