problem with a friend, bf and another girl

sorry for such a long thread, and this could get confusing so bear wih me!

ok, so i started this new college about...8 weeks ago, and about a month ago i got together with a guy i met there, and we are still going out and all is well and good between us.
then i have another friend who is male, and who i also met at the school, he was also new, and we are now great friends and we are always chatting and stuff.
and then there is a girl who was one of my good friends who i also met at school. we were quite close and got ready for the recent prom together, etc...

before new years eve the male friend told me he liked the female friend, so i spoke to the female friend who confirmed that she thought the male friend was "really fit" and that i had to tell him.
so i did, and on new years we all met up at my boyfriend's party, and the male and female friend got together.
she would call me sometimes up to 5 times a day to chat about it, etc...

now the female friend has quite suddenly decided that she has gone off the male friend, as another guy that she likes is now single.
i think she is being a bit mean as she hasnt actually TOLD the male friend, she just ignores him...but whatever, thats not really to do with me.

and today she decided she was going to spend a good hour slagging off my boyfriends bum...just because he has got hair on his lower back [it really doesnt bother me] and his trousers came down a bit...and she kept laughing, but not telling me what she was laughing about and just saying "ooooh you'll find out soon"...obviously i already know seeing as me and my boyfriend are quite close. i think that's quite childish behaviour but again whatever.

but recently she has also been really off with me [i think for being friends with the male friend], even pretty much ignoring me...
so today i went up and said hi, and then asked how she was, and asked [jokingly] about her lovelife, etc...
she wouldn't reply but i didn't expect her to lol, its just like a joke...
and to be honest friends normally do talk about stuff like that! anyway now i find out that she told my OTHER female friend that i am "annoying" and that i am "always asking about her" and about her love life. which is not true!! i am just making polite conversation!
so what do i do now?! i don't want to fall out with anyone but she is being mean and slagging me off, and slagging my boyfriend [...a friend of hers...] off too.
and i don't understand what i did...

thought please? cos i am really worried that i have in some way been reall evil in asking how her lovelife is...!!

Reply 1

PasserBy9

I doubt you have been really mean (obviously can't be certain because I don't know the WHOLE situation) but I can probably guess that the main reason as to why things seem to have changed is because:

justmexx

so i started this new college

Everyone changes when they go to a new School/College/University/Workplace. People always want to reinvent themselves and what a better time than when you are going to meet all new people that couldn't turn round and say "This isn't you, you've changed".
Unfortunately it just happens and there is almost nothing you can do about it.

Reply 2

sokissme

no, but these are all new friends. all recent ones since i began the college.
i just don't see why me making an effort to ask her how she is and stuff has made her so against me...

Reply 3

PasserBy9

Woops, okay yes. I miss read that part as her being a friend from your old school, sorry about that.

Perhaps she feels as if you have sided with your male friend over the breakup (don't ask me why some people expect others to take sides - they just do).