What a flirter....

Hey guys.
Bascially I am a pretty unconfident girl when it comes to flirting. I am so self conscious about practically every social situation, it really is ridiculous. I'm 20 and I really think I should be over that by now, but I'm not. I did go to a girls school which I'm sure didn't help me with my confidence around guys. When it comes to flirting, I feel very very very embarrassed. The closest I ever get is smiling at a guy, which is pretty stupid really because anyone can smile at a guy....even ones they don't fancy. Please help!

Reply 1

The Nightingale

This probably isn't much help, but do you have any guy friends? It may be worth getting to know certain people as friends, so that you're a bit more comfortable with men in ordinary situations. :smile:

In turn that may boost your confidence... so that when you're in the flirting 'zone' you feel less anxious.

Reply 2

mappymappy

I do have guy friends, and generally I can (fake) confidence whilst around them. However, when it comes to flirting- it's like a whole different ball game!

Reply 3

afua12

I agree ^

get introduced to your friends guy friends - that way, you'll know they're decent so you don't need to be worried that they're going to be dicks if you're shy around them. Also, if you do get on with them, it's easy to just invite them out again, as there won't be that line to cross when meeting new people? if that makes any sense? like, it's easier to invite a friends friend out, than a stranger?

do this as much as possible, until you begin to feel comfortable around them. let friendships develop, and the more they do, the more comfident you'll feel around new people and guys in general - they can tell you what things are like form a guys perspective, and you'll see that there is actually *a lot* of overlap - they're just expressed differently.