Just need general advice

Right first proper thread but here i go!

So i was out clubbing and was left on my own because my brother was banned from the place (anouther long story lol) Thats when i saw a bunch of guys of which one came over and started talking to me. He was really nice lad. We spent alot of time chatting away and having a good time and we kissed which was great but me being drunk and stupid i turned round and said "I aint that easy" lol jokingly obviously! He didnt give up and i noticed he was good looking. Ok ill get to the point we still talk since over the phone etc. He has told me he puts his work first which i feel proud of coz not many guys do, but does that mean if anything happend between us i would hardly see him, im sure he would make up for it though!. The thing is im meeting up again with him and stupidly cant really remember what he looks like lol( although keep remembering small parts of him. Im feeling quite scared because of a date that went wrong wid a guy i coompletly didnt take notice of how he looked and when he turned up he was not my type! So basically i want reassurance on this new guy because i kind of actually like him...may sound silly.

Hope it makes sence lol was bit hard writing down while at work.
xx

Reply 1

daniel_williams

ok well when i was in a relationship with my ex i was always focused on enducation first because I knew it would provide for my future. the thing is it did affect us because as you rightly point out it does mean you won't see each other as much. and by him putting his work first you'll be lucky to see him and if you do you will probably see him tired.

if you really like the guy and think you can make something of it then by all means go for it, just be prepared to spend a few days away from him if work is busy for him (depending on what job he does) if he isn't your type then so what, opposites attract sometimes, you should go or more of the personality you get than the looks. ok i know its hard to do sometimes.

Reply 2

lucy89

Thanks! Yeah i do believe though that when dont see much of eachother it makes th etimes you do spend together better! I know about the looks situation ive gone for personalities before rather than looks thing is i wanted to aim higher, hope doesnt sound snotty or anything! Anyway i remember looking at him well and then saying to a mate and that that he was good looking, i suppose im just worried because of bad experiences before. He seems really nice personality wise too! I mean we talk over phone about loads and have a laugh etc. Im just hoping we do get to meet up though soon just to see what would be like! Thanks for your advice! x

Reply 3

dh00001

go and meet him, if you dont like him as much in person youre under no obligation to see him again. you dont have anything to loose and alot to gain!

Reply 4

Honeyblossom

dh00001

go and meet him, if you dont like him as much in person youre under no obligation to see him again. you dont have anything to loose and alot to gain!

I agree, just go for a drink and if it goes badly, you don't have to do it again!

Reply 5

lucy89

Yes thats very true.... hope it does go well though!

Reply 6

as cruel as school children

where was the club?

Reply 7

lucy89

why? it was in hemel

Reply 8

username47781

Don't see what you have to lose by going to meet him, surely if you don't like him as the others said you don't have to meet him again.

Reply 9

lucy89

Yeah i will meet him but just worried about it turnin out to be a complet disaster like a date i had few weeks ago but hey! you only live once and if you dont try it you will never know !