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Hi all,

I am a 20 year-old guy in his first year of university (Just for the record, I commute).

I have only ever been with one girl and tbh that was confusing when it happened. We met up a few times and got quite intimate, and we were official, but it lasted for three weeks. We mutually ended it but I felt much worse about it months later.

Fast forward nine months later, I am yet to have any luck post my first relationship.

I have put myself on Tinder but have only matched a few girls, one spoke to me and even took my number, however she rarely replied to my messages so I gave up.

Also, probably irrelevant but I am a virgin and have recently been thinking about sex all the time, is that normal?

If I am honest; I just want a woman to share my feelings with and spend time with, however I am worried this may never happen. My luck as a person is dreadful.

If I'm not having luck online, how the hell is my luck going to be any better in person?

If someone could, what kind of advice would you give me? Am I overreacting?

Sorry if this was long-winded.

Thanks in advance
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Build up your social circle.
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It can be difficult meeting new people. As always it is important for you to get involved in societies, religious organization, community outreach, volunteer, political activist etc. You don't have to do all of those but those are some areas you can get involved in. You need to select an activity where you will meet people. And going to a monthly meeting is not going to be sufficient to get to know people so really get involved - seek out leadership positions or activities where you at the very least meet weekly. When you start regularly attending you will get to know the people there. It may be other guys but, hey, they should have friends and you can meet their friends. You may get lucky and meet a girl there who you know will at least have the same interest in that activity and you can build from there. Confidence in what you are doing is super important too. Girls like a confident guy (not cocky) - trust me. It might be good to spend sometime just getting comfortable with yourself. I know that sounds cliche but it is important. When you are comfortable with yourself you will carry that confidence into other areas of your life and it will be appealing to girls. Good Luck!
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Dude go go searching , just be out their having fun and the opportunity will come.Single life is the best mate...dude being a virgin is cool mate you are worth more than the people who have given away thier virginity to cheap fu-cks
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I commute to Uni too and I feel that may have a negative impact on socialising. Joining societies (as mentioned above) may help. Or perhaps volunteering? (If that's something you're interested in)
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi all,

I am a 20 year-old guy in his first year of university (Just for the record, I commute).

I have only ever been with one girl and tbh that was confusing when it happened. We met up a few times and got quite intimate, and we were official, but it lasted for three weeks. We mutually ended it but I felt much worse about it months later.

Fast forward nine months later, I am yet to have any luck post my first relationship.

I have put myself on Tinder but have only matched a few girls, one spoke to me and even took my number, however she rarely replied to my messages so I gave up.

Also, probably irrelevant but I am a virgin and have recently been thinking about sex all the time, is that normal?

If I am honest; I just want a woman to share my feelings with and spend time with, however I am worried this may never happen. My luck as a person is dreadful.

If I'm not having luck online, how the hell is my luck going to be any better in person?

If someone could, what kind of advice would you give me? Am I overreacting?

Sorry if this was long-winded.

Thanks in advance
‘My luck as a person is dreadful’ feel free to pm me if you want to talk about anything mate.
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