Have no idea what to do. Completely stuck!

Right, this is going to be a really long post and I doubt many of you will get to the bottom but those who do, then I would really appreciate some advice.

On Monday our landlord is coming round to sign the new house contract and I don't know if I want to sign or not. At the moment I'm living in a house of 6 (one girl's definetly moving out - she's signed another contract today) and I don't get on with two of them.

My best friend Laura** at the moment is subletting her room with a manic depressent who she has kindly moved in despite all of us saying we did not want him living in the house. He's done some horrible things in the past few months - probably not relevent to this thread though. And she wanted to move out with him and take me with him. I said no. She said that she was going to move out anyway. That was fine. I respected that. Now he might have a job in London and he's told her he's going to take it, meaning that she'd have to sign the new contract with us. But that she'd make it clear she wasn't signing it through choice she just has no other option. Which as her best friend made me feel really great, since her "friend"'s moved in I've not seen her for more than 5 minutes.

Anyway my other friends (living 20 houses down the street and with the same landlord) have two spare rooms available as two of their housemates are moving out. And she's offered me one of the rooms and I don't know what to do.

I love the people in there and in this house it's so bitchy I hate it. Everyone hates everyone else. I've had to sort out the water, electric, gas, internet, line rental; no-one else does anything. I feel like I'm a mother and I know there, everything else is shared out.

But if I moved out and then my best friend didn't I would feel really bad but Louise** (the girl who offered me the room) said she didn't give two seconds about leaving YOU when she wanted to move out. I've lived in my room with the door locked since he's been here, everyone has. He makes us that uncomfortable. And yeah she wanted me to come with, but she wasn't willing to leave a guy who's threatened to get court orders against her, told her she deserved to die and loads more for me.

But if she didn't go then I could have her room but that would mean we'd have to find another two people to fill mine and the other girls room and I don't know if I'd like that or if I could stomach living with 2 girls I hate.

I don't know and could just do with some advice. Both houses need to sign the contract on Monday - because our landlord wants it done before the housing list comes out which is Tuesday - and if I left I'd feel bad for leaving the people cos they'd have to find other people. I hate them but I know they can be good people.

But then I think I've been given this opputunity and I need to take it.

I just want advice. Sorry if some of this doesn't make sense.

Reply 1

Good bloke

19

Go with the girls down the road. There are too many serious negatives on this one.

Reply 2

babby

move into th house 20 houses away!
if she was quick enough to move out then you should do it the same!
ano it sounds horrible but give her a taste of her own medicinehope this helps a little
x

Reply 3

AllergicToFairydust

1

What if this guy doesn't get this job and you resign this contract, would you end up living with him for another year?

If the answer to that question is yes, sign the other contract and move out. Don't live with someone who makes you that uncomfortable.

Personally I think you know what you want to do but don't want to hurt your friend. You describe one house very negatively and one house quite postively. If your friend doesn't understand you need to get away from that guy, she isn't much of a friend in my opinon.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Probably. He's not meant to be here. He's 28 and not a student. He was only meant to be staying for a week and that was 3 weeks ago and yesterday she turned round and said he'd be contributing monthly to bills and I was like woah woah woah he was only meant to be staying a week?

Allergictofairydust I think you're right. I don't want to hurt my friend but deep down I know I want to move out. And actually seeing you guys write "the house down the road" made me smile so much because that's what I really want. I must do.

I don't know why I'm willing to risk living in a house with 2 people I hate, strangers and a friend who'd ditched me.

Thanks!!

Reply 5

Grappling

2

Move out. Living with people you don't like and don't pull their weight is a nightmare. If she really is your best friend then she should understand. What about having her move into the second room with you?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Grappling

Move out. Living with people you don't like and don't pull their weight is a nightmare. If she really is your best friend then she should understand. What about having her move into the second room with you?

She refuses to move into that house. We looked around the house and she said she couldn't stand living there.

And the room's been offered to someone else which I think they've accepted.

Thanks for the idea though :smile:

Reply 7

Alison267

10

Move to the other house, no doubt about it!
i'd personally live with nice people, rather than a best 'friend' not that i'd call her that from the way shes acted, and 2 other that you cant stand!

Reply 8

babby

friends are evil most of the time!
my 'best friend' split me and my ex up!
a would go with your heart and mind move down the road!
x

Reply 9

Magnum Opus

18

move out! if there are two rooms available then why not ask laura to go with you?

Reply 10

suicidal_dream

1

i would definitely move out. they obviously have no respect for you.

And that guy, i definitely wouldn't live there.
also, he's not a student so he'll have to pay council tax - is he going to agree to do that, or is he going to make you all split the cost?!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I dunno. I mean he's obviously not paying it at the moment but we've all got our exemption certificates to last until next October. Uhh he'd probably pay.

I've spoken to Louise and she still thinks the other two girls are going to move out, even though they're not speaking to her properly. But she said everything will become clearer.

I'm just worried that both of them are going to change their mind cos they can do until Monday. I want to tell my housemates asap but only if I'm confident they won't change their minds, which I won't be until I place my signature on that line.

Hmm. Do you think it would create an arkward atmosphere in the house if I did go? I hope not.

Have no idea what to do. Completely stuck!

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