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My grandma has breast cancer
as the title says, just found out. I dont really want to go into it but it happens that she has know for a very long time, possibly up to 2 years or more and it developed from a small lump.
im absolutely wounded.
the docters seem to be far too up-beat about it and i was hoping that someone from here would know more about this or ever been though similar
cheers
im absolutely wounded.
the docters seem to be far too up-beat about it and i was hoping that someone from here would know more about this or ever been though similar
cheers
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Reply 1
Sorry mate, it is a really tough illness to deal with.
I'm assuming if she's known that long then it's inoperable?
I know it's really hard but I do honestly think the best thing you can do is try and come to terms with it so you can enjoy all the time you have with her, but also be prepared for what might happen. When my grandmother was diagnosed I was told she was ill and I visited her in hospital for the 3 or so years she was ill. My family mentioned lumps and I knew she was seriously ill, but they never actually said cancer to me. In fact I didn't actually piece together that it was cancer until a few years after she died. Looking back maybe if I had known I would have prepared myself more.
If you need to talk or anything, just drop me a pm
I'm assuming if she's known that long then it's inoperable?
I know it's really hard but I do honestly think the best thing you can do is try and come to terms with it so you can enjoy all the time you have with her, but also be prepared for what might happen. When my grandmother was diagnosed I was told she was ill and I visited her in hospital for the 3 or so years she was ill. My family mentioned lumps and I knew she was seriously ill, but they never actually said cancer to me. In fact I didn't actually piece together that it was cancer until a few years after she died. Looking back maybe if I had known I would have prepared myself more.
If you need to talk or anything, just drop me a pm
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Sorry mate, it is a really tough illness to deal with.
I'm assuming if she's known that long then it's inoperable?
I know it's really hard but I do honestly think the best thing you can do is try and come to terms with it so you can enjoy all the time you have with her, but also be prepared for what might happen. When my grandmother was diagnosed I was told she was ill and I visited her in hospital for the 3 or so years she was ill. My family mentioned lumps and I knew she was seriously ill, but they never actually said cancer to me. In fact I didn't actually piece together that it was cancer until a few years after she died. Looking back maybe if I had known I would have prepared myself more.
If you need to talk or anything, just drop me a pm
I'm assuming if she's known that long then it's inoperable?
I know it's really hard but I do honestly think the best thing you can do is try and come to terms with it so you can enjoy all the time you have with her, but also be prepared for what might happen. When my grandmother was diagnosed I was told she was ill and I visited her in hospital for the 3 or so years she was ill. My family mentioned lumps and I knew she was seriously ill, but they never actually said cancer to me. In fact I didn't actually piece together that it was cancer until a few years after she died. Looking back maybe if I had known I would have prepared myself more.
If you need to talk or anything, just drop me a pm
Cheers. I really do appreciate that.
Ill see how it goes, there are some results coming back tomorrow. She is still able to walk and appears pretty normal so I can only hope for the best.
Reply 4
That's awful.
Both my grandad's died of cancer when I was a lot younger, ditto with the PM..
However look on the bright side. Although breast cancer is a terrible illness, there is a lot of treatment available due to its high awareness, and there is a fairly high chance of survival.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4325932.stm
Women aged between 50 and 69, who are most likely to be diagnosed with the disease, have an even better prognosis, with 72% surviving for 20 years.
Hope that's reassured you slightly. All the best.
Both my grandad's died of cancer when I was a lot younger, ditto with the PM..
However look on the bright side. Although breast cancer is a terrible illness, there is a lot of treatment available due to its high awareness, and there is a fairly high chance of survival.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4325932.stm
Women aged between 50 and 69, who are most likely to be diagnosed with the disease, have an even better prognosis, with 72% surviving for 20 years.
Hope that's reassured you slightly. All the best.
That's awful. My mum had breast cancer two years ago, and my grandpa had bowel cancer. Neither of them told me straight away, so I know how awful it is to be suddenly hit with this information. I know what an awful thing it is to deal with since the 'c' word brings with it so much dread. Stay optimistic though - as overground says, the stats for breast cancer are pretty good.
My advice regarding doctors would be: get a second opinion if you're not sure about what they're saying. Seriously. The first doctor who my grandpa saw gave him just a month to live and said there was nothing that he could do. The second doctor however was really helpful, told him about all the treatments and, 6 years on, he's still fine. If you don't think your doctor is taking it seriously then do change doctors for your own peace of mind. Though the doctor is probably just "up-beat" because your grandma has a good chance.
All the best.
My advice regarding doctors would be: get a second opinion if you're not sure about what they're saying. Seriously. The first doctor who my grandpa saw gave him just a month to live and said there was nothing that he could do. The second doctor however was really helpful, told him about all the treatments and, 6 years on, he's still fine. If you don't think your doctor is taking it seriously then do change doctors for your own peace of mind. Though the doctor is probably just "up-beat" because your grandma has a good chance.
All the best.
Reply 6
I found out about 6 years ago now that my Mum had breast cancer. She had to have one of her breasts removed, which i think she dealt with brilliantly. It was the loosing of her hair during chemotherapy that i think i found the hardest. Because then i just couldn't pretend it wasn't happening, the reality of it was there, staring me in the face every time i saw her. Luckily, after a lot of treatment, and breast reconstruction she got better. And a year or 2 ago we were extremely lucky to find out that she had got the 'all clear'. Its always going to be in the back of our minds that it could come back, but we've just got to make the most of things now, while its all good.
Just what i'm trying to say is, you're not alone (not meaning to sound cheeesey or anything
) If you have any questions or anything, just ask.
Try and be strong for your Nan, and make the most of any time you have with her. Fingers crossed she can get some treatment. As for the doctors, i guess they've got to try and be a little upbeat, cos its obviously an extremely painful thing for everyone involved to be going through, so they're not going to want to bring you down anymore with their negative attitudes (if that makes sense?)
Take care.
Just what i'm trying to say is, you're not alone (not meaning to sound cheeesey or anything
) If you have any questions or anything, just ask.Try and be strong for your Nan, and make the most of any time you have with her. Fingers crossed she can get some treatment. As for the doctors, i guess they've got to try and be a little upbeat, cos its obviously an extremely painful thing for everyone involved to be going through, so they're not going to want to bring you down anymore with their negative attitudes (if that makes sense?)
Take care.
Sorry to hear it.
Both of my grandads suffered from cancer. The doctors and hospitals can work wonders these days. Unfortunatly the cancer with one of my grandads became terminal and he was to weak to under go chemo. However my other grandad is still undergoing help and its managing fine.
The doctors are quite possibly being upbeat because they feel its treatable and that you grandma will be ok.
All i can say is try and remain positive and enjoy all your time with her.
I hope everything goes ok for you. Take care.
Both of my grandads suffered from cancer. The doctors and hospitals can work wonders these days. Unfortunatly the cancer with one of my grandads became terminal and he was to weak to under go chemo. However my other grandad is still undergoing help and its managing fine.
The doctors are quite possibly being upbeat because they feel its treatable and that you grandma will be ok.
All i can say is try and remain positive and enjoy all your time with her.
I hope everything goes ok for you. Take care.
Reply 8
Be happy at the fact that you know your grandma. Both my grandmothers died when I was just too young to remember them; the first just months after I was born and second when I was about 2 or so. I really only remember one of them from the videos I saw of her.
However, breast cancer is becoming a more and more curable disease so your grandmother has a higher chance of survival by the day. More and more cures are arising for cancers of all types, not just breast cancer, which is probably the most publicised, so fingers crossed she gets through this.
However, breast cancer is becoming a more and more curable disease so your grandmother has a higher chance of survival by the day. More and more cures are arising for cancers of all types, not just breast cancer, which is probably the most publicised, so fingers crossed she gets through this.
I am really sorry to hear about your grandma. i found out a few months ago that my dad has lymphoma so i have some idea how you feel. i know its a big shock and it feels so overwhelming and Cancer is a word that immediately conjurs up bad thoughts. BUT it is treatable and in some case cureable, you have to be positive (i know its really,really hard), but Cancer doesnt always mean death and in fact it quite often doesnt especially with breast cancer (the stats are good) and this is probably how her doctors are feeling, they are trying to do their best. if they are upbeat its a good thing means that its treatable.
i wish you and your family all the best, take care.
if you ever want to talk jus PM me.
i wish you and your family all the best, take care.
if you ever want to talk jus PM me.
It must have been such a shock to find out like this, I'm so sorry. 
I know it might not make you feel any better right now, but I'm sure she did it because she didn't want to upset you, rather than because she didn't care or didn't think you needed to know.
It obviously depends on how progressed it is, but the doctors might not necessarily be being overly optimistic in their outlook. My grandma was diagnosed with skin cancer at 89, and although she was too weak to have chemotherapy, after removing the cancerous tissue she had a few sessions of radiotherapy and after that it was fine. I know skin cancer is quite treatable, but she was very old and had other health problems, and it still was effective. Unfortunately she died last September from a brain haemorrhage, but the cancer had been completely cured. I hope everything works out, and if you're at all worried or upset at any point, you could talk to your mum or dad (depending on whose parent it is) and you'll be able to support each other.
I know it might not make you feel any better right now, but I'm sure she did it because she didn't want to upset you, rather than because she didn't care or didn't think you needed to know.It obviously depends on how progressed it is, but the doctors might not necessarily be being overly optimistic in their outlook. My grandma was diagnosed with skin cancer at 89, and although she was too weak to have chemotherapy, after removing the cancerous tissue she had a few sessions of radiotherapy and after that it was fine. I know skin cancer is quite treatable, but she was very old and had other health problems, and it still was effective. Unfortunately she died last September from a brain haemorrhage, but the cancer had been completely cured. I hope everything works out, and if you're at all worried or upset at any point, you could talk to your mum or dad (depending on whose parent it is) and you'll be able to support each other.
My Grandma had breast cancer a few years ago. I was too young to really understand, or be told what was going on. Even through the chemo, and her wearing a wig, I never really cottoned on.
She made it though. She had one of her breasts removed and is still going strong at 68. There is always hope, don't worry about the negatives and, to quote Monty Python, always look on the bright side of life.
My Grandma does. She often laughs about her missing boob. Especially when swimming, she went in with a foam one and it was floating. I really admire that she can joke about it.
She made it though. She had one of her breasts removed and is still going strong at 68. There is always hope, don't worry about the negatives and, to quote Monty Python, always look on the bright side of life.
My Grandma does. She often laughs about her missing boob. Especially when swimming, she went in with a foam one and it was floating. I really admire that she can joke about it.
im so sorry, its really tough time when your going through that! just make sure you are supportive of all your family and dont let your pain turn to anger!
i say this because my aunty had cervical cancer last year, she was only 27 so it was a shock, but to make it worse she only found out because she was pregnant! she had to have an abortion as it was too young to survive. luckily shes still alive and is in remission. however there were times when i would get really angry and shout at people including her and it was really horrible cos thats all i remember now! the guilt!
PM me if you need to talk!
i say this because my aunty had cervical cancer last year, she was only 27 so it was a shock, but to make it worse she only found out because she was pregnant! she had to have an abortion as it was too young to survive. luckily shes still alive and is in remission. however there were times when i would get really angry and shout at people including her and it was really horrible cos thats all i remember now! the guilt!
PM me if you need to talk!
Reply 13
I'm really sorry about that, two of my Grandad's have cancer, actually one was given the all clear last week
It's not the end, cancer gets beaten all the time and I really hope that your Grandma gets well- I know what you're going through
It's not the end, cancer gets beaten all the time and I really hope that your Grandma gets well- I know what you're going through
Reply 14
sorry to hear about your nan. see what the results are and then i believe always get a second opinion on anything about cancer. there are many new things coming out about breast cancer as i have been on a ward working with breast removals and also removing some breast glads.
Reply 15
I dont want to be brutal but I know 2 cases of cancer and both of them were peopel who had it a while but then deterirated rapidly and died within 2 weeks - probably not what you want to hear but somehting to consider at least.
i got home one day to be told that my grandad had under 6 months to live - hed been taken to hospital that day and they'd run some tests and found pancreatic cancer amongt other things.
I guess you cant come to turns with it. The only way i coped is by mentally blocking it out and just enjoying the time i had with him - i had some of my best times / conversations with him in this period.
Then one of my mates died about a month before my grandad, so i went through a really rough time. I guess i had religion to comfort me and thats what pulled me through, (alongside my bike). If you want a chat pm me. it is going to be a tough period but the thing i learnt is be as cheerful as possible. the last thing your gran wants is a load of people fussing and being depressed.
I guess you cant come to turns with it. The only way i coped is by mentally blocking it out and just enjoying the time i had with him - i had some of my best times / conversations with him in this period.
Then one of my mates died about a month before my grandad, so i went through a really rough time. I guess i had religion to comfort me and thats what pulled me through, (alongside my bike). If you want a chat pm me. it is going to be a tough period but the thing i learnt is be as cheerful as possible. the last thing your gran wants is a load of people fussing and being depressed.
Breast cancer is very treatable these days, especially if it hasn't spread yet, so if the doctors are being optimistic, it could be because she has a good chance. I know when my Nana had lung cancer, the doctors weren't exactly straight with us about how much time she had left, but they were not at all optimistic, so I would take it as a good sign. It's a horrible shock finding out someone you love has cancer; if you need to get anything off your chest feel free to PM me (though you've already had lots of offers from the looks of things!). Spend as much time as you can with her. I really regret not spending much time with my Nana in the last few months, and even over a few years before she died, but I was at uni so there wasn't much I could do a lot of the time. But if you still live at home or near her, visit as much as you can and let her know you're there for her. And for the rest of your family too, as often they suffer as much as the ill person themselves.I really hope things turn out ok for your nana. x
Reply 19
my grandma had breast cancer, had a lumpectomy - it came back. had a masstectomy and she's still going strong. Depending on the overall health of the patient I think these days there's a pretty high survival rate
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