How would you feel about this?

Say you were going through a bad umemployment spell because of anxiety or depression issue and your dad is really annoyed and thought you were lazy. Your dad works with and knows a few people your age who you were kind of friends with and tells them that all you do is lie in bed all day, you don't go out at night etc would you be embarrased at them knowing?

Reply 1

ozzysmygod

If anxiety and depression is the cause of staying in bed and not going out, I wouldnt be embarased, but maybe going out would help with the anxiety and depression?

Reply 2

daniel_williams

15

i think its a case of your dad not understanding your isues maybe you should talk to him, or go see a doctor and take him along, they will be able to give you advice and maybe help you out with psychological assistance, and with your dad being there he may be able to understand more the ways you are feeling.

Reply 3

username158373

18

I'd be ashamed, i've been a lazy arse. Didn't go to college, wasn't learning, felt demoralized. I took a month off (unofficially) from college and just stayed in bed all day watched tv read ate etc. It's addictive, but if you just get up and get out one day. You realise everythings wicked, especially if you bump into some hot girl haha.

Reply 4

Nadinus

1

It's not exactly something would want broadcasted to my friends, that's pretty harsh of you dad. He's probably trying to get you to do something about it.
I would probably do something to assure him that you do want to help yourself, he probably gets the impression that you don't have any sort of motivation to do anything about it (correctly or incorrectly idk). But surely your friends would know that you've got problems going on and stuff, so they wouldn't judge you on it.
But do bear in mind that you're gonna have to get back on track at some point, and the longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

Reply 5

Sapphire_Eyes

14

i've been in this situation

if you suffer from this, try to go out the house twice a week at least, go onto a part time course you might feel better about yourself.

if these people ask you why then tell them and if they are mature people then they should be able to help you and understand if not they arent worth anything.

also try to apply for some part time work if you feel strong enough but only things within your abilities.

Reply 6

Anonymous,

OP

Nadinus

It's not exactly something would want broadcasted to my friends, that's pretty harsh of you dad. He's probably trying to get you to do something about it.
I would probably do something to assure him that you do want to help yourself, he probably gets the impression that you don't have any sort of motivation to do anything about it (correctly or incorrectly idk). But surely your friends would know that you've got problems going on and stuff, so they wouldn't judge you on it.
But do bear in mind that you're gonna have to get back on track at some point, and the longer you leave it, the harder it's going to be.

They are not really my friends more like friends of friends but I was going to join the judo club that one of them goes to. I play football and a few people there know them, its just I don't want everyone to know.

My dad knows my issues but he's not educated at all so doesn't believe in deppression and and stuff.

Reply 7

Sanity Panda

I'd feel bad for a while.

Then I'd think why does it matter anyway? Even if he doesn't think it's real, it's very real to me and that's the most important thing. Him telling everyone else, will just be a lie or hiding the real issue.

But... having said that. What are you doing about your anxiety and depressional issues?

Reply 8

Anonymous,

OP

Sanity Panda

I'd feel bad for a while.

Then I'd think why does it matter anyway? Even if he doesn't think it's real, it's very real to me and that's the most important thing. Him telling everyone else, will just be a lie or hiding the real issue.

But... having said that. What are you doing about your anxiety and depressional issues?

To be honest its all been going round in a huge circle for years, I see a councillor, stop seeing her because I feel ok and think I can cope, enroll on a college course or get a job, anxiety starts again but I stick it out, then I get panic attacks and quit, then my sleeping pattern becomes nocturnal. Curently im in quite a good position as I have recently got a job as a support worker so have a job where I can choose shifts and work when I want to, thing is I never book them. So far Ive done 9 shifts over 2 months but before each shift Im highly anxious and it usually goes away after about 4 hours of working but last time I had stomach ache and it makes me think whats the point in going through all that when I can make money selling on ebay, so yea there is lazyness there too. I know I need to stop hiding away and should work properly. Right now im back on the councillor list but im definately going to stick it out this time.

Im just sick of my dad putting me down in front of others part of me thinks I deserve it but at the same time im annoyed.

Reply 9

randomgirl

14

I'd tell my dad not to tell people stuff like. Yes I'd be embarrassed.

Although if they are your mates they shouldn't think any less of you because of it.

Reply 10

Nadinus

1

Anonymous,

They are not really my friends more like friends of friends but I was going to join the judo club that one of them goes to. I play football and a few people there know them, its just I don't want everyone to know.

My dad knows my issues but he's not educated at all so doesn't believe in deppression and and stuff.

Well maybe if you go they'll get to know you personally and it will override anything your Dad says. Have you tried asking him not to? Tell him that you need to sort stuff out on your own and that you don't feel comfortable him telling other people. Even if he doesn't understand it properly, or believe in clinical depression, I'm sure he can understand feeling depressed (and I'm not that convinced that there's a difference), or just by common respect for you wishes, I'm sure he would stop if you sincerely asked him to.

Reply 11

thisisyesterday

14

I'd be more worried about the fact that my friends hadn't noticed for themselves that I'm never out anymore lol

Reply 12

Sickminded

youre ****ing dad is a punk-ass for discussing personal family matters with people it doesnt concern..
it may be his motivation to embarrass you thus drive you to do something...
if he doesnt understand whats happening in your life then he apparently isnt what would be defined as a "supportive" entity in your life...

man, people that talk about **** which has no other value then to hurt someone makes me mad.....kinda like when I order a pizza and it doesnt get delivered *bastards*

Reply 13

.AJ.

yeah seriously i sometimes like order a cheese salad and then BAM HIT IT WITH AN UNRELATED METAPHORE

Reply 14

Sickminded

.AJ.

yeah seriously i sometimes like order a cheese salad and then BAM HIT IT WITH AN UNRELATED METAPHORE

Had to humor it somehow, I got depressed reading the damned post.. :frown:

Reply 15

ßlαcksωαn

17

Anonymous,

Say you were going through a bad umemployment spell because of anxiety or depression issue and your dad is really annoyed and thought you were lazy. Your dad works with and knows a few people your age who you were kind of friends with and tells them that all you do is lie in bed all day, you don't go out at night etc would you be embarrased at them knowing?

yeah I'd be pissed

Reply 16

.AJ.

ill let it pass then

more on topic, this is why i ignore my father alot of the time, but im just lazy ... thats about it :|

Reply 17

muel86

yeah, tell your dad to piss off! my dads a goon, bit of a control freak n thinks he knows best "youre not gonna get a job with hair like that" etc. i certainly didnt need it, nor do you! if anything when my dad interferes it annoys me to the point where i wanna do the opposite of what he wants me to, so tell him he's not helping

Reply 18

Dream_Catcher

1

I think you shoudl talk to your dad him saying that stuff as he doesn't know will only make you feel worse. Atleast if he knows he can understand how and what your goign through.

Reply 19

muel86

Dream_Catcher

I think you shoudl talk to your dad him saying that stuff as he doesn't know will only make you feel worse. Atleast if he knows he can understand how and what your goign through.

to be honest, i doubt hes that kind of dad

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