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Thumping your little brothers...
Anon for obvious reason. This is sort of related to the "brother tried to stab me thread", but here goes anyways.
Bit of background - A few years ago, me and my stepfather had issues over my behaviour towards my stepbrother - I was maybe 16 and my stepbrother 14, we used to argue, I think most brothers do, when he used to get on my nerves I'd go and lock myself in my room and he'd spend his time kicking the s*** out of my door - I mean big holes in the plywood (which I used to get it in the neck from my stepfather for winding him up - of course it was always my fault and was belted because of it on many occasions).
Sometime afterwards our family of 8 had to move to a three bed house where I had to share with my three brothers, so I couldn't get away from him at times, and he'd just keep winding me up until I smacked him one - I'm not talking punching face here, just once on arms or whatever, also I'd get *******ed for that, fair enough, but my stepfather never sanctioned him for provoking me.
Once I was watching TV, and he went and stood directly in front of me deliberately blocking my view, so I moved, whereupon he moved with me to keep blocking my view - my stepfather thought this was hilarious until I shoved my stepbrother out of the way so hard he ended up on his arse - guess what... If I'd been doing similar to my stepfather, he'd have beaten me with a belt.
Anyways, lots of situations like that, and those two are no longer in the picture. Now one of my other brothers is 14 and I'm in my 20's. I think I'm less angry as I'm older, but when things go on and on I just see red and feel really badly when I strike out. We do get along sometimes, but occasionally he'll keep on and on. The other day I was reading the paper and for no reason at all, he throws the remote down on to the paper. I keep hold of the remote, but he keeps picking things up and throwing them. Gets told to go away. Continues. Gets told to ******* off. Continues. Ask my mother to bring him out of the room - he ignores her and continues. Warning that if he keeps going he's going to get hit. At this point I'm really getting annoyed and I can feel myself thinking that if he does it once more I'm going to blow. He continues. REALLY yell at him to JUST **** OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE. He backs off a bit but laughs and throws a book onto the paper which results in me throwing paper and book at him and punching him on the arm. And then suddenly it's all my fault because I should know better. Of course if I was doing that to someone I'd expect to get punched.
Which is why I rarely visit my family anymore, because odds are that something like this will happen and I feel better knowing that I'm not putting myself in that situation.
Finished ranting, thanks for reading.
Bit of background - A few years ago, me and my stepfather had issues over my behaviour towards my stepbrother - I was maybe 16 and my stepbrother 14, we used to argue, I think most brothers do, when he used to get on my nerves I'd go and lock myself in my room and he'd spend his time kicking the s*** out of my door - I mean big holes in the plywood (which I used to get it in the neck from my stepfather for winding him up - of course it was always my fault and was belted because of it on many occasions).
Sometime afterwards our family of 8 had to move to a three bed house where I had to share with my three brothers, so I couldn't get away from him at times, and he'd just keep winding me up until I smacked him one - I'm not talking punching face here, just once on arms or whatever, also I'd get *******ed for that, fair enough, but my stepfather never sanctioned him for provoking me.
Once I was watching TV, and he went and stood directly in front of me deliberately blocking my view, so I moved, whereupon he moved with me to keep blocking my view - my stepfather thought this was hilarious until I shoved my stepbrother out of the way so hard he ended up on his arse - guess what... If I'd been doing similar to my stepfather, he'd have beaten me with a belt.
Anyways, lots of situations like that, and those two are no longer in the picture. Now one of my other brothers is 14 and I'm in my 20's. I think I'm less angry as I'm older, but when things go on and on I just see red and feel really badly when I strike out. We do get along sometimes, but occasionally he'll keep on and on. The other day I was reading the paper and for no reason at all, he throws the remote down on to the paper. I keep hold of the remote, but he keeps picking things up and throwing them. Gets told to go away. Continues. Gets told to ******* off. Continues. Ask my mother to bring him out of the room - he ignores her and continues. Warning that if he keeps going he's going to get hit. At this point I'm really getting annoyed and I can feel myself thinking that if he does it once more I'm going to blow. He continues. REALLY yell at him to JUST **** OFF AND LEAVE ME ALONE. He backs off a bit but laughs and throws a book onto the paper which results in me throwing paper and book at him and punching him on the arm. And then suddenly it's all my fault because I should know better. Of course if I was doing that to someone I'd expect to get punched.
Which is why I rarely visit my family anymore, because odds are that something like this will happen and I feel better knowing that I'm not putting myself in that situation.
Finished ranting, thanks for reading.
Reply 1
Sounds like they only do it to get a reaction out of you, which you seem to give. I guess it's too late to try and start ignoring them because they know if they keep at it they will get a reaction. Your stepdad is a right *****, he has no authority to physically hit you, especially using the belt. Hope your mum wasn't ok with him doing that. I would have hit my dad if he belted me, and then taken the wrath with pride. Move out if you can. Live with your dad/grandparents. Your step amily sound like scum. No offense.
Reply 2
Sounds like brotherly love to me. I dont agree with the whole stepfather thing though.
Perhaps the younger brother just wants some attention from you? Perhaps have a little more patience with him and talk to him like an adult. Try to involve him a little more maybe?
I bet he looks up to you.
Perhaps the younger brother just wants some attention from you? Perhaps have a little more patience with him and talk to him like an adult. Try to involve him a little more maybe?
I bet he looks up to you.
Reply 3
I understand what the OP means...sometimes brotherly love can result in arguments but from reading the original post, i doubt this is the case. It sounds more like your little brothers knowing you can never get at them. I've got a friend in a similar situation with her brother being more or less a total ungrateful butt claiming the right but no responsibility for being younger(also being favoured by the parents).
You should have serious talks with your parents about your brother's behavior if your dad side with them bring both your dad and your mom and all of you sit together and have a closure. Tell them exactly how you feel you're being treated and tell them how this not only hurt you but will affect your brothers' social development in the future as being spoilt and violent. Bring up as much evidence as you can, all that has happened and stress to them that this has to stop.
You should have serious talks with your parents about your brother's behavior if your dad side with them bring both your dad and your mom and all of you sit together and have a closure. Tell them exactly how you feel you're being treated and tell them how this not only hurt you but will affect your brothers' social development in the future as being spoilt and violent. Bring up as much evidence as you can, all that has happened and stress to them that this has to stop.
Reply 4
You must NEVER thump members of family, or family friends.
Reply 5
that_diesel
You must NEVER thump members of family, or family friends.
I disagree. I am the Benjamin of the family and I still often clash with my brother (he's 20, I'm 18). Not as often as we used to though but still sometimes. In general hitting each other isn't that bad, a way to let out all that testosterone! As long as you do no lasting damage and make peace at the end it's all good. tbh I even see it as a sort of bonding...
You however have to show that you won't accept your little brother ****ing around like that. Just hit him and he'll stop, because clearly he wants a reaction. Too bad your parents always blame you though, I'd have a talk with them and tell them you won't stand around and do nothing when your brother provokes you and that it's up to them to raise their son properly!
Reply 6
maybe he became your step-brother a little too late in life. brothers must always have respect for one another.
this may not work for most, but my older bropther and i used to fight, he gained my respect by always kicking my ass (not to hurt me just to the point i know i am the weaker one), but talking to me soon after, pointing out my faults in all fairness. the greatest pain can be inflicted by defeating someone then treating them as equals
this may not work for most, but my older bropther and i used to fight, he gained my respect by always kicking my ass (not to hurt me just to the point i know i am the weaker one), but talking to me soon after, pointing out my faults in all fairness. the greatest pain can be inflicted by defeating someone then treating them as equals
Reply 7
I smack my little sisters often. Never so hard as to bruise or mark them but hard enough to let them know to go away. I get shouted at by my mum, yes, but I always say that if she is unwilling (or unable, since I only tend to lash out after 3 or 4 warning have been shouted by my mum) to discipline her children, I will.
Reply 8
Should of poured some water over him.
Reply 9
that_diesel
You must NEVER thump members of family, or family friends.
unless they deserve it like ur step dad does
Reply 10
Your brother's a ****. However, as the ungrateful recipient of many a punch myself, I can't say I encourage it.
While your stepbrothers are behaving like brats, I think your anger management could be a lot better. I'm not a boy, so my views on thumping people are probably different, but I haven't hit my sister (who's 4 years younger) since I was about 8. They're clearly trying to provoke you, and it's working. Hitting them isn't going to change that much.
Reply 13
Wow. I didn't think scenarios like these existed apart from in dark dramas! Personally I would give more of my time to my dad than this 'family'. This sort of thing always seems to be associated with step-parents and I would have a real good go at your stepdad and then get far away, possibly living with a friend, your dad, or grandparent(s). Possibly speak to your mum about how you feel and how she should be defending you more when stuff like that happens so you don't have to lash out. Your stepdad sounds like he's an immature, oxygen-thief. Get away from him and his shi*ty little mini oxygen-thieves.
Reply 15
^Indeed, that sounds like a healthy relationship to me.
Reply 16
Should've thumped your step dad in the kidney, he seems a right cock.
Clock your brother one, he deserves it, that's how dogs learn how to **** on a tray, by showing them who's boss.
Clock your brother one, he deserves it, that's how dogs learn how to **** on a tray, by showing them who's boss.
Reply 17
That's the thing - was over at my nan's once when he threw his shoe at me, and got it thrown back at his head. My nan told him he deserved it and perhaps it would teach him how to behave in future. My nan used to have big arguments with my mum about the way my brother behaves, so now she just stays out of it. Ask my mum to discipline my brother? That's called having a go at her and not allowed.
Reply 18
Me and my brother are always beating the hell out of each other. It is just what brothers do, they piss each other off.
Reply 19
that_diesel
You must NEVER thump members of family, or family friends.
Id put money on you dont have a kid brother they are the most annoying things in the world im less than 3 years older than him and a grils so i just beat the crap out of him when he gets annoying.
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