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I've lost most of my friends....
I've had trouble with depression for a few years and it made/makes me isolate myself.
because of this i have lost most of my friends since high school, i have one or two friends left but they aren't all that good as friends, not like it was in high school where i had lots of friends.
It feels like i've really ****ed up, i'm sitting here thinking " i don't believe this, what happened?, i have no ****ing friends anymore"
i've never felt so alone in my life
because of this i have lost most of my friends since high school, i have one or two friends left but they aren't all that good as friends, not like it was in high school where i had lots of friends.
It feels like i've really ****ed up, i'm sitting here thinking " i don't believe this, what happened?, i have no ****ing friends anymore"
i've never felt so alone in my life
Reply 2
You might not have any friends, but that doesn't mean you can't get some. Those 2 people you mentioned, why don't you try and get to know them slightly better? Invite them round/for a drink/cinema or something?
Or if you fancy it try joining a club of some sort. Just put in a little bit of effort and I'm sure you'll reap the benefits of having some friends.
Don't feel like you should be embarassed/ashamed of the fact you have no friends, it's not like you are the only person to ever feel like this. You can remedy this problem, don't worry.
Have you seen a medical professional about your depression? If so, I perhaps suggest doing this, be it taking a course of therapy or anti-depressants etc.
hope you feel better soon!Reply 3
Hiya If it's any consolation, I think we all have periods like this where we end up in a place we don't like, wondering what happened. You're not alone in that.
May I ask what you are currently doing at the moment? Are you in college?
If it's any consolation, I think we all have periods like this where we end up in a place we don't like, wondering what happened. You're not alone in that.May I ask what you are currently doing at the moment? Are you in college?
Reply 4
I'm similar. I have kind of cut myself off from everyone, from emails to phone calls. I'd just rather be at home than go visit them. and sure you regret it later..but it feels like the right thing to do. you should get in contact if it's bothering you.
Reply 5
in reality when you leave school you are bound to loose touch with friends i only have one friend that i really talk to from school the rest dont bother with me, so i dont bother with them, just make some new friends, it might not feel the same as school, but then you have grown up a bit you have different relationships with different friends it doesnt mean they arn't good frinds though.
Reply 6
I get what you mean. I was in a similar situation earlier last year, when two very important people drifted away from me.
In April, I lost my former best friend. She completely changed after meeting her current boyfriend and she's become completely weird - isolates herself from old friends, is extremely religious, criticises people of other religions... I'm ashamed to have a fellow Christian like her. It was so weird, 'cause it happened overnight. :P Then in the summer, someone else very important to me left for abroad. I highly respected and adored him, 'cause he had helped me out a lot when I was new to my current school, and I owe him a lot. Unfortunately, we stopped keeping in touch after a few e-mails, and now the distance between us is like...from far end of our galaxy to the far end of another. I felt really alone during that period, even though I do have many other friends, because I had never had problems with friendships before then. I was so unhappy, I had to ask support groups for help. In time though, I learnt to look past the sadness and at the friends who reached out to me instead. I truly appreciate how they comforted me and took the time out to make sure I was happy again - I guess it's those who are there for you who are definite BFF's. Those who ditch you? Unworthy of you.
There's no definite solution for these problems, but the important thing is that you don't hurt yourself over this. Easier said than done, I know, but in time, you'll find friends who are keepers for life. Perhaps you already have these type of friends; maybe you just don't know it! Stay positive - no one can judge you except God.
Oh, and who says you can't have friends? I'll be your friend.
In April, I lost my former best friend. She completely changed after meeting her current boyfriend and she's become completely weird - isolates herself from old friends, is extremely religious, criticises people of other religions... I'm ashamed to have a fellow Christian like her. It was so weird, 'cause it happened overnight. :P Then in the summer, someone else very important to me left for abroad. I highly respected and adored him, 'cause he had helped me out a lot when I was new to my current school, and I owe him a lot. Unfortunately, we stopped keeping in touch after a few e-mails, and now the distance between us is like...from far end of our galaxy to the far end of another. I felt really alone during that period, even though I do have many other friends, because I had never had problems with friendships before then. I was so unhappy, I had to ask support groups for help. In time though, I learnt to look past the sadness and at the friends who reached out to me instead. I truly appreciate how they comforted me and took the time out to make sure I was happy again - I guess it's those who are there for you who are definite BFF's. Those who ditch you? Unworthy of you.
There's no definite solution for these problems, but the important thing is that you don't hurt yourself over this. Easier said than done, I know, but in time, you'll find friends who are keepers for life. Perhaps you already have these type of friends; maybe you just don't know it! Stay positive - no one can judge you except God.
Oh, and who says you can't have friends? I'll be your friend.
Reply 7
I'm at university but i don't have much in common with people in my class, i'm not into the "student lifestyle", i've done my fair share of drinking in the past and it's just boring to me now most of the time.
I find it hard to make friends even though i think i'm quite a likeable person.
I even think i was slightly popular a few years ago.
I'm seeing a psychologist for my depression, i've only seen her once though, i'll see her again on monday.
There is friends i used to have like 3 years ago that have just moved on with their life and have a new circle of friends, others have moved away.
I never realised how horrible it could feel not having friends.
I find it hard to make friends even though i think i'm quite a likeable person.
I even think i was slightly popular a few years ago.
I'm seeing a psychologist for my depression, i've only seen her once though, i'll see her again on monday.
There is friends i used to have like 3 years ago that have just moved on with their life and have a new circle of friends, others have moved away.
I never realised how horrible it could feel not having friends.
Reply 8
mynameisscott
I'm at university but i don't have much in common with people in my class, i'm not into the "student lifestyle", i've done my fair share of drinking in the past and it's just boring to me now most of the time.
I find it hard to make friends even though i think i'm quite a likeable person.
I even think i was slightly popular a few years ago.
I'm seeing a psychologist for my depression, i've only seen her once though, i'll see her again on monday.
There is friends i used to have like 3 years ago that have just moved on with their life and have a new circle of friends, others have moved away.
I never realised how horrible it could feel not having friends.
I find it hard to make friends even though i think i'm quite a likeable person.
I even think i was slightly popular a few years ago.
I'm seeing a psychologist for my depression, i've only seen her once though, i'll see her again on monday.
There is friends i used to have like 3 years ago that have just moved on with their life and have a new circle of friends, others have moved away.
I never realised how horrible it could feel not having friends.
Like above, I think it would help to get back in touch with your old friends. It's always tricky to make the first move, especially after such a duration, but even if nothing comes of it it'll bring some closure and confidence that may help in getting to know more people at university
Reply 9
Kurt Wobblegut
Friends come and go, like one night stands. Just get yourself out there and get involved in groups etc and i'm sure you'll be fine.
Kurt Wobblegut? BAHHAHAHHAAAAA.
That's very good.
Have you read Slapstick? Great book.
Reply 10
I dont really have many friends either, only 2 or 3. You can talk to me on msn if you want
Reply 12
Anonymous
I dont really have many friends either, only 2 or 3. You can talk to me on msn if you want
And what would be your MSN?
Anyway, if you want to talk, you can add me on MSN too, mynameisscott.
It's on my profile page.Reply 13
I'd say i'm in a similar yet different situation...I'm the kinda more academic less fun person so all of my friends keep a distance from me and kind of ignore me when it comes to fun and come back to me when they want help. I'm one of the longest existing students in my school and many newer friends are becoming closer to my older friends. Though i am still part of the group i'm really on the brink.
My first best friend move abroad and changed completely, and we drifted apart, my 2nd best friend was..well my best friend and i'm not exactly hers (if you know what i mean), i'm less significant to her than she is to me. There was a misunderstanding and we drifted apart too. I get along with everyone in general and few hate me. It's just that i don't have any close friends in school. Good thing i found someone during one of my summer camps and we really connected and we're now best friends despite living halfway across the globe.
Really, i think that you should open yourself to other people, go out to new places, reach outside your comfort zone, maybe the person who you'll find who will connect with you will come in later in life. It is a long way to go yet. There's also uni/work and i'll be able to make new friends. Friends are not forever and really in the end when you have your own family you'll be closest to them and your friends will fall to the background. Stay strong and you'll get through it just fine.
If you're already living alone, get a pet dog/cat or something, they're your friends for life and love you for who you are, don't backstab you, and don't drift away (unless you stop feeding them). Looking after a little dog can also be something to occupy yourself with and help with your depression. Consider it.
My first best friend move abroad and changed completely, and we drifted apart, my 2nd best friend was..well my best friend and i'm not exactly hers (if you know what i mean), i'm less significant to her than she is to me. There was a misunderstanding and we drifted apart too. I get along with everyone in general and few hate me. It's just that i don't have any close friends in school. Good thing i found someone during one of my summer camps and we really connected and we're now best friends despite living halfway across the globe.
Really, i think that you should open yourself to other people, go out to new places, reach outside your comfort zone, maybe the person who you'll find who will connect with you will come in later in life. It is a long way to go yet. There's also uni/work and i'll be able to make new friends. Friends are not forever and really in the end when you have your own family you'll be closest to them and your friends will fall to the background. Stay strong and you'll get through it just fine.
If you're already living alone, get a pet dog/cat or something, they're your friends for life and love you for who you are, don't backstab you, and don't drift away (unless you stop feeding them). Looking after a little dog can also be something to occupy yourself with and help with your depression. Consider it.
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