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Let's take a break....does it ever work?

I have been in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, and I think we need to take a break. We've spent practically all day together since we first hooked up, but she can't seem to decide whether she wants to have a serious relationship as she's been hurt in the past.
I don't want to take a break, and neither does she, I just feel that this is what's needed. Will having a break allow things to become more clear? Are breaks ever even a good idea?
What should I do?
Reply 1
Bumped. Sorry for the delay in post approval.
Reply 2
Suck it n see, mate.
You can make anything work if you put enough effort in. :smile:

Best of luck.
I don't think a break so early in the relationship is such a good idea. Cutting down on the time you spend together may be a good idea but in my opinion a break could be a disaster. The thing is at such an early stage there may not be that bond that makes you want to go back.

Maybe limit seeing eachother to every other day. And talk in the days you dont see each other. And talk to her about it, if you just take a break randomly that will be a disaster!!
A break full stop never really works.
Reply 5
Rock Fan
A break full stop never really works.


absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You may not need a full-on break..as in have NO contact, maybe just ease off a little, dont spend as much time together, and see what happens.
Reply 7
i dont think breaks ever work. its possible to just see each other a little less without a problem.
Reply 8
Breaks do not work. It is merely prolonging the inevitable. Communication with your partner is far better, you should be able to work through problems togther, grow together or what is even the point?

Why not spend less time together, spend more time with your friends. Make your direction in life less towards your partner and towards something else. Do different things together as well, maybe organise a trip away or something.
Reply 9
no


welll in my experence