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Taking a break in a relationship, is it worth it?
Is taking a break ever a good idea? Anybody have any clue of the pro's and con's of it through past experience?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
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Is taking a break ever a good idea? Anybody have any clue of the pro's and con's of it through past experience?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
in my experience they never work, you either give eachother space and see eachother less but otherwise go on as normal, or call it off and see if you get back together.. they seem like a way to prolong breaking up.. a relationship has a lot of issues if you're both prepared to stop seeing eachother for an undefined amount of time.
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i reckon theyre never worth it. its like u want 2 break up but neither of u want to hurt each other, understandably. going on a break is just the easy way out and you'll both end up getting hurt in the long run because people generally end up deciding they want different things. i agree with jaw. u either need to work at it and talk 2 make it better or call it a day full stop. wotever happens, i hope it works out xx
A break is simply not worth it, it's best to talk on whether to decide staying together or just simply cleanly breaking it off.
I did whilst I was doing my A2's. Its worked fairly well actually.
omly if you love each other or think it wont last not if ur unsure
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Is taking a break ever a good idea? Anybody have any clue of the pro's and con's of it through past experience?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
I'm just in the beginning stages of a pretty intense relationship, where both of us are spending all day and night together but still don't know what we want. I'm thinking maybe we should go on a complete break from eachother. Or should I just tone it down a small bit?
To my mind, taking a break seems to be a glorified mutural understanding that you have a couple of weeks to find someone else or shag guilt free. Why not just scrap that idea and spend half a day engaging brain and talking it through? If it isn't meant to be, then you may still be friends, whereas thats unlikely if the lass goes off with someone during the 'break'
I was gonna say like if you had exams or an important deadline, it would surely just easier to say, I can't really see you for a week or two because I need time to revise etc.
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To my mind, taking a break seems to be a glorified mutural understanding that you have a couple of weeks to find someone else or shag guilt free. Why not just scrap that idea and spend half a day engaging brain and talking it through? If it isn't meant to be, then you may still be friends, whereas thats unlikely if the lass goes off with someone during the 'break'
'Taking a break' doesn't necessarily mean going off and getting with someone else though, you can just cut the contact right down/off for a while, but stay together sort of thing, which can be good sometimes when you get frustrated at being around each other 24/7 and argue over petty things. It will either 1. make you see how much you miss and love each other or at least want to try to make it work or 2. that the relationship is a lost cause and it would be best to end it.
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'Taking a break' doesn't necessarily mean going off and getting with someone else though, you can just cut the contact right down/off for a while, but stay together sort of thing, which can be good sometimes when you get frustrated at being around each other 24/7 and argue over petty things. It will either 1. make you see how much you miss and love each other or at least want to try to make it work or 2. that the relationship is a lost cause and it would be best to end it.
Fair enough, but then you shouldn't own each other anyway - thats the first sign of a relationship that going absolutly nowhere. Theres nothing wrong with cutting the contact, but when most people want a break - they generally mean end.
What they say - "I think we should take a break."
What they mean - It's one of two things:
1: "I don't want to go out with you any more, but I'm too scared to tell you straight."
or
2: "I'm an emotional wreck, but I don't have any idea why, so I'll do something completely irrational to try and solve it, even though it'll make everything worse."
In short, the answer to the title of this topic is no.
What they mean - It's one of two things:
1: "I don't want to go out with you any more, but I'm too scared to tell you straight."
or
2: "I'm an emotional wreck, but I don't have any idea why, so I'll do something completely irrational to try and solve it, even though it'll make everything worse."
In short, the answer to the title of this topic is no.
Or they want to sleep with other people but if it goes pearshaped, they hope to simply come straight back to you after.
Personally, breaks are not worth it unless you're both fully aware of the consequences. It's like breaking up without literally verbalizing it ("I'm breaking up with you"). It results in messy misunderstandings, jealousy, etc.
At the moment, you both need to figure out what you want, talk about it with one another, and decide whether or not you want the same thing. It's all about communication.
The fact that you mentioned toning it down and taking a break would suggest that perhaps you are feeling overwhelmed. If so, think about the sources/causes of these feelings and talk it out.
Good luck!
At the moment, you both need to figure out what you want, talk about it with one another, and decide whether or not you want the same thing. It's all about communication.
The fact that you mentioned toning it down and taking a break would suggest that perhaps you are feeling overwhelmed. If so, think about the sources/causes of these feelings and talk it out.
Good luck!
It's not a good idea because it will mess with the head of at least one of you. Whoever is least in 'control' of the situation will come off worse, most likely. In rare circumstances I suppose they could work, but it really does seem like they just cause a cruel amount of heartache and a prolonged breakup which will really tax your mental strength.
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