As I person I never used to notice that I am quite a negative person and can look/be miserable. I don't like miserable /negative people so kind of have come to dislike myself. Now I try to be more positive and happy but I have to make a conscious effort I am not naturally a happy person. Anyone feel similar or have problems with depression?
I feel like this too, I spend most of my time being sad. Its hard to be happy but its quite easy to do happy things. This sucks because you aren't really happy, even when I'm smiling with other people, I don't truly feel happy, it really is like putting a mask on. For me actually being happy is the aim.
Generally I'm a happy person, I rarely feel sad and when I do it usually goes after 20-30 minutes as I tend to forget it all- which I guess is my coping mechanism for pain etc and it works quite well tbh.
I'm the same. I have the unfortunate tendency to ruminate about bad things, and let very small things bother me, like a cup or a pen of mine going missing. I can't fully relax until it's found. The personality type of being naturally more negative is 'neuroticism' and is one of 5 personality types a person is theoried to have. My mum has depression and lots of her siblings have mental health problems so it's very likely I've inherited this trait from her.
I too need to make a conscious effort to be more positive and happy; it can be done by 'letting go' of really bad and unhelpful thoughts, eg. When I start thinking negative things about the past, I'll make a conscious effort to stop and be like in my mind 'so what shall I have for dinner tonight?' or something like that.
I do find it irritating when a person just refuses to talk negatively about anything at all - some things you're allowed to be negative about and can't really be changed by 'thinking positively'.
When I’m not stressed then I’m happy so Idk maybe
To other people, yes. I'm good at pretending I'm Ok and happy.