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As I person I never used to notice that I am quite a negative person and can look/be miserable. I don't like miserable /negative people so kind of have come to dislike myself. Now I try to be more positive and happy but I have to make a conscious effort I am not naturally a happy person. Anyone feel similar or have problems with depression?
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I feel like this too, I spend most of my time being sad. Its hard to be happy but its quite easy to do happy things. This sucks because you aren't really happy, even when I'm smiling with other people, I don't truly feel happy, it really is like putting a mask on. For me actually being happy is the aim.
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(Original post by ninjay)
I feel like this too, I spend most of my time being sad. Its hard to be happy but its quite easy to do happy things. This sucks because you aren't really happy, even when I'm smiling with other people, I don't truly feel happy, it really is like putting a mask on. For me actually being happy is the aim.
but how will you achieve it ? what's the goal? what's lacking right now?
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No, I am quite neurotic.
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I think that happiness requires effort — it’s hard to naturally be happy. I find mindfulness really useful, or playing piano. Basically anything that gets me “in the zone”… that’s happiness to me
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Generally I'm a happy person, I rarely feel sad and when I do it usually goes after 20-30 minutes as I tend to forget it all- which I guess is my coping mechanism for pain etc and it works quite well tbh.
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I don't think I'm happy either I think what I need in life is to disconnect from where I am grab a bag and travel meet new people.
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Lol I’m dead inside.
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Sure ...10% of the the time. The 90% involves me wanting to kms though.
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I'm the same. I have the unfortunate tendency to ruminate about bad things, and let very small things bother me, like a cup or a pen of mine going missing. I can't fully relax until it's found. The personality type of being naturally more negative is 'neuroticism' and is one of 5 personality types a person is theoried to have. My mum has depression and lots of her siblings have mental health problems so it's very likely I've inherited this trait from her.

I too need to make a conscious effort to be more positive and happy; it can be done by 'letting go' of really bad and unhelpful thoughts, eg. When I start thinking negative things about the past, I'll make a conscious effort to stop and be like in my mind 'so what shall I have for dinner tonight?' or something like that.

I do find it irritating when a person just refuses to talk negatively about anything at all - some things you're allowed to be negative about and can't really be changed by 'thinking positively'.
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(Original post by TheRuralJuror)
but how will you achieve it ? what's the goal? what's lacking right now?
Doing what makes you happy is a good way to be happy, but I'm not doing enough of it. For me relaxing after working hard and listening to music whilst I work makes me happy. The goal is to do more of this because I feel good when I do this but the problem is that I'm addicted to other things
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When I’m not stressed then I’m happy so Idk maybe
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(Original post by ninjay)
Doing what makes you happy is a good way to be happy, but I'm not doing enough of it. For me relaxing after working hard and listening to music whilst I work makes me happy. The goal is to do more of this because I feel good when I do this but the problem is that I'm addicted to other things
but that's going to become routine after a while that's not long term happyness
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To other people, yes. I'm good at pretending I'm Ok and happy.
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(Original post by TheRuralJuror)
but that's going to become routine after a while that's not long term happyness
Being happy requires a balance of things e.g. work, relaxation, family, friends. All of these things in moderation makes you happy. You just need to find the time to include everything in your life and that's the real challenge, getting the balance right
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(Original post by ninjay)
Being happy requires a balance of things e.g. work, relaxation, family, friends. All of these things in moderation makes you happy. You just need to find the time to include everything in your life and that's the real challenge, getting the balance right
now you just sound like a ninja master or something
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(Original post by Anonymous)
As I person I never used to notice that I am quite a negative person and can look/be miserable. I don't like miserable /negative people so kind of have come to dislike myself. Now I try to be more positive and happy but I have to make a conscious effort I am not naturally a happy person. Anyone feel similar or have problems with depression?
I am but not at the moment,
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To other people, yes. I'm good at pretending I'm Ok and happy.
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(Original post by TheRuralJuror)
now you just sound like a ninja master or something
That's why my nickname is ninjay, lol seriously though i'm not a master of anything I just have personal experience of what makes me happy
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I’m pessimistic af
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