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First of all, I'm fat but I'm not morbidly obese or anything. However this friend thinks that it is appropriate for her to always comment on my weight whenever I see her. I only see her roughly once every 2 months so it doesn't bother me that much but I still want her to stop. Her most frequently used insult is that I have a 'big appetite' and this is most definitely not said as a compliment. Usually I'll try to just laugh it off and ignore it because I don't want to make a big deal about it (especially in front of other friends) but her comments and attitude towards me are affecting me more and more each time she says something. She also only says something when its just me and her talking(when no one else it with us or listening to our conversation) I feel like I'm probably over reacting to this but it just makes me kinda self conscious.
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Tell her straight up when she insults you next time. You're obviously affected by it, so not sure why you stated that it doesn't bother you (and then later said it's affecting you more and more). Just be honest with her about what she's saying, if she doesn't stop then don't talk to her.
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Honestly you just have to ignore it and be confident about your body. I'm Asian and I'm not skinny so relatives and family friends are ALWAYS commenting on my weight and how much I eat but I've learned to ignore it. I'm happy with my weight and I proudly tell people I have a huge appetite
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(Original post by Anonymous)
First of all, I'm fat but I'm not morbidly obese or anything. However this friend thinks that it is appropriate for her to always comment on my weight whenever I see her. I only see her roughly once every 2 months so it doesn't bother me that much but I still want her to stop. Her most frequently used insult is that I have a 'big appetite' and this is most definitely not said as a compliment. Usually I'll try to just laugh it off and ignore it because I don't want to make a big deal about it (especially in front of other friends) but her comments and attitude towards me are affecting me more and more each time she says something. She also only says something when its just me and her talking(when no one else it with us or listening to our conversation) I feel like I'm probably over reacting to this but it just makes me kinda self conscious.
it is none of her business how much you eat or weigh.
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(Original post by slothonist)
Honestly you just have to ignore it and be confident about your body. I'm Asian and I'm not skinny so relatives and family friends are ALWAYS commenting on my weight and how much I eat but I've learned to ignore it. I'm happy with my weight and I proudly tell people I have a huge appetite
thanks for the advice, im asian too so im used to my family saying it so much that ive learnt to ignore it (in fact its kind of a joke within my family lol) but when my friends say something I guess it just affects me more than it should
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(Original post by Pathway)
Tell her straight up when she insults you next time. You're obviously affected by it, so not sure why you stated that it doesn't bother you (and then later said it's affecting you more and more). Just be honest with her about what she's saying, if she doesn't stop then don't talk to her.
i just meant that it doesnt affect me as much as it would if i had to put up with her everyday
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(Original post by Anonymous)
First of all, I'm fat but I'm not morbidly obese or anything. However this friend thinks that it is appropriate for her to always comment on my weight whenever I see her. I only see her roughly once every 2 months so it doesn't bother me that much but I still want her to stop. Her most frequently used insult is that I have a 'big appetite' and this is most definitely not said as a compliment. Usually I'll try to just laugh it off and ignore it because I don't want to make a big deal about it (especially in front of other friends) but her comments and attitude towards me are affecting me more and more each time she says something. She also only says something when its just me and her talking(when no one else it with us or listening to our conversation) I feel like I'm probably over reacting to this but it just makes me kinda self conscious.
Is she a bit on the chubby side or does she have an obvious flaw? I think I'd start making remarks back if it were me, like "so tell me, why aren't you a size 8, seeing as losing weight is obviously easy to you?" "I'm sorry, I was distracted by that giant mole on your face." She'll have something to say then, I'm sure. :lol: Or I would just not hang out with her or avoid her when I could. If she's a family friend, then tell someone close in your family what she's doing and how it's making you feel so hopefully, they will avoid bringing you two together.
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Is she a bit on the chubby side or does she have an obvious flaw? I think I'd start making remarks back if it were me, like "so tell me, why aren't you a size 8, seeing as losing weight is obviously easy to you?" "I'm sorry, I was distracted by that giant mole on your face." She'll have something to say then, I'm sure. :lol: Or I would just not hang out with her or avoid her when I could. If she's a family friend, then tell someone close in your family what she's doing and how it's making you feel so hopefully, they will avoid bringing you two together.
lmao shes quite petite both height and weight wise, and she has a baby face so i cant really say anything.

Our mums dont get along (mainly because this friends younger sister is really rude to my little sister for literally no reason) so ive tried distancing myself but were all part of this small group so its difficult. Now that i think about it, its probably her mum b1tching about me and my family and shes just repeating it to me.
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Next time she says something just act as though you can't hear her at all. Literally just blank her. Either that or tell her that your weight is absolutely none of her business.
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