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So my boyfriend occasionally likes sexy photos of girls on Twitter and Instagram. He follows Instagram models who just post inappropriate photos of themselves. It really annoys me but I never say anything about it because I feel as if it's not my business.
I feel down whenever I see this stuff on my timeline and it also makes me look stupid because other people would see it too.

Should I talk to him about it since it's really starting to bother me?
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Yes but ask curiously try not to make it as big of a deal as it might be another reason behind it but their probably isn’t but you never know
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Like images of sexy men Lol, honestly, you should just be upfront with him. If you've got a serious relationship going on, then I'm pretty sure he will understand and be more respectful to you if you just tell him how you feel about it. Just be upfront, don't hide anything. It will help you have a healthy long-term relationship with him, trust me. Tell him if he has anything that bothers about what you do, to open up about it. It brings a lot of trust when you do that
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He finds people attractive, that's part of being a human being. People like you who put so much emphasis on a press of a button are the ones who end up causing conflicts in a relationship. You have a very long way to go if you're bothered by this sort of thing.

It becomes a problem if he's flirting with them or trying to hit on them.

Is he liking a picture of one of his friends? Everyone likes their friend's pictures.

Is he liking a celebrity or a model? Again, a lot of people do this.

A sexual picture of a random girl he was talking to at the end of a night out? Then that is a concern.

Have a look at the kinds of pictures he's liking. If you are truly concerned about him hitting on other girls then definitely talk to him about it.
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(Original post by Zaynnn)
Like images of sexy men Lol, honestly, you should just be upfront with him. If you've got a serious relationship going on, then I'm pretty sure he will understand and be more respectful to you if you just tell him how you feel about it. Just be upfront, don't hide anything. It will help you have a healthy long-term relationship with him, trust me. Tell him if he has anything that bothers about what you do, to open up about it. It brings a lot of trust when you do that


Yes I agree with you , if they do have a good strong relationship he will understand and respect your wishes
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He finds people attractive, that's part of being a human being. People like you who put so much emphasis on a press of a button are the ones who end up causing conflicts in a relationship. You have a very long way to go if you're bothered by this sort of thing.

It becomes a problem if he's flirting with them or trying to hit on them.

Is he liking a picture of one of his friends? Everyone likes their friend's pictures.

Is he liking a celebrity or a model? Again, a lot of people do this.

A sexual picture of a random girl he was talking to at the end of a night out? Then that is a concern.

Have a look at the kinds of pictures he's liking. If you are truly concerned about him hitting on other girls then definitely talk to him about it.
The photos he likes are mostly of girls who are not celebrities. They're literally random girls. This just developed my concern that he might be talking to other girls since he never lets me see his phone screen... but that's a different story:unimpressed:
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No I totally get you. There's nothing wrong with thinking someone looks good but to go out of his way to like it, thus giving that girl validation is quite unnecessary when he's in a relationship. Because why is it so important for him to let this girl know he likes her picture/the way she looks? He should only be doing that if he's single in order to show his interest. And now instagram has the save feature, if he likes a picture that much he can save it. I'm sure you're not some crazy psycho girlfriend and if you saw him liking a picture of one of his close female friends with her mum you wouldn't care. And the occasional hot pic of a celebrity could also be fine. But I agree, to everyone else who can see his activity, it can be a bit embarrassing for you, like he's not satisfied and is looking elsewhere?

Anyway I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, which is probably why your boyfriend doesn't see it as a big deal, because for him it probably means nothing and he has no intention of doing anything. But if it's something that bothers you, and something that he could quite easily stop without causing him to compromise too much on anything, then you should still talk to him.
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(Original post by UWS)
He finds people attractive, that's part of being a human being. People like you who put so much emphasis on a press of a button are the ones who end up causing conflicts in a relationship. You have a very long way to go if you're bothered by this sort of thing.

It becomes a problem if he's flirting with them or trying to hit on them.

Is he liking a picture of one of his friends? Everyone likes their friend's pictures.

Is he liking a celebrity or a model? Again, a lot of people do this.

A sexual picture of a random girl he was talking to at the end of a night out? Then that is a concern.

Have a look at the kinds of pictures he's liking. If you are truly concerned about him hitting on other girls then definitely talk to him about it.
This. There is a difference between liking pictures of people you find attractive (especially nowadays when everyone puts their life online) and being in a relationship with someone. It's not a simple matter of one or the other.
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Tell him it makes you uncomfortable or upsets you. If he is a good boyfriend he would stop

Personally, it wouldnt upset me if my boyfriend was liking pictures of famous models that he didnt know

It would upset me more if he was liking pictures of non famous girls, like from uni or random girls he was following.

Unless he is also posting creepy comments and sending dms offering to paypal them money for nude pictures, I would worry too much.
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omds i fully understand how you feel,My boyfriend followed girls like that on social media and liked pictures of them which annoyed me so much.I spoke to him about it and he understood that if i done it then he wouldn't like it either.If your boyfriend loves you and understands how you feel then you shouldn't keep it in because the anger will worsen over time and you will get more and more paranoid about the situation. Take a slow and calm approach to the situation and tell him how you feel and how much you love him too.Trust him,Im 100% certain he loves such an open and kind person like youGood luck xx
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No I totally get you. There's nothing wrong with thinking someone looks good but to go out of his way to like it, thus giving that girl validation is quite unnecessary when he's in a relationship. Because why is it so important for him to let this girl know he likes her picture/the way she looks? He should only be doing that if he's single in order to show his interest. And now instagram has the save feature, if he likes a picture that much he can save it. I'm sure you're not some crazy psycho girlfriend and if you saw him liking a picture of one of his close female friends with her mum you wouldn't care. And the occasional hot pic of a celebrity could also be fine. But I agree, to everyone else who can see his activity, it can be a bit embarrassing for you, like he's not satisfied and is looking elsewhere?

Anyway I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this, which is probably why your boyfriend doesn't see it as a big deal, because for him it probably means nothing and he has no intention of doing anything. But if it's something that bothers you, and something that he could quite easily stop without causing him to compromise too much on anything, then you should still talk to him.
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Tell him it makes you uncomfortable or upsets you. If he is a good boyfriend he would stop

Personally, it wouldnt upset me if my boyfriend was liking pictures of famous models that he didnt know

It would upset me more if he was liking pictures of non famous girls, like from uni or random girls he was following.

Unless he is also posting creepy comments and sending dms offering to paypal them money for nude pictures, I would worry too much.
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omds i fully understand how you feel,My boyfriend followed girls like that on social media and liked pictures of them which annoyed me so much.I spoke to him about it and he understood that if i done it then he wouldn't like it either.If your boyfriend loves you and understands how you feel then you shouldn't keep it in because the anger will worsen over time and you will get more and more paranoid about the situation. Take a slow and calm approach to the situation and tell him how you feel and how much you love him too.Trust him,Im 100% certain he loves such an open and kind person like youGood luck xx
Thank you sooo much for understanding! I will talk to him about it
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This. There is a difference between liking pictures of people you find attractive (especially nowadays when everyone puts their life online) and being in a relationship with someone. It's not a simple matter of one or the other.
It's unfair because he wouldn't be happy if I done the same thing. I totally understand liking celebrity photos but liking pictures of 'insta models' or random girls who aren't your friends is not right if you're in a relationship.
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Talk to him about it but calmly don’t make it come across as though you are telling him what he can and can’t do. But yes you deffo should coz it is bothering and if he cares he will do something about it.
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I would suggest that you have an open conversation about how it makes you feel and see what his response is... He may be annoyed at first and then come round to discussion later.

However, attraction is a normal part of every-day life, and in a healthy, emotionally mature, relationship you should both understand that you and your partner will find other people attractive. In my opinion, you should be able to discuss this rationally without either trying to control the others behaviour. You should be able to discuss who you do and do not find attractive but still have the trust there to know they wont do anything about it - in a monogamous relationship of course.

I personally wouldn't be bothered if my partner was liking other people's pictures... Another person is not possession, and in reality they are free to do whatever they want. It's all about trust... and it seems like you just don't trust him or unsure of your relationship?

However, If say I liked a picture of a female friend etc. and my partner came to me and said that they were unhappy about it. I would try and look at the underlying behavioural reasons to why they were bothered..., as it indicates some form of insecurity, or uncertainty either about my commitment or it could be something that has happened to them in the past etc.

In the grand scheme of things, as long as he's not sending DM's etc. to them then it's nothing to worry about. Simply tell him how it makes you feel and see how he responds. You certainly don't want to start liking pictures, and playing mind games with someone just to make a point of how it makes you feel, or tell him what he can or can't do as both are forms of emotional abuse and if done consistently are I'm sure a criminal offence. Not to mention immature.
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It's unfair because he wouldn't be happy if I done the same thing. I totally understand liking celebrity photos but liking pictures of 'insta models' or random girls who aren't your friends is not right if you're in a relationship.
Arguably that's a personal preference though and if you feel that way you need to discuss it with him.

Ultimately, everyone is wired to like things they find pleasing. In this case, that's an attractive human body. It's not technically any different to walking down the street and staring at someone you find attractive. The only difference is modern life has taught kids to live online, so instead of staring at real people, they like pictures on social media.

I'm not disagreeing with you, if I were in a relationship I'd not be actively searching for pictures of other women, and would be hurt if my other half were searching for other men. But this is a personal thing that you feel and your boyfriend may feel differently. If it makes you uncomfortable, which it clearly does, the only way around that is by discussing it with him.
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The photos he likes are mostly of girls who are not celebrities. They're literally random girls. This just developed my concern that he might be talking to other girls since he never lets me see his phone screen... but that's a different story:unimpressed:
Judging by this post, I'd be seriously worried if I were you.
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So I have a question. My boyfriend of almost 2 years who is always made me feel like you only had eyes on me. But sometimes he likes half naked girls on Instagram. And I have very bad insecurity issues. He always tells me I look beautiful without makeup. But sometimes I want to feel good about myself so yes I do wear makeup. He woke up for work this morning came in to give me a kiss and tell me goodbye and that he loves me like you always does. This morning he went a little bit farther and told me I was his everything that I was the prettiest thing he is ever seen. Not even an hour later and I see him like 3 pictures of the same girl. Who lives In the town he used to work at. She's 19 and these are professional half naked pictures. Am I stupid for feeling hurt? Am I stupid for feeling like I have to compete with social media? I'm not very good at hiding my emotions so I know he's going to know something is wrong when he gets home. And I don't know how to bring it up to him. I love this man with all my heart and I find it very hard to find anybody else attractive. Yeah I mean I can see people that are okay looking but actually want to see them half naked or feel sexually aroused by them is almost impossible. Because my boyfriend is everything I have ever wanted. And to me the most attractive thing I've ever laid eyes on. I just wish I'd felt like I didn't have to compete. I wish I felt like he meant it when he says I am the prettiest thing you ever seen. I just want to not have to feel insecure. It's so hard for me because my ex-boyfriend slept with my mom while we were still together. And that really messed me up. And I try so hard to not hold that against my boyfriend now. But I just have this fear that every female is out to get me. And take away what makes me happy just out of spite or to say that they could do it.
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(Original post by Onna.houston)
So I have a question. My boyfriend of almost 2 years who is always made me feel like you only had eyes on me. But sometimes he likes half naked girls on Instagram. And I have very bad insecurity issues. He always tells me I look beautiful without makeup. But sometimes I want to feel good about myself so yes I do wear makeup. He woke up for work this morning came in to give me a kiss and tell me goodbye and that he loves me like you always does. This morning he went a little bit farther and told me I was his everything that I was the prettiest thing he is ever seen. Not even an hour later and I see him like 3 pictures of the same girl. Who lives In the town he used to work at. She's 19 and these are professional half naked pictures. Am I stupid for feeling hurt? Am I stupid for feeling like I have to compete with social media? I'm not very good at hiding my emotions so I know he's going to know something is wrong when he gets home. And I don't know how to bring it up to him. I love this man with all my heart and I find it very hard to find anybody else attractive. Yeah I mean I can see people that are okay looking but actually want to see them half naked or feel sexually aroused by them is almost impossible. Because my boyfriend is everything I have ever wanted. And to me the most attractive thing I've ever laid eyes on. I just wish I'd felt like I didn't have to compete. I wish I felt like he meant it when he says I am the prettiest thing you ever seen. I just want to not have to feel insecure. It's so hard for me because my ex-boyfriend slept with my mom while we were still together. And that really messed me up. And I try so hard to not hold that against my boyfriend now. But I just have this fear that every female is out to get me. And take away what makes me happy just out of spite or to say that they could do it.
You have a right to feel hurt.
There's a difference between liking explicit photos of a celebrity like Kim Kardashian and someone you know personally. You're not insecure for feeling that way, he shouldn't be lusting over other girls when he has you.
Maybe you should talk to him?
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