I feel very low :(

1. I just got rejected from Oxford. I know it's not the be all and end all, but it was honestly heads and shoulders above the other universities I applied too. Despite getting offers from UCL and Bristol, both very good universities, for the course I am doing they aren't great. And yet I'm consigned to the belief that reapplying next year is a stupid and risky decision, so I'm accepting the fact that I will never be able to go to my first choice.
2. I have an injury in my leg that I got a few days ago that will keep me off sport for over a month, maybe two. This means that I will likely miss all of the football season (my favourite sport) in my last year at school
3. My long-term girlfriend broke up with me after new years. Apparently it was one of her 'resolutions'. I felt really awful after that, and still feel it now.
4. I have mocks in a week, yet I've done very little revision. I feel no motivation to bust a gut to get into universities I don't want to go to, not to mention don't have the time to cram everything.

Advice?

1. There are other universities similar to Oxford, see if you can get into one with similar entry requirements and just think of them as Oxford. Making friends should also help lift your spirit.
2. I don't know about the injury in your leg but just do everything you possibly can to help you recover and maybe you will get what you want. Just keep saying to yourself "I will get better".
3. Your girlfriend sounds like a d*ck, you'll find someone much better in time (potentially in university). If you don't, it's not the end of the world. Just carry on with your life like you normally would and worry about your future more than a relationship.
4. Keep the "can do" head on to get you through your mocks by researching universities similar to Oxford and revising hard for them. If you lack motivation, see your GP and they can give you helpful advice to help you regain your motivation. You have a future ahead of you and you need to start believing in yourself more.

Hope that helps. Wishing the best for you

1. I just got rejected from Oxford. I know it's not the be all and end all, but it was honestly heads and shoulders above the other universities I applied too. Despite getting offers from UCL and Bristol, both very good universities, for the course I am doing they aren't great. And yet I'm consigned to the belief that reapplying next year is a stupid and risky decision, so I'm accepting the fact that I will never be able to go to my first choice.
2. I have an injury in my leg that I got a few days ago that will keep me off sport for over a month, maybe two. This means that I will likely miss all of the football season (my favourite sport) in my last year at school
3. My long-term girlfriend broke up with me after new years. Apparently it was one of her 'resolutions'. I felt really awful after that, and still feel it now.
4. I have mocks in a week, yet I've done very little revision. I feel no motivation to bust a gut to get into universities I don't want to go to, not to mention don't have the time to cram everything.

Advice?

thanks. Believing in myself is the one thing I'm not good at :/

1. I just got rejected from Oxford. I know it's not the be all and end all, but it was honestly heads and shoulders above the other universities I applied too. Despite getting offers from UCL and Bristol, both very good universities, for the course I am doing they aren't great. And yet I'm consigned to the belief that reapplying next year is a stupid and risky decision, so I'm accepting the fact that I will never be able to go to my first choice.
2. I have an injury in my leg that I got a few days ago that will keep me off sport for over a month, maybe two. This means that I will likely miss all of the football season (my favourite sport) in my last year at school
3. My long-term girlfriend broke up with me after new years. Apparently it was one of her 'resolutions'. I felt really awful after that, and still feel it now.
4. I have mocks in a week, yet I've done very little revision. I feel no motivation to bust a gut to get into universities I don't want to go to, not to mention don't have the time to cram everything.

Advice?

First of all, I just want to say that I'm so sorry that all this has happened to you. With regards to Oxford rejection, I know exactly how you feel - one year ago, I was rejected from Oxford, the university of my dreams, and I thought my world had ended. I know that it was so hard to see others celebrating while all your aspirations have been shattered. I want you to know that it does, and will, get better. I know it probably doesn't feel like it (and if you told me that a year ago, I wouldn't have believed you either), but nevertheless your life will get better.

You said that taking a gap year is risky - maybe you could give that some thought if you are set on going to Oxford? In my experience, my Cambridge interviews this year were made a lot easier having already gone through the stressful Oxford ones last year. It all depends on subject though - I'm not trying to influence you in a certain direction, I just think you should know it is an option for you if you want.

Have you visited UCL and Bristol? I found last year that, having not visited St Andrews for example, I was pretty unwilling to give it a chance after being rejected by Oxford. However, I was much more open to the idea once I went to a subject open day and actually visited the place (if you have, ignore this haha).

With regards to your girlfriend breaking up with you, know that this seems to be more a sign of her unkindness than anything you've done wrong. As an outsider, it seems that her actions are quite childish and hurtful, and know that this isn't a reflection on you but on her that she decided to break up with you in this way.

Something I found helpful when revising last year was to uncouple my exams from getting into university - instead of using a university place as motivation, maybe you could think of the grades you would like independent of that? Also, I kindof tried to use my rejection as motivation (bear with me) when revising, as if I was 'proving them wrong' or something. Also, if you're worried about teachers judging your poor performance, they know that being rejected from somewhere like Oxford can be massive, and they'll understand if you underperform in your mocks.

Are there any other extracurricular activities that you could pick up to replace football for the time being? It might be useful to have something to take your mind off things.

Again I want to stress that you being rejected from Oxford doesn't mean that you aren't worthy, clever or talented - remember that they also have to look at whether you'd suit the teaching style at Oxford, and maybe the professors thought you would benefit from a different style of teaching elsewhere.

Edit: after reading some other comments, I would also recommend maybe talking to your doctor. As someone with experience of seeking help for mental health concerns, I can't promise you that there will be no waiting list and you'll get help immediately, but on balance it's better to try and access these kind of things than not.

great advice, thank you.

I have visited both UCL and Bristol, and whilst they both had a brilliant vibe and our outstanding for most other courses, for my course (geography) their versions didn't really click with me. That said I will definitely look into them much more because they are great universities!

Conversely, the idea of a gap year never appealed to me, so I will also look into that again. Maybe a year out will help me.

When you reapplied, did you reapply to all the same universities (except Oxford) again and did this affect any of your application? That's my main qualm about reapplying; I don't want to reapply if my chances are slimmed so considerably so that I won't be able to get into Oxford or any of my other choices!

With my leg I've already booked to see a physio, hopefully they have good news !