This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- How do u kiss
- regret my first kiss
- relationships
- At how old u got ur first kiss?!
- I kissed her on the 4th date and she said we're moving too fast
- I don't understand kissing
- sex for the first time?
- Situationship help! only met drunk + at night so i cant remember him but want a date!
- sexual assault or not?
- At how old you had your first kiss?!
- 18 virgin never kissed
- I kissed a 29 year old guy, and I am just 22 , I'm feeling traumatized right now..
- Possibly being slow faded after 3rd date?
- im 19 female with zero experience in relationships so
- Finally had my first kiss :D
- Can’t tell if I like him
- Is it to late to make a move now on a girl I've liked for 2 .5 years ? not kissed yet
- I kissed a friend with syphilis
- Question for all the boyfriends to girls
- Should I go on Hinge? I've never had a boyfriend before
How to Take That First Kiss?
Hey TSR.
Just wondering if anyone could help me with something that's causing me a bit of anxiety. I should warn you now though, this could turn out to be a lengthy post.
See, there's this girl I met at least a year ago. The circumstances were extremely random and, given that I was working at the time and I seem to recall her having a boyfriend at the time, I can't quite figure out to this day why she started talking to me. But that's not important - what is important is that it happened. And yeah...I developed a bit of a crush on her, but I managed to shrug it off, thinking it was just cos she's attractive.
Fast forward a few months, and I find out that she's single again. But in another city at a different Uni. But, she'd occasionally come back to her home town, and we'd see each other where we worked, and we progressed to friendly "hello" hugs. No big deal, I know.
A bit more recently, however, and things look like they might be developing further. I know it's silly, but there are a lot of pokes between us on Facebook, and we're always messaging each other in some way. And then Christmas came - the first proper chance she had to stay around. We met up once in a nightclub, as planned, and had a good night, but was cut short when all of her friends wanted to go home. So I let it be. But then, for NYE, and the Saturday after (which was one of her friend's birthdays), she wanted to meet up with me again. But, since I actually work in the nightclub, I had to work NYE (I was told I could finish at 1 so I could spend at least some time with her, but management lied), and on the Saturday, they just flat-out refused to let me in, despite this being the last chance I'd have to see her before she went back to Uni. But, at least, on NYE, she came to see me anyway, and we hugged to wish each other a happy new year, but it felt different, as if it was a bit more intimate than usual.
And finally, fast forward to the weekend just passed. We're still talking through various media, and she tells me she'll be home for the weekend, and that she'll probably be going to my nightclub, which peeves me off a little - I have to work two out of three main nights, and the two decent ones that she'll likely turn up to, I'm working, because I've agreed to DJ somewhere else for a bit on Friday. But she asks about the night I'm free, and asks if she can come along. Jubilations, I'll get to see her while I'm not working after all! She also asked her friends to come along, but for various reasons, they can't, to which she asks if it's ok if just she turns up. So it's going to end up being just me, her, and cheap alcohol. So, there you have at least the main background to why I'm posting this.
Now, the slight dilemma. I know there's a very real chance something might happen on Friday between us. But, as it happens, I've only ever kissed two girls before. The first initiated the kiss. I was a little bit shocked we'd moved that fast, but enjoyed it anyway, and it went ok. The second, we were both very drunk (her more than me), and the kiss was terrible. Very little happened, and I felt nothing from it. So, taking that as minimal experience on my part, I'm just wondering, if there's a moment on Friday, what's the best way I should perhaps try and initiate the first kiss? Because, by now, I do like this girl very much, and if there's a chance that she feels the same and something could happen between us, I want to take it.
Just wondering if anyone could help me with something that's causing me a bit of anxiety. I should warn you now though, this could turn out to be a lengthy post.
See, there's this girl I met at least a year ago. The circumstances were extremely random and, given that I was working at the time and I seem to recall her having a boyfriend at the time, I can't quite figure out to this day why she started talking to me. But that's not important - what is important is that it happened. And yeah...I developed a bit of a crush on her, but I managed to shrug it off, thinking it was just cos she's attractive.
Fast forward a few months, and I find out that she's single again. But in another city at a different Uni. But, she'd occasionally come back to her home town, and we'd see each other where we worked, and we progressed to friendly "hello" hugs. No big deal, I know.
A bit more recently, however, and things look like they might be developing further. I know it's silly, but there are a lot of pokes between us on Facebook, and we're always messaging each other in some way. And then Christmas came - the first proper chance she had to stay around. We met up once in a nightclub, as planned, and had a good night, but was cut short when all of her friends wanted to go home. So I let it be. But then, for NYE, and the Saturday after (which was one of her friend's birthdays), she wanted to meet up with me again. But, since I actually work in the nightclub, I had to work NYE (I was told I could finish at 1 so I could spend at least some time with her, but management lied), and on the Saturday, they just flat-out refused to let me in, despite this being the last chance I'd have to see her before she went back to Uni. But, at least, on NYE, she came to see me anyway, and we hugged to wish each other a happy new year, but it felt different, as if it was a bit more intimate than usual.
And finally, fast forward to the weekend just passed. We're still talking through various media, and she tells me she'll be home for the weekend, and that she'll probably be going to my nightclub, which peeves me off a little - I have to work two out of three main nights, and the two decent ones that she'll likely turn up to, I'm working, because I've agreed to DJ somewhere else for a bit on Friday. But she asks about the night I'm free, and asks if she can come along. Jubilations, I'll get to see her while I'm not working after all! She also asked her friends to come along, but for various reasons, they can't, to which she asks if it's ok if just she turns up. So it's going to end up being just me, her, and cheap alcohol. So, there you have at least the main background to why I'm posting this.
Now, the slight dilemma. I know there's a very real chance something might happen on Friday between us. But, as it happens, I've only ever kissed two girls before. The first initiated the kiss. I was a little bit shocked we'd moved that fast, but enjoyed it anyway, and it went ok. The second, we were both very drunk (her more than me), and the kiss was terrible. Very little happened, and I felt nothing from it. So, taking that as minimal experience on my part, I'm just wondering, if there's a moment on Friday, what's the best way I should perhaps try and initiate the first kiss? Because, by now, I do like this girl very much, and if there's a chance that she feels the same and something could happen between us, I want to take it.
Scroll to see replies
Anonymous
Hey TSR.
Just wondering if anyone could help me with something that's causing me a bit of anxiety. I should warn you now though, this could turn out to be a lengthy post.
See, there's this girl I met at least a year ago. The circumstances were extremely random and, given that I was working at the time and I seem to recall her having a boyfriend at the time, I can't quite figure out to this day why she started talking to me. But that's not important - what is important is that it happened. And yeah...I developed a bit of a crush on her, but I managed to shrug it off, thinking it was just cos she's attractive.
Fast forward a few months, and I find out that she's single again. But in another city at a different Uni. But, she'd occasionally come back to her home town, and we'd see each other where we worked, and we progressed to friendly "hello" hugs. No big deal, I know.
A bit more recently, however, and things look like they might be developing further. I know it's silly, but there are a lot of pokes between us on Facebook, and we're always messaging each other in some way. And then Christmas came - the first proper chance she had to stay around. We met up once in a nightclub, as planned, and had a good night, but was cut short when all of her friends wanted to go home. So I let it be. But then, for NYE, and the Saturday after (which was one of her friend's birthdays), she wanted to meet up with me again. But, since I actually work in the nightclub, I had to work NYE (I was told I could finish at 1 so I could spend at least some time with her, but management lied), and on the Saturday, they just flat-out refused to let me in, despite this being the last chance I'd have to see her before she went back to Uni. But, at least, on NYE, she came to see me anyway, and we hugged to wish each other a happy new year, but it felt different, as if it was a bit more intimate than usual.
And finally, fast forward to the weekend just passed. We're still talking through various media, and she tells me she'll be home for the weekend, and that she'll probably be going to my nightclub, which peeves me off a little - I have to work two out of three main nights, and the two decent ones that she'll likely turn up to, I'm working, because I've agreed to DJ somewhere else for a bit on Friday. But she asks about the night I'm free, and asks if she can come along. Jubilations, I'll get to see her while I'm not working after all! She also asked her friends to come along, but for various reasons, they can't, to which she asks if it's ok if just she turns up. So it's going to end up being just me, her, and cheap alcohol. So, there you have at least the main background to why I'm posting this.
Now, the slight dilemma. I know there's a very real chance something might happen on Friday between us. But, as it happens, I've only ever kissed two girls before. The first initiated the kiss. I was a little bit shocked we'd moved that fast, but enjoyed it anyway, and it went ok. The second, we were both very drunk (her more than me), and the kiss was terrible. Very little happened, and I felt nothing from it. So, taking that as minimal experience on my part, I'm just wondering, if there's a moment on Friday, what's the best way I should perhaps try and initiate the first kiss? Because, by now, I do like this girl very much, and if there's a chance that she feels the same and something could happen between us, I want to take it.
Just wondering if anyone could help me with something that's causing me a bit of anxiety. I should warn you now though, this could turn out to be a lengthy post.
See, there's this girl I met at least a year ago. The circumstances were extremely random and, given that I was working at the time and I seem to recall her having a boyfriend at the time, I can't quite figure out to this day why she started talking to me. But that's not important - what is important is that it happened. And yeah...I developed a bit of a crush on her, but I managed to shrug it off, thinking it was just cos she's attractive.
Fast forward a few months, and I find out that she's single again. But in another city at a different Uni. But, she'd occasionally come back to her home town, and we'd see each other where we worked, and we progressed to friendly "hello" hugs. No big deal, I know.
A bit more recently, however, and things look like they might be developing further. I know it's silly, but there are a lot of pokes between us on Facebook, and we're always messaging each other in some way. And then Christmas came - the first proper chance she had to stay around. We met up once in a nightclub, as planned, and had a good night, but was cut short when all of her friends wanted to go home. So I let it be. But then, for NYE, and the Saturday after (which was one of her friend's birthdays), she wanted to meet up with me again. But, since I actually work in the nightclub, I had to work NYE (I was told I could finish at 1 so I could spend at least some time with her, but management lied), and on the Saturday, they just flat-out refused to let me in, despite this being the last chance I'd have to see her before she went back to Uni. But, at least, on NYE, she came to see me anyway, and we hugged to wish each other a happy new year, but it felt different, as if it was a bit more intimate than usual.
And finally, fast forward to the weekend just passed. We're still talking through various media, and she tells me she'll be home for the weekend, and that she'll probably be going to my nightclub, which peeves me off a little - I have to work two out of three main nights, and the two decent ones that she'll likely turn up to, I'm working, because I've agreed to DJ somewhere else for a bit on Friday. But she asks about the night I'm free, and asks if she can come along. Jubilations, I'll get to see her while I'm not working after all! She also asked her friends to come along, but for various reasons, they can't, to which she asks if it's ok if just she turns up. So it's going to end up being just me, her, and cheap alcohol. So, there you have at least the main background to why I'm posting this.
Now, the slight dilemma. I know there's a very real chance something might happen on Friday between us. But, as it happens, I've only ever kissed two girls before. The first initiated the kiss. I was a little bit shocked we'd moved that fast, but enjoyed it anyway, and it went ok. The second, we were both very drunk (her more than me), and the kiss was terrible. Very little happened, and I felt nothing from it. So, taking that as minimal experience on my part, I'm just wondering, if there's a moment on Friday, what's the best way I should perhaps try and initiate the first kiss? Because, by now, I do like this girl very much, and if there's a chance that she feels the same and something could happen between us, I want to take it.
awwww
if I were you, make sure you maintain eye contact long enough, so she kinda knows what you're gonna do.
Take hold of her hand or something, and lean in. If the green light's there, go for it
Would you care to summarise that in like two sentences for the people who don't want your life story and just want to know what the problem is? No offence or anything, but I hate big rambly posts when your problem is almost certainly (I don't know, I haven't bothered to read this one) "I don't know how to kiss because I've had no / few girlfriends in the past and I have a crush on some girl I know and I think she likes me back".
generalebriety
Would you care to summarise that in like two sentences for the people who don't want your life story and just want to know what the problem is? No offence or anything, but I hate big rambly posts when your problem is almost certainly (I don't know, I haven't bothered to read this one) "I don't know how to kiss because I've had no / few girlfriends in the past and I have a crush on some girl I know and I think she likes me back".
oh shush, come on, he just was giving background information to the situation, i.e. he isn't even sure if the girl likes him and he doens't want to ruin it by planting one on her randomly.
Geez, you always seem to be in a bad mood. He wanted to know how to take the first kiss, ^^ *points at thread title*
generalebriety
Would you care to summarise that in like two sentences for the people who don't want your life story and just want to know what the problem is? No offence or anything, but I hate big rambly posts when your problem is almost certainly (I don't know, I haven't bothered to read this one) "I don't know how to kiss because I've had no / few girlfriends in the past and I have a crush on some girl I know and I think she likes me back".
How about if you see a big block of text you don't read it?
OP, if it's gonna happen, it'll happen. Just relax and have a good time and it will work out for you.
Greatleysteg
oh shush, come on, he just was giving background information to the situation, i.e. he isn't even sure if the girl likes him and he doens't want to ruin it by planting one on her randomly.
Geez, you always seem to be in a bad mood. He wanted to know how to take the first kiss, ^^ *points at thread title*
Geez, you always seem to be in a bad mood. He wanted to know how to take the first kiss, ^^ *points at thread title*
I'm not in a bad mood, I'm just bored of coming on here trying to help people and they make it as hard as possible because they feel compelled to tell me everything about their life. Do you realise you just summarised his post in two sentences, like I asked him to do? It just makes my life a lot easier...
OP: I agree with the help the above poster gave, anyway. If there's a genuine possibility that she likes you, then try being a bit flirty / more flirty than normal. See how she reacts. Just approach it gradually.
PMP
How about if you see a big block of text you don't read it?
Because I like helping people you bunch of ungrateful ****s.
OP - I agree that you should just take it steady and wait for the right moment, which is likely to be after you have both had a drink (or two!) to calm the nerves. Don't hesitate in making the first move because she is likely to make it clear if she's finding it uncomfortable.
Good luck!
That's a bit harsh, the issue was clearly defined in the thread title if you couldn't be bothered to read the background. Geez, why complain? You're not forced to contribute.
Good luck!
generalebriety
Would you care to summarise that in like two sentences for the people who don't want your life story and just want to know what the problem is? No offence or anything, but I hate big rambly posts when your problem is almost certainly (I don't know, I haven't bothered to read this one) "I don't know how to kiss because I've had no / few girlfriends in the past and I have a crush on some girl I know and I think she likes me back".
That's a bit harsh, the issue was clearly defined in the thread title if you couldn't be bothered to read the background. Geez, why complain? You're not forced to contribute.
I don't know what to say except just to go for it, but try not to do it when you're both extremely drunk (and there's a big chance of that happening). Like your past experience, it's not pleasant - not even when it's with someone you like; it's just not the same.
Do it so it feels natural, rather than forcing her to kiss you just because you can! I'm sure you won't, though..
Try hugging/getting closer to her, and move on from there. And don't worry about the lengthy post - I'm the same... I always end up telling people my life story without originally intending to.
Do it so it feels natural, rather than forcing her to kiss you just because you can! I'm sure you won't, though..
Try hugging/getting closer to her, and move on from there. And don't worry about the lengthy post - I'm the same... I always end up telling people my life story without originally intending to.Well, tonight's the night! Any last minute tips?
It's also my first night doing some proper DJing too. My nerves are wrecked
It's also my first night doing some proper DJing too. My nerves are wrecked
Well, it didn't happen. But, it's mainly because there wasn't a moment where it felt appropriate. But, for what has to be the first time in my life, I'm not beating myself up about it, because I know there'll be other chances if it's going to happen. And we're already planning on going out for a similar night, so it's not like she doesn't like me, right?
Honestly though, all that happened was we hugged a few times, and talked, and I'm happy even for that, because I had a good time with her.
Oh, and if anyone's wondering, the DJing was ****ing awesome. I managed to fill the dance floor at a time when it's usually empty.
Honestly though, all that happened was we hugged a few times, and talked, and I'm happy even for that, because I had a good time with her.
Oh, and if anyone's wondering, the DJing was ****ing awesome. I managed to fill the dance floor at a time when it's usually empty.
Greatleysteg
awwww
Take hold of her hand or something, and lean in. If the green light's there, go for it
Take hold of her hand or something, and lean in. If the green light's there, go for it
I just imagined him "going for it" ....
Sorry, just my vivid imagination 
However, very well said.
Next time you'll be hugging (that's a very good moment, coz you already have a close contact with her) look straight into her eyes, then embrance a bit tighter, let her know (but please - don't say that!
) what will happen in the moment, move your lips close to hers (maintain eye contact!) and the moment they touch each other close your eyes! I guess it's quite important - if she is romantic she'll care that. And then "go for it"! 
Yep, if she wanna meet you again she definitely likes you :]
Good luck, man!
You could try the Mystery Method Kiss Gambit.
Just ask: Do you want to kiss me?
If she responds with anything other than 'no', then reply: Let's find out. Then kiss her.
If she says 'no', say: Oh I didn't say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind.
Just ask: Do you want to kiss me?
If she responds with anything other than 'no', then reply: Let's find out. Then kiss her.
If she says 'no', say: Oh I didn't say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind.
Gosh darnit.
I got to the thread too late.
good luck for your further adventures with mystery girl dj boy
I got to the thread too late.
good luck for your further adventures with mystery girl dj boy
I wouldn't say you got to it too late. Just a little too late for that endeavour. But yeah, there're gonna be other times, so if you still have any advice to give, I'd be grateful for it.
Related discussions
- How do u kiss
- regret my first kiss
- relationships
- At how old u got ur first kiss?!
- I kissed her on the 4th date and she said we're moving too fast
- I don't understand kissing
- sex for the first time?
- Situationship help! only met drunk + at night so i cant remember him but want a date!
- sexual assault or not?
- At how old you had your first kiss?!
- 18 virgin never kissed
- I kissed a 29 year old guy, and I am just 22 , I'm feeling traumatized right now..
- Possibly being slow faded after 3rd date?
- im 19 female with zero experience in relationships so
- Finally had my first kiss :D
- Can’t tell if I like him
- Is it to late to make a move now on a girl I've liked for 2 .5 years ? not kissed yet
- I kissed a friend with syphilis
- Question for all the boyfriends to girls
- Should I go on Hinge? I've never had a boyfriend before
Latest
Trending
Last reply 1 month ago
Engineering vs. Medicine: Stuck Between Dreams and ExpectationsLast reply 1 month ago
heyyy , im new heree and im willing to have some friends xxxLast reply 1 month ago
Im 16 and never had a gf and it doesnt feel ok.
