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ok now all of my friends have pulled at uni apart from me!
Well i wanted to post anonymously, but it'd take about 10 days coming up that way so, away with it.
anyway, im rather good looking (male), and theres a group of around 4 of us at uni. Ones really confident (hes already got a girlfriend), the others medium confident (hes sort of checking someone, in fact 2 at the same time - although not going out with any of them), and the third ones the shyest bastard ive met in my life, and he pulled yesterday; ended up going to this really fit birds room.
I would say my confidence level is similar to most people really- mediumish, so theirs no problem there imo. if you really want to know the truth though, im crap at small talk i.e. in a club where you have 3-4 minutes to have a interesting conversation before you move on.
its not that im unsociable or anything, because im not. when i make friends i make really long-term friends, its just im really crap at small talk (which is the only kind of talk that seems to work in clubs, and most studenty pubs)... anywaay i dont know why im writing this for but meeeh.
anyway, im rather good looking (male), and theres a group of around 4 of us at uni. Ones really confident (hes already got a girlfriend), the others medium confident (hes sort of checking someone, in fact 2 at the same time - although not going out with any of them), and the third ones the shyest bastard ive met in my life, and he pulled yesterday; ended up going to this really fit birds room.
I would say my confidence level is similar to most people really- mediumish, so theirs no problem there imo. if you really want to know the truth though, im crap at small talk i.e. in a club where you have 3-4 minutes to have a interesting conversation before you move on.
its not that im unsociable or anything, because im not. when i make friends i make really long-term friends, its just im really crap at small talk (which is the only kind of talk that seems to work in clubs, and most studenty pubs)... anywaay i dont know why im writing this for but meeeh.
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Prostitutes!
Just say something random to get their attention, once you do that reel them in with the basics like your name, their name, age, etc. Talk about the song that's playing in the club. It's simple.
Ang|ophi|e
Just say something random to get their attention, once you do that reel them in with the basics like your name, their name, age, etc. Talk about the song that's playing in the club. It's simple.
okay im good at all that crap, but what i cant do, like my mates is whilst your talking to someone just lean in and snog them. never had the confidence to do that, and i think girls start thinking your a bit of a pussy whence this kind of thing occurs.
Be yourself.
If a girl doesn't like you for you, sod them. If you wanted them regardless, couple of months down the line, you'll regret it deeply.
If a girl doesn't like you for you, sod them. If you wanted them regardless, couple of months down the line, you'll regret it deeply.
wingerrr
okay im good at all that crap, but what i cant do, like my mates is whilst your talking to someone just lean in and snog them. never had the confidence to do that, and i think girls start thinking your a bit of a pussy whence this kind of thing occurs.
Generally you won't expect to pull a girl in 4 minutes if you've never met her before unless she's paraletic.
If you're in a club, just dance if ou don't want to chat as much. Chat for a couple of mins but spend most time dancing. Dance with her but not too close, and every now and then say something, touching her arm or something when you do so. Then move in and dance closer. Then kiss. Not so mechanical as I've made it sound though...
...now that its all coming out, i may aswell just continue. another problem with me i think is that im quite popular among my group of friends/acquaintances, and am therefore sometimes concerned that if i ever do take to the next level with some girlfriend il seem like a bit of a prick with my lack of experience.
wingerrr
okay im good at all that crap, but what i cant do, like my mates is whilst your talking to someone just lean in and snog them. never had the confidence to do that, and i think girls start thinking your a bit of a pussy whence this kind of thing occurs.
I'm in the same boat as you kind of. I'm good looking (not that i'm arrogant) but my level of confidence sounds similar to yours but slightly worse. I can make friends easily and i'm not unsociable.
Anyway my mate who is fairly overweight and not exactly brad pitt is full of confidence and pulls fairly easily and fair play to him. He just goes up to girls in clubs and makes a few jokes and goes in for the pull. He doesn't care if he gets rejected which does happen a lot to him but still pulls as he tries it on with a lot of girls.
So you just got to work on your confidence and try not to let it bother you if you get rejected. I know its a lot harder than it sounds
mishmashystuff
Be yourself.
If a girl doesn't like you for you, sod them. If you wanted them regardless, couple of months down the line, you'll regret it deeply.
If a girl doesn't like you for you, sod them. If you wanted them regardless, couple of months down the line, you'll regret it deeply.
He's talking about pulling a random girl in bar or club, not having a long term relationship. How can anyone know 'you for you' in a few mins.
Nice sig btw.
El Doctoré de Mystéro
Generally you won't expect to pull a girl in 4 minutes if you've never met her before unless she's paraletic.
If you're in a club, just dance if ou don't want to chat as much. Chat for a couple of mins but spend most time dancing. Dance with her but not too close, and every now and then say something, touching her arm or something when you do so. Then move in and dance closer. Then kiss. Not so mechanical as I've made it sound though...
If you're in a club, just dance if ou don't want to chat as much. Chat for a couple of mins but spend most time dancing. Dance with her but not too close, and every now and then say something, touching her arm or something when you do so. Then move in and dance closer. Then kiss. Not so mechanical as I've made it sound though...
Spot on. I was going to say that.
Just go with the flow. It's not all about "pulling". After all, these girls are humans with feelings too.
Relationships > Pulling.
El Doctoré de Mystéro
He's talking about pulling a random girl in bar or club, not having a long term relationship. How can anyone know 'you for you' in a few mins.
Nice sig btw.
Nice sig btw.
Oh right... Cheers!
*runs away from thread*
Ryouga
I have had sex twice in 4 years lol, as I had a bad year when my brother died and it destroyed me,and I noticed women no longer liked me.
Didnt help I put on 3 stone and my hairline went far back.
So im desperate for a girlfriend
Didnt help I put on 3 stone and my hairline went far back.
So im desperate for a girlfriend
lol can i ask how old you are? im 19, one year above the age where its not generally unusual for people to have not have had a gf yet!
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