Life after uni - 8 months since I graduated
I know this is the students forum but I wondered if anyone can relate. I finished uni for good in May last year. I feel since I graduated I have become 10 times more productive and proactive, currently have 2 jobs, decent earnings, got savings, invested in the stock market, and am generally very well organised.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
A big part of it is that when you're at uni most people you meet are there to have fun. When you just work the people you see every day are mainly only there for the money. They turn up do their job and go home. There's so much less opportunity to bond with people, as they're all in 'work mode' rather than socialising mode. Also everything seems more formal and there's less room for the informalness, randomness and inappropriateness that many long lasting friendships are started from. I find the transition from being around uni people to being around work people a bit of a struggle in terms of forming friendships.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
A big part of it is that when you're at uni most people you meet are there to have fun. When you just work the people you see every day are mainly only there for the money. They turn up do their job and go home. There's so much less opportunity to bond with people, as they're all in 'work mode' rather than socialising mode. Also everything seems more formal and there's less room for the informalness, randomness and inappropriateness that many long lasting friendships are started from. I find the transition from being around uni people to being around work people a bit of a struggle in terms of forming friendships.
(edited 6 years ago)
Original post by matt375
I know this is the students forum but I wondered if anyone can relate. I finished uni for good in May last year. I feel since I graduated I have become 10 times more productive and proactive, currently have 2 jobs, decent earnings, got savings, invested in the stock market, and am generally very well organised.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
Welcome to reality. This is it until you die I am afraid.
You cannot be a student for the rest of your life.
So you need to structure your life accordingly. Plan an adventure - holiday, travel. Get a job abroad. MOVE OUT FROM PARENTS. Get a relationship.
Nothing will change unless you make it happen
Original post by squeakysquirrel
Welcome to reality. This is it until you die I am afraid.
You cannot be a student for the rest of your life.
So you need to structure your life accordingly. Plan an adventure - holiday, travel. Get a job abroad. MOVE OUT FROM PARENTS. Get a relationship.
Nothing will change unless you make it happen
You cannot be a student for the rest of your life.
So you need to structure your life accordingly. Plan an adventure - holiday, travel. Get a job abroad. MOVE OUT FROM PARENTS. Get a relationship.
Nothing will change unless you make it happen
Yeah I get that. People seemed a lot more interesting to me at uni than they do now in a workplace setting. People can't just exist organically as their own personality they're just a cog in the machine at work.
I guess I need to meet people who desire a renewed sense of adventure like I do. Can't stand feeling like an old man all the time nowadays
(edited 6 years ago)
Heading to uni this autumn. Gonna cherish my 3-year uni life
Original post by southpacific
Heading to uni this autumn. Gonna cherish my 3-year uni life
It definitely has its ups and downs, in some ways having a job is better, in other ways uni is better. Still I'd say make the most of it as its a pretty unique situation to be in
I think it is normal to feel this way. They say uni is a great experience to go through, and after you graduate, you find that the world of work is a lot different. Outside of work, do you have a lot of hobbies or friends you hang out with? Even though you cannot have "adventure" whilst you work, it is possible to do so in your free time.
Original post by matt375
I know this is the students forum but I wondered if anyone can relate. I finished uni for good in May last year. I feel since I graduated I have become 10 times more productive and proactive, currently have 2 jobs, decent earnings, got savings, invested in the stock market, and am generally very well organised.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
A big part of it is that when you're at uni most people you meet are there to have fun. When you just work the people you see every day are mainly only there for the money. They turn up do their job and go home. There's so much less opportunity to bond with people, as they're all in 'work mode' rather than socialising mode. Also everything seems more formal and there's less room for the informalness, randomness and inappropriateness that many long lasting friendships are started from. I find the transition from being around uni people to being around work people a bit of a struggle in terms of forming friendships.
What I am lacking is the sense of adventure I had while at uni.Even though I have my freedom, have money, and can drive I am living with parents and feel way less excitement and anticipation than I did at uni, even in my final year. In short my life has become 10 times more predictable and equally less exciting. Recently I feel I have just been a working machine and have had 0 personality and character.
As part of one of my jobs I sometimes travel to my local uni, and it definitely brings back mixed feelings to see the freshers moving in etc. I always hated uni work but I can't deny I really miss the sense of adventure. It makes no sense since I had no money at uni but I still felt more freedom than I do now when I have more than enough money.
A big part of it is that when you're at uni most people you meet are there to have fun. When you just work the people you see every day are mainly only there for the money. They turn up do their job and go home. There's so much less opportunity to bond with people, as they're all in 'work mode' rather than socialising mode. Also everything seems more formal and there's less room for the informalness, randomness and inappropriateness that many long lasting friendships are started from. I find the transition from being around uni people to being around work people a bit of a struggle in terms of forming friendships.
You definitley aren't the only one. I'm fortunate enough to have a job I enjoy but I still miss the freedom and fun of uni.
I think part of the problem is that I don't see my uni friends that much. And no I only have 1 friend back home. Mainly due to me never socialising before I went to uni and realised how much fun it is.
Main point being you change at uni but home never changes. Guess its a good reason to keep living in your uni town rather than move back in with parents.
Main point being you change at uni but home never changes. Guess its a good reason to keep living in your uni town rather than move back in with parents.
(edited 6 years ago)
this scares me a lot considering i also left in may and i agree the days all mesh into one its so repetitive, zero excitement/spontaneity which I liked about Uni. Also same situation with mates never really cared about keeping in contact with lads before uni and now barely any mates at home. At least i do have mates still at unis i will be able to visit i guess
Original post by ItsOver
this scares me a lot considering i also left in may and i agree the days all mesh into one its so repetitive, zero excitement/spontaneity which I liked about Uni. Also same situation with mates never really cared about keeping in contact with lads before uni and now barely any mates at home. At least i do have mates still at unis i will be able to visit i guess
After uni is when you find out who your true friends are. If the friendship is strong, you will stay good friends. You should also look to try and meet new people where you are living. Do you have a lot of free time outside of work? You could look into evening classes or volunteering as a way of meeting new people. After graduation, it can feel lonely as you focus on finding a job and earning money, so do try to put yourself out there to meet people, and stay in contact with the good friends you have.
Original post by cheesecakelove
After uni is when you find out who your true friends are. If the friendship is strong, you will stay good friends. You should also look to try and meet new people where you are living. Do you have a lot of free time outside of work? You could look into evening classes or volunteering as a way of meeting new people. After graduation, it can feel lonely as you focus on finding a job and earning money, so do try to put yourself out there to meet people, and stay in contact with the good friends you have.
i dont work yet lol only just left uni in May. Just lack of social interaction is driving me insane. Probably will visit mates next week tbh for a few days
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