This is probably going to be long and boring, so sorry.
I've been dating this girl for around 4 months, long distance the whole time. We have met and everything, I know her through mutual friends etc, it's all legit.
For a while, everything was great and I'd spend all day looking forward to talking to her, the first thing I'd do each day was text her and I'd wait up each night until she woke up (8 hour time difference). I don't know what caused the change but recently I've been feeling less attached to her, I forget to message when I wake up, it feels like a chore to answer her phone calls.
I'm not feeling any kind of physical attraction to her anymore either. We used to talk about stuff over the phone, but I just don't want to anymore. It's not that I'm disgusted by her but attracted to other people, I just feel kinda neutral about it all in general.
I'd never been interested in girls before and I'm still terrified at having to tell all my friends/family that I am dating another girl. Maybe it's stupid since I still have years of uni left to complete, but I still struggle to picture being settled down with her in 5 years time.
I think this whole thing is more me than her. It's been worst since I came back to uni this month, I'm normally either stressed and need to just get on with my work on my own, or I'm tired and just want some time to relax on my own. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out when all my friends go to the library to study together or go out to eat or whatever, and I stay in my room to talk to my girlfriend - particularly since I haven't told them about her so I have to just keep making excuses.
Is this normal for this stage in a relationship, especially long distance? I'm visiting her over Easter and I think things will be better when we're together, but it's at least 3 years until either of us could move to be with the other, which is a long time to feel the way I do now. But at the same time, the thought of being without her scares me and I don't want to lose her.
Is there anything I can do to try to fix this? Is it worth talking less often so it gives us more time to do our own things, or will this just pull us further apart?