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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Okay...but women (esp black) marry down their league financially all the time, so how does that make us gold diggers? Finance is important in both parts.
    In the UK, probably yes, but in African countries then probably no. Financial issue suggest the argument and fights that low finance creates in a household.

    We are not talking about black women, but women in general. Many women marry their equal (similar middle class guys) or they marry up.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    In the UK, probably yes, but in African countries then probably no. Financial issue suggest the argument and fights that low finance creates in a household.

    We are not talking about black women, but women in general. Many women marry their equal (similar middle class guys) or they marry up.
    Why is financial reasons so shocking to you when children are expensive? Okay, my point was that there are so many women out there, that marry down financially all the time. Some races more than others. Plus, what about guys that choose an attractive women with an okay degree vs a plain women with a good degree? Isn't that not their fault?
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Why is financial reasons so shocking to you when children are expensive? Okay, my point was that there are so many women out there, that marry down financially all the time. Some races more than others. Plus, what about guys that choose an attractive women with an okay degree vs a plain women with a good degree? Isn't that not their fault?
    The point on financial reasons was that some marriages collapse because couples fail to work out their differences some of which stem from finance, e.g. where would they live, how will the bills be covered, what happens to family, do we have a joint account etc.? When there is low finance then the arguments increase to a breaking point.

    Having a good degree is not a determinant that you will be successful. I agree that some men have shallow desires in a partner, but many or even most men marry real women. They choose women with strong personality that is capable of being a good wife, mother and general human being.

    Yes, many men marry attractive women, but this is expected. Would you marry an ugly 1/10 guy with loads of money or an 8/10 guy with an average socio-economic situation? I guess it will be the latter.

    Look at some of the wealthiest and most powerful families, the wealthy men have average wives, who turn out to be great women (Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg etc.). Very truly wealthy men don't go for dumb bimbos. They can be moderately attractive, but few go for the 9/10 model types.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    The point on financial reasons was that some marriages collapse because couples fail to work out their differences some of which stem from finance, e.g. where would they live, how will the bills be covered, what happens to family, do we have a joint account etc.? When there is low finance then the arguments increase to a breaking point.

    Having a good degree is not a determinant that you will be successful. I agree that some men have shallow desires in a partner, but many or even most men marry real women. They choose women with strong personality that is capable of being a good wife, mother and general human being.

    Yes, many men marry attractive women, but this is expected. Would you marry an ugly 1/10 guy with loads of money or an 8/10 guy with an average socio-economic situation? I guess it will be the latter.

    Look at some of the wealthiest and most powerful families, the wealthy men have average wives, who turn out to be great women (Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg etc.). Very truly wealthy men go for dumb bimbos. They can be moderately attractive, but few go for the 9/10 model types.
    Well what statistics say is that, for women financially is more important, and for men, looks are more important. So why label women gold diggers. If I said men are shallow i'd get hate smh
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    You asked me about the source on the explosion of divorces.
    All woman can be a digger to men but those woman want some men, regardless of money. Men can be gold diggers too. Its just a matter of if youre man enough for what category you want to be in.
    Personally professionals are cheaper then pissing away money over the
    bar & on cab fair but what I learned is that puts me in the category of
    socialist.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    You asked me about the source on the explosion of divorces.
    All woman can be a digger to men but those woman want some men, regardless of money. Men can be gold diggers too. Its just a matter of if youre man enough for what category you want to be in.
    Personally professionals are cheaper then pissing away money over the bar & on cab fair but what I learned is that puts me in the category of socialist.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Well what statistics say is that, for women financially is more important, and for men, looks are more important. So why label women gold diggers. If I said men are shallow i'd get hate smh
    You just wrote that for women money is more important. Are you contradicting yourself? What does gold digging mean to you?
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    (Original post by ChaserX)
    All woman can be a digger to men but those woman want some men, regardless of money. Men can be gold diggers too. Its just a matter of if youre man enough for what category you want to be in.
    Personally professionals are cheaper then pissing away money over the bar & on cab fair but what I learned is that puts me in the category of socialist.
    (Original post by ChaserX)
    All woman can be a digger to men but those woman want some men, regardless of money. Men can be gold diggers too. Its just a matter of if youre man enough for what category you want to be in.
    Personally professionals are cheaper then pissing away money over the
    bar & on cab fair but what I learned is that puts me in the category of
    socialist.
    Yes, men can be gold diggers but the term is often overwhelmingly focused on women who do it more than men.

    I dont understand your second point.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    You just wrote that for women money is more important. Are you contradicting yourself? What does gold digging mean to you?
    Gold digging is when money is only important. Why would you think I would date a bum? Like...are you mad? LOL. Money is important for marriage, and any guy offended by that is 9/10 times broke. Is a guy shallow because he wants to marry an attractive women?
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Gold digging is when money is only important. Why would you think I would date a bum? Like...are you mad? LOL. Money is important for marriage, and any guy offended by that is 9/10 times broke. Is a guy shallow because he wants to marry an attractive women?
    Yes, if the main reason why a man wants to marry a woman is because she is attractive then he is a shallow idiot.

    Imagine you meet a nice lad, you fall in love with him and everything is well. He is financially stable and everything is fine. You have 6 children and live in a big mansion in the country with all your children at Eton or Rugby or Shrewsbury school. You have maids, butlers and chauffeurs. Life is comfortable and fantastic.

    Then your hubby tells you one morning that the main reason why he married you was because you were fit and attractive. That he did not care about your intelligence, personality, sense of humour, kindess, character or any other thing that showed how wonderful you were in and out.

    Would you then say, “alright fam, that is calm. It is okay that you married me because i was attractive.”?

    To your first point, some women view money as the main and sometimes only point.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    Yes, if the main reason why a man wants to marry a woman is because she is attractive then he is a shallow idiot.

    Imagine you meet a nice lad, you fall in love with him and everything is well. He is financially stable and everything is fine. You have 6 children and live in a big mansion in the country with all your children at Eton or Rugby or Shrewsbury school. You have maids, butlers and chauffeurs. Life is comfortable and fantastic.

    Then your hubby tells you one morning that the main reason why he married you was because you were fit and attractive. That he did not care about your intelligence, personality, sense of humour, kindess, character or any other thing that showed how wonderful you were in and out.

    Would you then say, “alright fam, that is calm. It is okay that you married me because i was attractive.”?

    To your first point, some women view money as the main and sometimes only point.
    Yes, it's stupid to marry people for materialistic reasons only. Which is essentially what I said. A women wanting a financially stable man doesn't mean she's a gold digger :/ if it's the ONLY reason, then yes, she is though.

    Lmao, no. I don't speak like some beg hoodrat:lolz:
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    You asked me about the source on the explosion of divorces.
    I responded to the post where you said that the number one reason for divorce relates to finance “where the women appear to be gold diggers”. Where’s the source for that statement?
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Yes, it's stupid to marry people for materialistic reasons only. Which is essentially what I said. A women wanting a financially stable man doesn't mean she's a gold digger :/ if it's the ONLY reason, then yes, she is though.

    Lmao, no. I don't speak like some beg hoodrat:lolz:
    That was my point. Now you agree with me.
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    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    I responded to the post where you said that the number one reason for divorce relates to finance “where the women appear to be gold diggers”. Where’s the source for that statement?
    Here:

    Feel free to research yourself.

    https://www.google.com/amp/www.indep...356.html%3famp

    https://www.marriage.com/advice/divo...s-for-divorce/

    https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.the...amily-finances

    https://www.co-oplegalservices.co.uk...rce-in-the-uk/
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    one person likes spending money freely and the other is more frugal and prefers saving.
    Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point.
    . If one partner is spending excessive amounts or getting into debt, the other may not want to continue the marriage as a result.

    ^^Copied and pasted. Where was gold digging mentioned?
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Okay...but women (esp black) marry down their league financially all the time, so how does that make us gold diggers? Finance is important in both parts.

    Sorry but I must comment.

    The reason why often black women marry black men who make less than them isn't because black women don't care about money (they care about money very much) .. it is because due to the high incarceration rate of black men, and the fact that black women tend to stay in education longer than black men ...there are simply not a large enough supply of black men for every university educated black woman to date a guy who makes more than her.

    So black women face a choice.

    A)Stay single
    B)Date a white dude
    C)Date a black guy who makes less than her

    Most seem to opt for either A or C

    There was some Oprah show on it a some years back...

    My experience of black women is that most are concerned with money. When I was unemployed due to redundancy some black woman showed interest in a bar and when I said I got made redundant I was given the spanish inquisition over my employment history. I genuinely felt like I was at an Interview. Another time a black woman approached me and within seconds was asking what I do, I was unemployed at the time but had already secured a job and was a few weeks away from starting so told her about that ...but in general I have definitely noticed black women start asking about job and stuff much quicker than other races.

    I honestly don't think it would be possible for a black man to date an attractive black woman whilst he is unemployed and out of education ..... whereas a white woman, it would be possible

    I don't get much interest from attractive black women when walking down the street, ...but one day I noticed I seem to be getting a lot of attractive black women checking me out. I was wearing a suit that day. I almost never wear suits [I was in it for a funeral]

    I did an experiment once a long time ago on pof where I edited my dating profile title to make it seem like i was some sort of businessman

    I got about a 50% increase in views from white women
    A 50% increase in views from South Asian women
    A 300% increase in views from black women


    Black women are definitely concerned about money.....
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    one person likes spending money freely and the other is more frugal and prefers saving.
    Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point.
    . If one partner is spending excessive amounts or getting into debt, the other may not want to continue the marriage as a result.

    ^^Copied and pasted. Where was gold digging mentioned?
    Gold digging was one of my points. I stated that the main reason is financial issues which can come from different subsets. Gold-digging is one of the sub-sets
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    Money and gold digging aren't the same thing. I couldn't, for example, stay with someone who racked up gambling debts which comes under money in of your links, which has nothing to do with gold digging. I want a financially stable partner.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    Money and gold digging aren't the same thing. I couldn't, for example, stay with someone who racked up gambling debts which comes under money in of your links, which has nothing to do with gold digging. I want a financially stable partner.
    Financial issues come from a wide range of problems from racking up debts to not being able to heat your home to gold digging.

    Many of the cases that come from money problems are from basic financial constraints which take a toll on the couple, and pushes the woman to abandon her family.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    Financial issues come from a wide range of problems from racking up debts to not being able to heat your home to gold digging.

    Many of the cases that come from money problems are from basic financial constraints which take a toll on the couple, and pushes the woman to abandon her family.
    Where's your proof that gold digging is one of them?
 
 
 

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