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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    So you are saying that there is no woman that is a gold digger? Or that no woman dates or marries a man on the sole reason because he is rich and hope to grab the wealth?
    No. Im saying that you’ve made a bold and sexist statement that you have yet to support... all I am asking is how do you know the cause of the finance troubles when your sources don’t explicitly state them? Because it’s sounding like you’ve pulled it out of your arse
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    No, i did not say that. Why do people read my statements and make their own conclusions? You have falsely accused me of saying what i did not say.

    I wrote that money problems is a major determinant for divorces and failed marriages. A cause of this is also that some women enter relationships on false pretence of love rather than the actual reason of gold digging.

    Please quote me correctly. You would not be happy if i lied against you.

    Also saying that black women do not care about money is a massive lie. Like the other guy wrote, many black women are left with struggling black men and settle for them. It does not mean that they dont care about money or would not marry up if given the chance.
    I feel like you have said many different things lol. I thought you meant that gold-digging is the main reason for divorce, which is certainly not true lol. I did not say that BW did not care about money, the fact is you cannot say women are gold diggers if women, esp (black) women are marrying down, all the time. If that was the case, most bw would date out of their race.
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    Women are much more likely to lie about how much power they hold. They don't lie for themselves but because they have hard time relating to men and for biological reasons. In pre human tribal times most groups were made up of many women and one dominate man. So to gain an edge over the man, females in the group would stick together. This is the reason you see women fighting for female supremacy and not for gender equality. A small primitive part of the brain still makes tribal choices, ( and it's not just a female thing, sexes do it differently). This is the reason why if you have a problem is not worth talking to a women about ( unless it's your mother ) about your problems. Because no matter how much you try to explain women Can't empathize with a man they're biologically incapable of doing so. Even many of the answers I've seen women make on here seem to politically skirt the point in way that still benefits the women. Not that all women do this, but it's rare to find a girl that will think reasonable about gender issues.

    http://newsroom.haas.berkeley.edu/wh...re-likely-lie/http://bigthink.com/risk-reason-and-...more-dangerous
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    What source?
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Ummm....



    Your assumption about “women being gold diggers” being a common reason people get divorced holds no weight. Money is one of the common reasons people divorce, a gold digging partner isn’t. If you have anything to back up your gold digger divorce claims i’m sure people will be much happier to consider them, though it does seem to be another ill-willed assumption on your part. Making negative blanket statements about women is obviously going to piss people off.

    Edit: cherryred90s Tiger Rag since he’s asked both of you for where he made comments claiming that gold diggers are a major cause of divorce, thought this might be of use.
    I don’t know why I bother with him
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    Geez, anyone who believes this obviously has never had any real experience with women and if this is your experience, you'd be better off looking inside yourself at what makes you attract such awful people. People look for themselves in others, after all...
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    (Original post by Rottenapple12)
    ...In pre human tribal times most groups were made up of many women and one dominate man...
    What tribes existed before there were humans? Where do you get this stuff from? It certainly wasn't the article you provided a link to.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    I feel like you have said many different things lol. I thought you meant that gold-digging is the main reason for divorce, which is certainly not true lol. I did not say that BW did not care about money, the fact is you cannot say women are gold diggers if women, esp (black) women are marrying down, all the time. If that was the case, most bw would date out of their race.
    I have been consistent with my points. Read my comments, if you don't understand then ask questions. You go to uni and should be adept in the skill of discussion and engagement. I hope you don't assume wrongly and write your assumptions as what your Professors have said during the public examinations.

    To your point about black women, the other poster put it well. Many black women tend to stick to their race. Due to the slim pickings of eligible black men, most settle for not so great guys. This causes them to marry down. However, this does not mean that they don't like money, it means that they value racial propagation more than socio-economic conditions. That is they would rather want black children than marry a rich white or asian man.

    The sad truth is that eligible real black men are scarce in the black community. When you take away those in jail, those doing drugs, in gangs or petty crime, then you remove the low-skilled ones, the philanderers, black women are faced with a massive shortage of successful black men.

    Even then, some of the successful ones don't even marry these black women. They marry white, asian and latina women. Even Kanye West said it, “once he gets on, he will leave you for a white girl”.

    So with all these obstacles and with a strong need to stay within their community, some black women have no choice but to marry down. Yet, with all this, it still does not eliminate the idea of them liking money, money is just secondary to the successful ones, who already have some of it.
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    (Original post by cherryred90s)
    I don’t know why I bother with him
    Once you've taken sufficient opportunity to express and develop your views and any remaining entertainment value fades away there's not much reason. Such is the world of the internet forum. I'm watching x-files as I type this.
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    (Original post by Axiomasher)
    What tribes existed before there were humans? Where do you get this stuff from? It certainly wasn't the article you provided a link to.
    That part was from a documentary, about prehuman tribes and how they lived. I didn't include yet because I don't keep track of everything I watch.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Ummm....

    Your assumption about “women being gold diggers” being a common reason people get divorced holds no weight. Money is one of the common reasons people divorce, a gold digging partner isn’t. If you have anything to back up your gold digger divorce claims i’m sure people will be much happier to consider them, though it does seem to be another ill-willed assumption on your part. Making negative blanket statements about women is obviously going to piss people off.

    Edit: cherryred90s Tiger Rag since he’s asked both of you for where he made comments claiming that gold diggers are a major cause of divorce, thought this might be of use.
    I dont think you read properly. I wrote that a major source of divorce is FINANCE. The subset of that is where some women appear to be gold diggers.

    Why am I engaging with people like this?
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    (Original post by k.n.h.)
    I'm a bit curious of this, example? Preferably one that shows that women quite often (which I interpret as a medium to medium-large scale practice)get paid less than men? And everything between the subjects must be virtually identical (qualifications, hours worked..etc.)
    The BBC? DJs or presenters?etc.
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    (Original post by Rottenapple12)
    ...I don't keep track of everything I watch.
    Yeah, I'm kinda getting that.
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    The QI presenter Sandi someone refused to do the show unless she got the same pay as the previous MALE presenter, because she was going to get less otherwise
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    I dont think you read properly. I wrote that a major source of divorce is FINANCE. The subset of that is where some women appear to be gold diggers.

    Why am I engaging with people like this?
    Why even mention gold diggers? It had little to do with the conversation, which made it look like a petty jab. That’s why we picked up on it. If I said “a major cause for divorce is money where some men appear to spend money
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Why even mention gold diggers? It had little to do with the conversation, which made it look like a petty jab. That’s why we picked up on it. If I said “a major cause for divorce is money where some men appear to spend money
    It wont let me edit this for some reason...
    “Why even mention gold diggers? It had little to do with the conversation, which made it look like a petty jab. That’s why we picked up on it. If I said “a major cause for divorce is money where some men appear to spend money on season tickets than their wives” you’d rightly ask why the hell i’m going on about football. “ Wired_1800
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Gold digging is when money is only important. Why would you think I would date a bum? Like...are you mad? LOL. Money is important for marriage, and any guy offended by that is 9/10 times broke. Is a guy shallow because he wants to marry an attractive women?
    Gold digging is wrong because that means you're marrying the money, not the person. At least if a guy wants to marry an attractive woman, her looks are a physical part of her. Money is not even a physical part of him.

    He may as well give you his wealth and not have any contact with you. That would be good for the gold digger, because she gets to spend the money, have financial security and doesn't have to waste her time spending time with the man.
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    (Original post by Wired_1800)
    I have been consistent with my points. Read my comments, if you don't understand then ask questions. You go to uni and should be adept in the skill of discussion and engagement. I hope you don't assume wrongly and write your assumptions as what your Professors have said during the public examinations.

    To your point about black women, the other poster put it well. Many black women tend to stick to their race. Due to the slim pickings of eligible black men, most settle for not so great guys. This causes them to marry down. However, this does not mean that they don't like money, it means that they value racial propagation more than socio-economic conditions. That is they would rather want black children than marry a rich white or asian man.

    The sad truth is that eligible real black men are scarce in the black community. When you take away those in jail, those doing drugs, in gangs or petty crime, then you remove the low-skilled ones, the philanderers, black women are faced with a massive shortage of successful black men.

    Even then, some of the successful ones don't even marry these black women. They marry white, asian and latina women. Even Kanye West said it, “once he gets on, he will leave you for a white girl”.

    So with all these obstacles and with a strong need to stay within their community, some black women have no choice but to marry down. Yet, with all this, it still does not eliminate the idea of them liking money, money is just secondary to the successful ones, who already have some of it.
    I don't like your passive aggressive tone tbh. You come across as patronising a lot. Sometimes people misinterpret things differently.
    Yeah exactly, what you said was totally true. And tbh, I am quite shocked you are admitting this.
    Yeah- that's my point. They care about money, but to a certain extent. You even said they value race more than socio-economic reasons.
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    (Original post by cat_mac)
    Why even mention gold diggers? It had little to do with the conversation, which made it look like a petty jab. That’s why we picked up on it. If I said “a major cause for divorce is money where some men appear to spend money
    You can assume what you like. It was not intended as a “petty jab”. What annoys me is that some of the women have twisted the comment and started asking idiotic questions.

    If you said that a major cause of divorce is money where men spend money is a perfectly fine claim to make.

    There are many factors that amount to the financial pressures that cause divorce. Another factor is poor financial planning. For example, a man mismanaging his family’s resources and making poor financial decisions.

    A scenario is this: Joe Bloggs and Mrs Theresa Bloggs have £75,000 to put down on a property of their dreams. They had saved for 10 years and had done all the paperwork.

    Two weeks before they finalise the deal, Mr Bloggs’ mate Johnny Bone tells Joe of a cool deal that can double his money. This involves investing in Bitcoin. Joe puts this £75k in the market and loses everything.

    The day before the mortgage signing, Joe tells Mrs Bloggs that he lost all the money, which causes a major row. The loss of the money causes major financial strains on the family. From the row, Joe and Theresa continue to argue and fight until Mrs Bloggs asks for a divorce.

    Now, the reason for the divorce is financial pressures, where there was poor financial decisions on Mr Bloggs’ part. So there can be different factors that can lead to financial pressures causing divorce.
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    (Original post by snowman77)
    Gold digging is wrong because that means you're marrying the money, not the person. At least if a guy wants to marry an attractive woman, her looks are a physical part of her. Money is not even a physical part of him.

    He may as well give you his wealth and not have any contact with you. That would be good for the gold digger, because she gets to spend the money, have financial security and doesn't have to waste her time spending time with the man.
    lol.ok
 
 
 
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