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    I have a bad habit of not talking cus I don’t have very social skills .. plus I’m awkward and I wanna learn how to be more out Going you know but no in no flirtatious way .. can someone give me some tips to help me open up more ? Thanks
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    (Original post by BabyRy)
    I have a bad habit of not talking cus I don’t have very social skills .. plus I’m awkward and I wanna learn how to be more out Going you know but no in no flirtatious way .. can someone give me some tips to help me open up more ? Thanks
    Same way you learned everything else- trying.

    Keep taking little steps to be a bit more social and eventually you'll become more confident with it. Try to put yourself in some social situations even if you're not too comfortable with it. Maybe join a club or sit next to somebody in class or at lunch. Or just make a comment about the weather when you're paying for something.

    It won't be instant, but eventually you'll get more comfortable with one thing and be able to make another little step. You learned to walk and talk and count- you can learn this too. Just keep on trying and don't let little set backs get you down.
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    (Original post by BabyRy)
    I have a bad habit of not talking cus I don’t have very social skills .. plus I’m awkward and I wanna learn how to be more out Going you know but no in no flirtatious way .. can someone give me some tips to help me open up more ? Thanks
    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

    Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
 
 
 
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