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    Can you/should you judge aa current partner for their past mistakes? Say you discovered your partner had been single but had had a relationship with a taken person or any other sceneries. Do you have a right to judge that person if it was before you and they were never to repeat it again/learnt from their mistake?

    No I don't think you should judge a person, you haven't walked in that persons shoes, you haven't lived their life. People do things for strange reasons. It doesn't make them a bad person.

    However, a person is what he/she is. You cannot change the fundamental aspects of a persons personality. Its up to you whether you want to take a chance on them. Judging is different, you cannot make a judgement on a person for the things that happen in the past. They may have anger issues, attachment/commitment issues, but they may have had a damaging childhood that contributed to this. Don't judge what you can't understand, but it would be foolish of you to expect monogamy from a serial cheater.

    People make mistakes, if we all judged each other for silly things we did in the past without understanding the story behind it, we would all be very lonely.

    Hope that answers your question
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