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    So we all arranged to go out for a meal tomorrow evening. The first time we've gone out as a group but my uncle (who is like a father to me) has taken a turn for the worse in hospital and I would much rather spend crucial time with him tomorrow evening rather than go to Wetherspoons. (They know that I see him, that I'm close to him and that he's ill)

    If I message them tomorrow and let them know that I can't make it because my uncle has taken a turn for the worse and I'll be at the hospital will they think I'm just making excuses. Will they like me less? I just don't want them to think any less of me or that I purposely made an excuse just to not go with them !
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    1: this sounds like a valid excuse and they shouldn’t perceive it as an excuse

    2: if they do, they aren’t the types of friends you want. friendship involves trust and love not doubt.
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    (Original post by a_british_pie)
    So we all arranged to go out for a meal tomorrow evening. The first time we've gone out as a group but my uncle (who is like a father to me) has taken a turn for the worse in hospital and I would much rather spend crucial time with him tomorrow evening rather than go to Wetherspoons. (They know that I see him, that I'm close to him and that he's ill)

    If I message them tomorrow and let them know that I can't make it because my uncle has taken a turn for the worse and I'll be at the hospital will they think I'm just making excuses. Will they like me less? I just don't want them to think any less of me or that I purposely made an excuse just to not go with them !
    If they think any bad of you then they aren't good friends.
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    They should understand your preference if they understand your compassion for your Uncle. Also they shouldn't see it as an excuse unless you frequently cancel plans with them (highlight what the previous comment says about friendship. Very important!!)
    Even if they do think you're making excuses, at least you know yourself that you're not (?? hope that makes sense)
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    1. Why don't you message them now rather than tomorrow.
    2. I think it's fine. Why would they even perceive you in that way for something like that. You shouldn't have to worry too much about it. You can always go out with your friends another time and i'm sure they will feel the same way.
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    (Original post by a_british_pie)
    So we all arranged to go out for a meal tomorrow evening. The first time we've gone out as a group but my uncle (who is like a father to me) has taken a turn for the worse in hospital and I would much rather spend crucial time with him tomorrow evening rather than go to Wetherspoons. (They know that I see him, that I'm close to him and that he's ill)

    If I message them tomorrow and let them know that I can't make it because my uncle has taken a turn for the worse and I'll be at the hospital will they think I'm just making excuses. Will they like me less? I just don't want them to think any less of me or that I purposely made an excuse just to not go with them !
    if you want to be with your uncle you should definitely go to the hospital, making sure he is ok and spending time with him is really important. If they think thats an "excuse" then thats really selfish and rude of them
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    Your close family member is ill in hospital...if they think you're making excuses then you need better friends
 
 
 
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