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    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    You mean you just resign yourself to the fact that it’s more difficult to recover than to cocoon yourself away and stay depressed
    honestly, I don't know. It certainly feels like that though.

    But strangely, I feel okay. I do feel happy just accepting what I have.
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    you're not depressed


    you're a misanthrope, look it up
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    honestly, I don't know. It certainly feels like that though.

    But strangely, I feel okay. I do feel happy just accepting what I have.
    I’m going to say... err on the side of caution you may well be happy with your lot and giving the finger to the rest of society or depression may have pulled the wool over your eyes in the short term only for you to look back later down the line and wish you had done more? All depends on what your long term goals are as to whether what you’re feeling is actually going to harm you...
    Do you get what I mean?

    What are you doing day to day? If you’re doing a course and you’re saying I give up on life I’m going to carry on doing this course and everyone else can piss off I can’t be doing with them and that means that you’ll do well in your course instead of going out and getting pissed which means you’ll have better long term prospects then... tbh that isn’t necessarily the worst of outcomes. So where are you at in your life?
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    Depression becomes so normalised in your everyday life that it's almost like a comfort. You feel as though everyone has left you and you have nothing left but yourself and your depression. It's a lot easier to ride along with it than actually seek help.
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    (Original post by bones-mccoy)
    Depression becomes so normalised in your everyday life that it's almost like a comfort. You feel as though everyone has left you and you have nothing left but yourself and your depression. It's a lot easier to ride along with it than actually seek help.
    That's true. One sad fact about depression is only one-third of the number of people suffering from depression actually seek professional treatment.
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    Kind of, went to a doctor with anxiety once.

    I feel better this way though. It feels more liberating, I now have total acceptance of what I am, instead of complaining about it..
    Have you not been diagnosed with depression then?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Have you not been diagnosed with depression then?
    that's irrelevant.

    Being depressed makes me happy.

    Which puts me in a very difficult situation.
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    that's irrelevant.

    Being depressed makes me happy.

    Which puts me in a very difficult situation.
    It is relevant, as self diagnosis and actually having depression could be very different things. It sounds like being lazy and lounging around all day makes you happy, and that you have a pessimistic attitude, which you enjoy (and there’s nothing wrong with that). It doesn’t sound like you have a serious mental illness which makes happiness almost impossible.

    It’s a bit disrespectful to claim that you have depression and that you’re happy with depression when you don’t have anything other than an online test to confirm that you are suffering from it. People have suggested that maybe you feel complacent or like depression is easier than getting better, but those are not the same as feeling ‘happy’ which is the word you’ve chosen multiple times so I am assuming you know what it means.
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    I'm sorry but if you're happy, you're not depressed it literally is that simple.
    The ICD-10 states you must have two of the following symptoms: Depressed Mood, loss of interest and enjoyment, and increased fatiguability. From what I can gather in your post you're stating that you're actually happy and content with your life - doesn't sound like a depressed mood to me and if you're happy with your life there has to be some form of enjoyment. And you've stated that you've only been to the doctors once for anxiety which means you're self diagnosing depression - another thing which isn't healthy.

    Now I'm not denying you aren't ill, by definition you are showing 'abnormal' behaviour, deviating from social norms, statistical infrequency and deviation from ideal mental health. I just think you misunderstand what 'depression' is and if you want to claim to have an illness, please go and get professional help.

    I think there's one of two things going on at the moment, in my personal opinion.
    Either you do have depression but you're lying to yourself that your happy and content with living like this


    OR you're looking for a label for behaviour that you've identified as abnormal but depression isn't that, I agree with this:

    (Original post by Bang Outta Order)
    you're not depressed


    you're a misanthrope, look it up
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    but I do enjoy it.

    That's the whole point
    Lmao exactly
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    I WANT depression.

    Dancing, singing, drinking and socialising depress me
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    I WANT depression.

    Dancing, singing, drinking and socialising depress me
    How do you want to be depressed??? I feel like you’re really undermining people who actually suffer with depression now!!!

    Sure if you want to never socialise that’s fine, abnormal but fine. BUT DON’T CLAIM TO HAVE AN ILLNESS YOU DON’T HAVE BECAUSE YOU ‘WANT’ IT. Honestly as someone recovering from depression it actually makes me sick....
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    (Original post by Nalk1573)
    I WANT depression.

    Dancing, singing, drinking and socialising depress me
    Why would you want it though? no one wants it, not even people with depression wants it. It kinda dismisses the things that people with depression work so hard to fight against.

    Enjoyment and depression don't really go hand-in-hand, due to the fact that some of the symptoms of depression includes "Capacity for enjoyment, interest, and concentration is reduced" (source: http://apps.who.int/classifications/...e/2016/en#/F32).

    You can't really enjoy depression, as enjoyment is not there to begin with. As other advised, I suggest go and seek professional help.

    I mean, the fact that you haven't answered whether you have been diagnosed for it does raise a lot of alarms
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    It's a contradiction in terms, i don't think it's possible to "enjoy" being depressed.
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    I know where you are coming from. I have clinical depression. I have gone my whole life with depression. And quite frankly, I think it's insulting when someone says I need to go get help or see a doctor. We don't choose to be depressed, it's a disease, one that cant be cured. Treatments are available yes, but a lot of times when your down in a huge hole the only way is to go up. In my opinion, people get sad before they get happy. If anything you need someone to share the pain with. I don't take meds for my depression. But I have the best man in the world right behind me, find someone. Love is the strongest thing out there.
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    It's called wallowing and it's not healthy. Deteriorations from this point are terrible, and I speak from experience.
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    (Original post by LoveLifeAndPie)
    I know where you are coming from. I have clinical depression. I have gone my whole life with depression. And quite frankly, I think it's insulting when someone says I need to go get help or see a doctor. We don't choose to be depressed, it's a disease, one that cant be cured. Treatments are available yes, but a lot of times when your down in a huge hole the only way is to go up. In my opinion, people get sad before they get happy. If anything you need someone to share the pain with. I don't take meds for my depression. But I have the best man in the world right behind me, find someone. Love is the strongest thing out there.
    There’s a difference between making peace and managing your illness and being happy with it though. OP seems to be confusing laziness with depression, saying they like playing video games all day and don’t like going out and socialising as if that’s what depression is. They’ve said that they don’t feel sad, that they’re enjoying their life and feel happy.

    I do relate to what you’ve said though! I also have clinical depression and have gone through every therapy imaginable, tried so many meds, so when people are like “try exercising more” or “get therapy” I get irritable as hell.
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    (Original post by LoveLifeAndPie)
    And quite frankly, I think it's insulting when someone says I need to go get help or see a doctor. We don't choose to be depressed,
    I don’t really understand what you mean? Depression is an illness just like the flu (which no one chooses to have) and when we get sick we go to the doctors and
    get help. It doesn’t make you weak going to therapy at all, in fact it shows you are resilient because you refuse to be beaten down by this illness. Mild depression we can pretty much live with alone (with support from friends and family) but when someone is going through severe depression they do need to see a doctor and quite often need medication and that’s okay! There’s nothing wrong with that at all ❤️
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    ..................seek help for what ? I am happy, 100% fine.

    Really, what could cure depression ? Living the rest of your life on beach in Brazil ?? Maybe, I don't know.
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    (Original post by Fluffybunneh)
    Why would you want it though? no one wants it, not even people with depression wants it. It kinda dismisses the things that people with depression work so hard to fight against.

    Enjoyment and depression don't really go hand-in-hand, due to the fact that some of the symptoms of depression includes "Capacity for enjoyment, interest, and concentration is reduced" (source: http://apps.who.int/classifications/...e/2016/en#/F32).

    You can't really enjoy depression, as enjoyment is not there to begin with. As other advised, I suggest go and seek professional help.

    I mean, the fact that you haven't answered whether you have been diagnosed for it does raise a lot of alarms
    you can enjoy depression

    https://www.google.co.uk/search?clie....0.TYGG8P6xelA

    And my doctor reccomended that I take an SSRI and could ring Samaritans if things get really bad for me
 
 
 
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