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who is in the wrong.. me or girlfriend watch

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    (Original post by help-me333)
    Hi me and my girlfriend are constantly arguing because she thinks I dont give her enough attention.. give me some feedback on whos in the wrong sr

    Heres the background. We both are in a long distance relationship (leeds and london). I work full time in an office 9-5.30 and she works in retail so works in shifts.

    I choose to eat my lunch in my car everyday so I can call her for an hour during my break. I'll then call her again on my commute home which lasts usually 40 mins.

    When I get home, I just want to relax, il go gym, eat dinner and play ps4 with friends. During this time, I wont facetime or call her but I always try to text her, she never really responds because she feels like we should be facetiming. I try and facetime her before bed for an hour around 10ish but again shes always distant because ive apparently ignored her from me getting home at 6.30 until 10. When i havent, ive just been doing my own thing whether thats going gym, playing footy, chilling with family. However she expects me to literally want to facetime her for my entire evening after work. She doesnt seem to acknowledge my calling her at lunch or after work and claims its an obligation and its convenient for me. This leads to srguments every single day and im just sick of it

    who is in the wrong? Is it me because i literally want 2 hours to myself an evening where i can just unwind and do my own thing or is she being too clingy?
    Find a solution that works for the two of you! That's if you genuinely want to be together.


    Maybe you can decrease the amount of time using technology to manageable amounts and increase the amount of cute time socialising together.
    - Try esculation and make a plan of what the two of you want from a relationship.
    - Plan a romantic time abroad even if its just for the weekend
    - Buy her gifts if you can only meet occasionally
    - Less tech contact in exchange for more planned dates
    - Plan something that you two want for the summer that you're working towards
    - If you don't want to be together find a cute ending.

    :goodluck:
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    (Original post by Tubbz)
    Long distance relationship. She's always going to be needy. Sounds like a bit of a nause to be honest, the sort who would moan about you going out on your own if you lived together.
    People in long distance relationships aren't always needy. You just need to have an honest and open conversation about the time you spend communicating, and the time you spend to yourself. Both people need healthy boundaries that they're happy with and in that respect communicating about it is the only option. To the OP: Starting the conversation when you're not currently in a fight is much better than trying to resolve this when you're mad at each other.
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    You're both wrong. iPhones are rubbish and you should be on Android.
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    (Original post by help-me333)
    Hi me and my girlfriend are constantly arguing because she thinks I dont give her enough attention.. give me some feedback on whos in the wrong sr

    Heres the background. We both are in a long distance relationship (leeds and london). I work full time in an office 9-5.30 and she works in retail so works in shifts.

    I choose to eat my lunch in my car everyday so I can call her for an hour during my break. I'll then call her again on my commute home which lasts usually 40 mins.

    When I get home, I just want to relax, il go gym, eat dinner and play ps4 with friends. During this time, I wont facetime or call her but I always try to text her, she never really responds because she feels like we should be facetiming. I try and facetime her before bed for an hour around 10ish but again shes always distant because ive apparently ignored her from me getting home at 6.30 until 10. When i havent, ive just been doing my own thing whether thats going gym, playing footy, chilling with family. However she expects me to literally want to facetime her for my entire evening after work. She doesnt seem to acknowledge my calling her at lunch or after work and claims its an obligation and its convenient for me. This leads to srguments every single day and im just sick of it

    who is in the wrong? Is it me because i literally want 2 hours to myself an evening where i can just unwind and do my own thing or is she being too clingy?
    First of all, What's the point of being in a long term relationship if You can't have sex with them ? unless it's virtual sex, lol
    Secondly stop ringing her from your car and on your way from your commute home, she doesn't appreciate it anyway. Plus your forced into having sandwiches in the car at lunchtime because of this, just have fun eating lunch with work colleagues or going out for a proper lunch like normal people do.

    And just because you made an effort to ring her at lunchtime and on your way home you think then it's ok not to waste time ringing her when you do arrive home. Stop ringing her in your lunchtime but instead when you get home from work facetime her for 10 or 20 minutes then say I'll ring again later that way you got speaking with her out of the way then your free to do whatever you want until bedtime when you have to facetime her again but she probably won't be satisfied with that either and find something else to nag about but what do you expect ? she's a woman, lol

    It seems more like ringing/ facetiming her is a chore when it should be something you look forward to doing.
    If all this doesn't work then get a Proper girlfriend that you can actually touch and spend time with.
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    (Original post by help-me333)
    Hi me and my girlfriend are constantly arguing because she thinks I dont give her enough attention.. give me some feedback on whos in the wrong sr

    Heres the background. We both are in a long distance relationship (leeds and london). I work full time in an office 9-5.30 and she works in retail so works in shifts.

    I choose to eat my lunch in my car everyday so I can call her for an hour during my break. I'll then call her again on my commute home which lasts usually 40 mins.

    When I get home, I just want to relax, il go gym, eat dinner and play ps4 with friends. During this time, I wont facetime or call her but I always try to text her, she never really responds because she feels like we should be facetiming. I try and facetime her before bed for an hour around 10ish but again shes always distant because ive apparently ignored her from me getting home at 6.30 until 10. When i havent, ive just been doing my own thing whether thats going gym, playing footy, chilling with family. However she expects me to literally want to facetime her for my entire evening after work. She doesnt seem to acknowledge my calling her at lunch or after work and claims its an obligation and its convenient for me. This leads to srguments every single day and im just sick of it

    who is in the wrong? Is it me because i literally want 2 hours to myself an evening where i can just unwind and do my own thing or is she being too clingy?
    she is in the wrong and she is to clingy
 
 
 
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