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metal culture/social barrier
Firstly i'm just going to say i'm really crap at writing these things as i rarely express my thoughts and feelings like this so i'm just going to write whatever comes out onto the keyboard.
As a child i was bullied for generally being more intelligent than my peers and subsequently i matured with low esteem and the feeling of being an outsider. When i got into metal when i was about 10 i knew i'd love the music with a passion till the day i die, however this created a social divide in high school too, which i'm sure a lot of you know of a metalhead somewhere in academic life that you never talked to or maybe thought was a bit odd. However i made many close friends, some diehard metalheads and some not, many i am still good friends with. From about 16 onwards my love for metal became a devotion for the music, i mostly hung about with metalheads whose methods of socialising are a lot different to everyone ive met at uni. I feel as if i can't talk to any of the students i live around as they are culturally a lot different. I've made few friends at uni and feel lonely all the time, i don't feel like i could talk to any of my fellow students because i think people look at metalheads as being stupid, dirty or wierd, but i'm neither of those things, i'm intelligent, clean, down to earth, funny, caring and apparently good looking lol but meeting friends and especially women at uni has been very hard, as i think being into the metal culture has separated me from the majority of people here at uni, because of peoples views on metal head and metal music.
As a child i was bullied for generally being more intelligent than my peers and subsequently i matured with low esteem and the feeling of being an outsider. When i got into metal when i was about 10 i knew i'd love the music with a passion till the day i die, however this created a social divide in high school too, which i'm sure a lot of you know of a metalhead somewhere in academic life that you never talked to or maybe thought was a bit odd. However i made many close friends, some diehard metalheads and some not, many i am still good friends with. From about 16 onwards my love for metal became a devotion for the music, i mostly hung about with metalheads whose methods of socialising are a lot different to everyone ive met at uni. I feel as if i can't talk to any of the students i live around as they are culturally a lot different. I've made few friends at uni and feel lonely all the time, i don't feel like i could talk to any of my fellow students because i think people look at metalheads as being stupid, dirty or wierd, but i'm neither of those things, i'm intelligent, clean, down to earth, funny, caring and apparently good looking lol but meeting friends and especially women at uni has been very hard, as i think being into the metal culture has separated me from the majority of people here at uni, because of peoples views on metal head and metal music.
urm no
No, not at all! I like meeting people that are different 
Maybe you should make the effort to get to know them and let them get to know you and you will probably find out they like you (they may have pre-conceptions now but it's human nature to stereotype I'm afraid, these are far less prevalent at uni though) . Also when you get to know them you will find it easier to meet people outside of metal, just break the barrier (and it's not even a barrier really, it only exists in the mind really: you think they have sterotypes so you don't socialise easily with them, they probably think you only want to hang around with metalheads). Sorry if that was a bit of a mix mash of ideas lol.
Maybe you should make the effort to get to know them and let them get to know you and you will probably find out they like you (they may have pre-conceptions now but it's human nature to stereotype I'm afraid, these are far less prevalent at uni though) . Also when you get to know them you will find it easier to meet people outside of metal, just break the barrier (and it's not even a barrier really, it only exists in the mind really: you think they have sterotypes so you don't socialise easily with them, they probably think you only want to hang around with metalheads). Sorry if that was a bit of a mix mash of ideas lol.I see what you mean... I've had the same problem myself, except the other way round. I've always wanted to be a part of that 'metal/rock' group of people, but I don't seem to 'fit in' with them, even though I enjoy metal and rock and everything that comes with it. I've never known how to befriend people who are like me...
Elipsis
Why don't you do Physics? I've never seen anybody in there who isn't a 'metal head'.
thats so true! Never noticed that comparison before
Which university are you at?
It's probably down to the stereotype, all the metalheads I know have long hair and beards, piercings and if you didn't know them you'd think they were idiots. They are such a laugh though and they're great to hang out with. I was a bit dubious of being friends with them at first, but once I got talking to them they were ace.
Do you ever go out? Like in my University city they have a metal night which I go to every week. And there's a complete mix of people there, it's great.
No-one should judge you for the music you like or the clothes you wear, sadly of course people do, but if you talk to people I'm sure they wouldn't turn you away for it.
It's probably down to the stereotype, all the metalheads I know have long hair and beards, piercings and if you didn't know them you'd think they were idiots. They are such a laugh though and they're great to hang out with. I was a bit dubious of being friends with them at first, but once I got talking to them they were ace.
Do you ever go out? Like in my University city they have a metal night which I go to every week. And there's a complete mix of people there, it's great.
No-one should judge you for the music you like or the clothes you wear, sadly of course people do, but if you talk to people I'm sure they wouldn't turn you away for it.
i reckon i just think about these things too much lol, i'm quite an introvert really, i have no confidence or esteem and i spend most of my time in my room as i don't really go out to all these student bars and clubs because i get socially anxious in large group situations, plus the music is ****e hehe. im just lonely i guess lol
dont they have some sort of metal or rock society? at keele they've got krap
Don't they have Metal clubs and stuff there? In Leeds you're never short of rock nights to go on, for that matter you're never short of any type of music nights to go on. As far as I know Manchester's bigger so the rock scene should be bigger. I used to be into all types of rock before uni and now i've expanded what I listen to into electro, house and breakbeat. You just have to appreciate the good time you can have whilst listening to other music, it's not better it's just different so why not enjoy them all?
I'm going to Manchester tonight (Kerrang Tour! Woop!)
Yeah, like someone said, do they not have a society that you could join?
Yeah, like someone said, do they not have a society that you could join?
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