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    I’m 18 and I’ve never had a boyfriend but everyone around my age had had at least 1 serious relationship or is in a serious relationship. I know I’m young but I feel left out and unwanted. Every guy I’ve dated has just wanted to sleep with me and has never taken me seriously. I see girls who have sex on the first date get boyfriends(not that I am shaming any girls who do but usually guys look down on girls who do) and girls who don’t even try or the most meanest girls. There’s also girls who are always in a new relationship!! It’s not fair why does everyone want them? What am I doing wrong? I’m outgoing, funny and I don’t sleep around. I have goals and I’m career driven and have my own hobbies
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    You sound like a great girl ... I am sure someone will be attracted to you eventually. You have lots of attribute I would look for in a girl
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    If guys see you as little more than a potential shag, you must be rather generic. Lots of girls are outgoing, funny and don't sleep around (I do live in a pretty boring, middle class southeast town tbf). As a bloke, the only reason I would attempt to get into a long term relationship with a girl was if I felt that I'd never see anyone quite like them again and I couldn't stand the thought of some other tw*t getting hold of her. You've got to make yourself seem like a catch. There's plenty of yt vids explaining how to do this. Another tip: don't try to hard. Don't ask me why but it's an instant boner killer. From my experience, it doesn't matter how attractive, feminine or popular you are, it just makes me incredibly uncomfortable when a girl comes on too hard (some of them actually got frustrated with me and asked me if I was gay XD). Other guys just try to use you for a quick and easy shag. Having said that, don't be too uptight either as you'll be considered a stuck-up b*tch. An intresting observation I've made is that the girls who are ALWAYS in a relationship tend to "date down" a bit (poorer, uglier, stupider etc.) or go for guys who are, for lack of a better word, pussies. These relationships rarely last more than 9 months or so. If all you want is a relationship, consider lowering your standards.
    Or just chill the f*ck out, concentrate on improving yourself and wait for the right person
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    i agree with DrXavier
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    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I’m 18 and I’ve never had a boyfriend but everyone around my age had had at least 1 serious relationship or is in a serious relationship. I know I’m young but I feel left out and unwanted. Every guy I’ve dated has just wanted to sleep with me and has never taken me seriously. I see girls who have sex on the first date get boyfriends(not that I am shaming any girls who do but usually guys look down on girls who do) and girls who don’t even try or the most meanest girls. There’s also girls who are always in a new relationship!! It’s not fair why does everyone want them? What am I doing wrong? I’m outgoing, funny and I don’t sleep around. I have goals and I’m career driven and have my own hobbies
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
    haha
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    I wish I had a girlfriend. I'm 21, so...Don't feel bad. I know it sucks, but you just gotta learn to like yourself before you can expect anyone to like you.
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
    n i n e t e e n y e a r a g e g a p
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    Honestly being thicc will GURANTEE you a relationship.
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    don't be a hoe like the others
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    Tinder only has guys who want one night stands
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Tinder only has guys who want one night stands
    Indeed, don't lower your standards, it isn't worth it - you will regret this. The fact you are looking for a serious relationship tells me that tinder is probably not appropriate, and also just remember relationships - real ones require work and effort, so the fact that you have not found the appropriate person for you is unsurprising.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I’m 18 and I’ve never had a boyfriend but everyone around my age had had at least 1 serious relationship or is in a serious relationship. I know I’m young but I feel left out and unwanted. Every guy I’ve dated has just wanted to sleep with me and has never taken me seriously. I see girls who have sex on the first date get boyfriends(not that I am shaming any girls who do but usually guys look down on girls who do) and girls who don’t even try or the most meanest girls. There’s also girls who are always in a new relationship!! It’s not fair why does everyone want them? What am I doing wrong? I’m outgoing, funny and I don’t sleep around. I have goals and I’m career driven and have my own hobbies
    At your age guys mostly want an easy lay. They'll take the piss out of these girls but they'll sleep with them because they know they won't have to work at it.

    Don't get yourself upset over it. You're not doing anything wrong. You just haven't met anyone worthy of you yet. There's nothing wrong at all with wanting to be with someone who wants more than sex, and good on you for standing by that. And there's nothing wrong with having high standards of attractiveness (if you have).

    I'll say again: you aren't doing anything wrong.
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    watch this series on youtube and get back to me!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7h5...EBxrSpw3rbdbz6

    all the best.
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    (Original post by FloralLuxe)
    Honestly being thicc will GURANTEE you a relationship.
    :teehee:
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
    Lol this cracked me up
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    im here
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
    Wowee!
    How much did you earn in 2017?
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    (Original post by Marc30)
    i think we should chat some more.

    I am 37 year old, live in Newcastle and I am a qualified self-employed gardener.
    cat_mac he's moved on from you. #TheOneThatGotAway
 
 
 
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