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    For years, ive felt so uncomfortable going outside and seeing strangers. I feel like im being judged all the time from how i walk and to how i dress. I start to over think mostly when theres traffic and i feel like people are looking at me through the car windows and seriously judging me. I start to over think sooooo much. Maybe theyre staring at me because im not smiling, do i look angry, why do they dislike me? I am awks sometimes but still. Like i feel watched by everyone and i feel like people know me and my history so they think negatively of me. I feel more comfortable when im with my mum or something but that feeling is still there. I really hate it.

    I tend to look down as i walk and i feel people think im a target or insecure. So i try to look up but i hate it. I can see them looking at me negatively when i look down so i try to look at them first and thats when they turn away.

    I hate listening to music full volume with my headphones cos one time i had it at full volume and i turned it off just as this couple were about to touch me and tell me its too loud. Now i cant block thoughts because i feel like i have to turn the volume so low (can hardly hear the music) because i feel people can hear and the lyrics and stuff so they will judge me. Cos im muslim and what type of songs i listen to and everything.

    Sometimes i wanna talk to people but im so afraid of what theyll say. Asking class mates for their snapchats and thinking theyll say no to me scares me. I look so disinterested with them and thats why i havent made much friends. I made one proper friend and she didnt make me feel uncomfortable at the beginning. Anyways its kinda ruining me. Anyways the friend thing isnt really important me to anymore but its more than shyness. I must admit i can feel really insecure about my appearence and personality but sometimes i feel like im a bad ***** so i dont really think its due to that. I mean it could be.

    Is it worth going to the doctors about it

    What is it and how do i stop feeling this way
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    If people don't like you, it's really their problem. You don't need to validate yourself to anyone.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

    Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
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    (Original post by Analyst89)
    If people don't like you, it's really their problem. You don't need to validate yourself to anyone.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, you have got as much right as everyone else.

    Think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily. Relax.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance. Be happy with yourself.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what's the latest, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    Compliment them, say "I like your jacket".

    If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!
    This doesnt help. I need to stop thinking these things and i cant
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    I got the same problem. Listen to music while walking or distract yourself. Don't rely on ur clothes to make urself feel confident. U should learn to be confident of who u are no matter what u wear. So what people hate u. Most people at my new school hate me. I just don't react because that provokes them to continue to be mean. Remember ur a very little thing in a big universe. I just think people have better things to do than worry about the way I look. Just slay.
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    (Original post by FloralLuxe)
    For years, ive felt so uncomfortable going outside and seeing strangers. I feel like im being judged all the time from how i walk and to how i dress. I start to over think mostly when theres traffic and i feel like people are looking at me through the car windows and seriously judging me. I start to over think sooooo much. Maybe theyre staring at me because im not smiling, do i look angry, why do they dislike me? I am awks sometimes but still. Like i feel watched by everyone and i feel like people know me and my history so they think negatively of me. I feel more comfortable when im with my mum or something but that feeling is still there. I really hate it.

    What is it and how do i stop feeling this way
    I completely get what you're talking about. I go through periods where I feel exactly like this. Other times I feel it to a lesser extent, however it's still there. I tackle it by listening to music mostly. I hardly ever leave the house without my earphones. I don't have an answer on how to completely get rid of this problem though sadly. I would say it's definitely a symptom of social anxiety though and if you haven't already you should talk about this with your doctor.
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    My best mate stopped coming to gigs, parties etc suddenly last year and it turned out he had developed social anxiety and was too ashamed to tell us. Silly beggar. Anyway, he goes and speaks to a counsellor and it has really helped. He' not quite at 100% but he is much, much better. Maybe speaking to someone could help you?
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    For years, ive felt so uncomfortable going outside and seeing strangers. I feel like im being judged all the time from how i walk and to how i dress. I start to over think mostly when theres traffic and i feel like people are looking at me through the car windows and seriously judging me. I start to over think sooooo much. Maybe theyre staring at me because im not smiling, do i look angry, why do they dislike me? I am awks sometimes but still. Like i feel watched by everyone and i feel like people know me and my history so they think negatively of me. I feel more comfortable when im with my mum or something but that feeling is still there. I really hate it.

    What is it and how do i stop feeling this way
    I don’t have this problem but I understand why you feel this way I think because I know quite a lot about you. I will reply to this outside of TSR because what I want to mention is quite personal. I don’t really know what to suggest on here but I hope you find find the info below somewhat useful insha’Allah (if Allah wills it). Stay strong and I believe one day you’ll overcome this feeling insha’Allah <3

    http://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask...ocial-anxiety/

    http://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask...ocial-anxiety/
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    (Original post by Castro Saint)
    I completely get what you're talking about. I go through periods where I feel exactly like this. Other times I feel it to a lesser extent, however it's still there. I tackle it by listening to music mostly. I hardly ever leave the house without my earphones. I don't have an answer on how to completely get rid of this problem though sadly. I would say it's definitely a symptom of social anxiety though and if you haven't already you should talk about this with your doctor.
    I like listening to music too but i feel like people are judging me because im muslim and i shouldnt be listening to that so i lower the volume a lot. Its so frustrating!
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    (Original post by gjd800)
    My best mate stopped coming to gigs, parties etc suddenly last year and it turned out he had developed social anxiety and was too ashamed to tell us. Silly beggar. Anyway, he goes and speaks to a counsellor and it has really helped. He' not quite at 100% but he is much, much better. Maybe speaking to someone could help you?
    I dont really need someone to speak to. I just want these thoughts to disappear
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    (Original post by h333)
    I don’t have this problem but I understand why you feel this way I think because I know quite a lot about you. I will reply to this outside of TSR because what I want to mention is quite personal. I don’t really know what to suggest on here but I hope you find find the info below somewhat useful insha’Allah (if Allah wills it). Stay strong and I believe one day you’ll overcome this feeling insha’Allah <3

    http://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask...ocial-anxiety/

    http://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask...ocial-anxiety/
    Thanks sis 💕 i think i need a therapy or something
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    social anxiety comes from the thought of not feeling good enough, not having worth, feeling inadequate in comparison to others. i read the solution to social anxity book and everything made sense. i got social anxiety in sixth form was confused why, i wasnt that shy or afraid to talk to people it was cos i felt not as good as them. i went from a well bellow average secondary school to an above average sixth form. there all my peers were just way smarter than me and had better education and were aiming for grades i could only dream of (aiming for As and Bs while i was hoping to not get Us). i suggest getting the book its only a few quid and gives a really good insight and loads of ways to get over it
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    social anxiety comes from the thought of not feeling good enough, not having worth, feeling inadequate in comparison to others. i read the solution to social anxity book and everything made sense. i got social anxiety in sixth form was confused why, i wasnt that shy or afraid to talk to people it was cos i felt not as good as them. i went from a well bellow average secondary school to an above average sixth form. there all my peers were just way smarter than me and had better education and were aiming for grades i could only dream of (aiming for As and Bs while i was hoping to not get Us). i suggest getting the book its only a few quid and gives a really good insight and loads of ways to get over it
    Hi, thanks for responding. What’s the book called? Did it also help you when it came to socialising with others and shyness? Like has it improved?
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    Hi, thanks for responding. What’s the book called? Did it also help you when it came to socialising with others and shyness? Like has it improved?
    I’m improving yes but I don’t think I would get over it for a long time if I didn’t understand the not good enough factor the book is called the solution to social anxiety by dr aziz he has a podcast too.

    but try and not fall into the trap of obtaining info and not applying e.g talking to people, talking in class it it’s like trying to ride a bike can read loads of info about but will never truly learn if don’t get on one
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    (Original post by Dominoes)
    I’m improving yes but I don’t think I would get over it for a long time if I didn’t understand the not good enough factor the book is called the solution to social anxiety by dr aziz he has a podcast too.

    but try and not fall into the trap of obtaining info and not applying it it’s like trying to ride a bike can read loads of info about but will never truly learn if don’t get on one
    I just finished listening to a sample of it. Sounds convincing. Thanks again, I’ll buy it soon.
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    I think you should go see a doctor about this. I chose to see a doctor for the same reasons and they really helped and now I am getting better with my mh. With regards to advice, I agree with the other posts, that you shouldn’t need to think about what others think as you don’t know what they are thinking, and many people feel this way too so you don’t need to worry so much. But yeah if you think it is interfering with your daily life then do go see a doctor.
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