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    Hi guys,

    Really need your help, Ive been with a guy now for 3 years and not really sure what i want to do about our future. I love him and want him in the future but not right now. How do i go about this? I feel like going on a break wont end well, and what if i do and realize that I don't actually want him?

    Im just not 100% about our future but i also dont want to lose him?
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    Hi guys,

    ... what if i do and realize that I don't actually want him?

    Im just not 100% about our future but i also dont want to lose him?
    I mean, the fact that you've stated these things probably says enough.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys,

    Really need your help, Ive been with a guy now for 3 years and not really sure what i want to do about our future. I love him and want him in the future but not right now. How do i go about this? I feel like going on a break wont end well, and what if i do and realize that I don't actually want him?

    Im just not 100% about our future but i also dont want to lose him?
    Has the relationship changed at all in the 3 years, have you done anything to make it move forward?
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    You should like totally ditch him
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys,

    Really need your help, Ive been with a guy now for 3 years and not really sure what i want to do about our future. I love him and want him in the future but not right now. How do i go about this? I feel like going on a break wont end well, and what if i do and realize that I don't actually want him?

    Im just not 100% about our future but i also dont want to lose him?
    Tell him he isnt needed anymore, maybe in the near time future?
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    You dont see a future with a guy youre dating for 3 years??
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    If you're not sure - after 3 years - you shouldn't be with him. You are just keeping him as some sort of insurance policy. This is immoral., dishonest. You have to tell him you don't want to be with him anymore. Incidentally it's also unfair on you. You shouldn't settle now or in the future for someone you're only luke warm about.

    You don't know what you're risking, Some day you might/ probably will meet someone you can't live without. You don't want to have kept your poor bf hanging on do you? You don't want to find out ( heaven help you both) that you've married the wrong man, when he could have found someone who wasn't 'unsure'.

    Believe me if/ when that happens you'll not give him a moment's thought, you'll be off in a flash leaving him devastated and possibly a couple of devastated children.
 
 
 
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