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Parents don't want me to go to Uni

Hi, Im making this post to see if any others are going through this situation.

Im currently in a degree apprenticeship in IT, one day a week at Uni, 4 days at work, degree is paid for by employers etc.

Its a good opportunity, but I'm really not enjoying it, and dont see myself doing the 4 year stretch, and I want a change. I want to do a course in Media, I currently have 1 position available (just need to send my certificates) and in interview for another one, which is the main course I want.

My parents really don't want me to go to University, they want me to finish this 4 years and then do whatever, but I'm really not enjoying it, and I'm falling behind because of difficulty of the course ( as alot of the subjects are squeezed into 1 day a week ) and lack of motivation, I really want to pursue this full time course.

Every time I tell my parents about it, they just say that Im not going, or they don't want me to go, the debt, how i change my mind too often etc. And its making me second guess myself, and I feel pretty down about it. Im stressed because I don't want them to worry, and I don't want to damage my relationship with my parents, If i came home to visit, I'd want to be welcomed and not feeling distant because they didnt approve of my choice.

Anyone going through a similar situation or has any advice on how to stay motivated and pursue this course?

Thanks.
(edited 6 years ago)
Reply 1
What course do you want to do at uni? Is it media? Find out the exact reason why your parents don’t want you to go, maybe it’s because they think that going to university might not help you and in fact will ruin your current career or something. Ask them exactly why and also what course are you doing at what university? That makes a difference, some courses are honestly not worth doing.
Original post by jack33102
Hi, Im making this post to see if any others are going through this situation.

Im currently in a degree apprenticeship in IT, one day a week at Uni, 4 days at work, degree is paid for by employers etc.

Its a good opportunity, but I'm really not enjoying it, and dont see myself doing the 4 year stretch, and I want a change. I want to do a course in Media, I currently have 1 position available (just need to send my certificates) and in interview for another one, which is the main course I want.

My parents really don't want me to go to University, they want me to finish this 4 years and then do whatever, but I'm really not enjoying it, and I'm falling behind because of difficulty of the course ( as alot of the subjects are squeezed into 1 day a week ) and lack of motivation, I really want to pursue this full time course.

Every time I tell my parents about it, they just say that Im not going, or they don't want me to go, the debt, how i change my mind too often etc. And its making me second guess myself, and I feel pretty down about it. Im stressed because I don't want them to worry, and I don't want to damage my relationship with my parents, If i came home to visit, I'd want to be welcomed and not feeling distant because they didnt approve of my choice.

Anyone going through a similar situation or has any advice on how to stay motivated and pursue this course?

Thanks.


Do they not want you to go to university, or do they not want you to do media?
Take a look at the LEO [Longitudinal Educational Outcomes] statistics at the courses and institutions underwater against average earnings - with three years of career progression wasted and a whacking great student debt.
Be careful with your choices, but only you can make them.
Reply 3
Original post by peeked
What course do you want to do at uni? Is it media? Find out the exact reason why your parents don’t want you to go, maybe it’s because they think that going to university might not help you and in fact will ruin your current career or something. Ask them exactly why and also what course are you doing at what university? That makes a difference, some courses are honestly not worth doing.


I want to do a course in Film Production, which taught at a good location and allows you to get hands on experience as its taught at a real studio, It incorporates areas of interest that I have in my spare time, such as cinematography and editing, and also has a technological side to it aswell.

They dont want me to go to university because what I have now is comfortable and a good opportunity, but I simply dont enjoy it.
Reply 4
Original post by Ringstone
Do they not want you to go to university, or do they not want you to do media?
Take a look at the LEO [Longitudinal Educational Outcomes] statistics at the courses and institutions underwater against average earnings - with three years of career progression wasted and a whacking great student debt.
Be careful with your choices, but only you can make them.


They just want me to carry on doing this as I am earning money, but I just want to puruse something I am actually interested in.
Original post by jack33102
They just want me to carry on doing this as I am earning money, but I just want to puruse something I am actually interested in.


The long term "cunning plan" being?
You're in a scheme with some prospects now - even if it is hard work and you find it hardly riveting, but what are you going to do with the notorious media studies degree?
Your life, your choice; but the consequences last a lifetime.
Original post by jack33102
Every time I tell my parents about it, they just say that Im not going, or they don't want me to go, the debt, how i change my mind too often etc. And its making me second guess myself, and I feel pretty down about it. Im stressed because I don't want them to worry, and I don't want to damage my relationship with my parents, If i came home to visit, I'd want to be welcomed and not feeling distant because they didnt approve of my choice.
It's not your parents decision, it's yours. And in my view anyone who thinks the finances are a reason to not go don't understand the system well enough.
Reply 7
Original post by Ringstone
The long term "cunning plan" being?
You're in a scheme with some prospects now - even if it is hard work and you find it hardly riveting, but what are you going to do with the notorious media studies degree?
Your life, your choice; but the consequences last a lifetime.


The degree is in Film Produciton, and its at BBC media city, so you get a lot of hands on experience and insight to the industry, I want a career in production, as its a hobby of mine and interests me, I also create videos in my spare time, and have done for years.

I dont see myself with a career in IT, even though this course is a good opportunity, IT isnt a passion of mine as it used to be.

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