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Religion getting in the way of a friendship watch

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    So, I have a best friend whom I've known for 3 to 4 years. We were both born into very strict, conservative homes where religion played a huge part in our lives. But after many hours of debating and questioning our religion, we made the decision of drifting away from it together while not telling our families(which was quite painful). If I had to put a label on it, I would say we were agnostic. We were very close during this time.
    During the past year my friend has decided to convert back, which was difficult for me to accept at first because I felt a bit abandoned and, frankly, bitter. But I did my best to respect and support her decision, because I thought converting might make her happier. However, she got worryingly obsessed with religion, to the point where she would pray for hours on end and self-harm because she thought God hates her. Again, I did my best to comfort her and, from what I know, she's in a better place now mentally.

    All of that was to give context to the main problem at hand, which is that we have grown apart due to her conversion. In no way do I want to challenge or change her beliefs, but we can't have the same conversations we used to and I feel like I can't make the jokes that I used to make around her. Also, I'm pretty sure she feels guilty about that phase of our friendship, as she deleted the majority of our pictures together and has asked me to do the same. I feel like she's trying to erase a part of our friendship, that I previously looked fondly upon, which really hurts. My friend is the kindest person I have ever met and I don't want to hurt her, but I also don't want to feel bitter anymore.

    So, my question is: Should I talk to her about this (and risk hurting her) or should I just let the friendship go?

    Talk to her, it might be hard but you really should
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