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    Me and my girlfriend have been a relationship for five months now, I do love her a lot and wouldn't cheat on her but sometimes masturbating to just her isn't enough, so I masturbate to others. I don't plan to tell her, as that will no doubt stir up some conficlts here and there even after we talk about it so I decided to share here. I feel like this is wrong, and I shouldn't be doing it. Most times it bothers me that I do this, and I just feel guilty about it. What do you all think about this? Is this normal or no? If it is, then is it fine for me to continue doing it? Is it wrong? I'd highly appreciate some answers to these questions of mine and would appreciate your thoughts.
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    Me and my girlfriend have been a relationship for five months now, I do love her a lot and wouldn't cheat on her but sometimes masturbating to just her isn't enough, so I masturbate to others. I don't plan to tell her, as that will no doubt stir up some conficlts here and there even after we talk about it so I decided to share here. I feel like this is wrong, and I shouldn't be doing it. Most times it bothers me that I do this, and I just feel guilty about it. What do you all think about this? Is this normal or no? If it is, then is it fine for me to continue doing it? Is it wrong? I'd highly appreciate some answers to these questions of mine and would appreciate your thoughts.
    I've not been in relationship, but if I was your girlfriend and you told me or I found out somehow or the other, I would understand and be fine with it if I believed it was only a sexual thing to get you off and that you love and respect me. It's really no worse than watching porn in my opinion. I'd rather you not masturbate at the thought of other women too and/or watch porn, but it isn't too uncommon in context of a relationship and so whilst it isn't ideal, it isn't something that is a real cause for concern either. It's your personal business. As long as you stay faithful and treat her well, then you don't have to feel guilty about it. I think it is normal to still find other women sexually attractive, so it isn't surprising you think about them in the context of masturbation in all honesty. It is just using your imagination to pleasure yourself. I don't see the need to tell her unless you feel bad about it and want to come clean, but as you suspect, it might cause more trouble than it's worth so it is probably best to keep this to yourself. Maybe encourage your girlfriend to stir up your imagination in a suggestive way if she feels comfortable with it.
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    (Original post by JustSomePerson)
    Me and my girlfriend have been a relationship for five months now, I do love her a lot and wouldn't cheat on her but sometimes masturbating to just her isn't enough, so I masturbate to others. I don't plan to tell her, as that will no doubt stir up some conficlts here and there even after we talk about it so I decided to share here. I feel like this is wrong, and I shouldn't be doing it. Most times it bothers me that I do this, and I just feel guilty about it. What do you all think about this? Is this normal or no? If it is, then is it fine for me to continue doing it? Is it wrong? I'd highly appreciate some answers to these questions of mine and would appreciate your thoughts.
    As said above - It’s natural to do this, and/or watch porn in a relationship. It’s not wrong. That being said, I wouldn’t feel particularly great if my boyfriend intentionally told me he masturbates to other women. It doesn’t need saying unless she asks for some reason.
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    I think it is really normal actually. It is just a physical release and as the above poster said as long as you do love your girlfriend and treat her with respect and you do enjoy being with her sexually then those time that you are actually thinking about others needs to only be between you and your brain. Certainly no need to tell her...... (eventually she may be doing the same in return - you just won't know it.....plus I think it takes girls a lot longer to get to that point).
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    I’ve found its best to get a woman to perform oral sex on you and perfect if she lets you ejaculate and swallows it. I’ve had a few girlfriends but have always visited the wife of my parents’-friend for her to do that because she enjoys it and it doesn’t feel like cheating. I wouldn’t tell the girlfriend though they can be funny about these things and it’s personal for you. She’ll be thinking of someone else when she masturbates but they don’t tell you
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    Me and my girlfriend have been a relationship for five months now, I do love her a lot and wouldn't cheat on her but sometimes masturbating to just her isn't enough, so I masturbate to others. I don't plan to tell her, as that will no doubt stir up some conficlts here and there even after we talk about it so I decided to share here. I feel like this is wrong, and I shouldn't be doing it. Most times it bothers me that I do this, and I just feel guilty about it. What do you all think about this? Is this normal or no? If it is, then is it fine for me to continue doing it? Is it wrong? I'd highly appreciate some answers to these questions of mine and would appreciate your thoughts.
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    Yes it's wrong no it's not normal you need to tell her
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    I’ve found its best to get a woman to perform oral sex on you and perfect if she lets you ejaculate and swallows it. I’ve had a few girlfriends but have always visited the wife of my parents’-friend for her to do that because she enjoys it and it doesn’t feel like cheating. I wouldn’t tell the girlfriend though they can be funny about these things and it’s personal for you. She’ll be thinking of someone else when she masturbates but they don’t tell you
    that's cheating on your girlfriend though
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    I see, thanks for the thoughts.
 
 
 
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